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A67002	Of the childs portion viz: Good education. By E. W. Or, The book of the education of youth, that hath for some yeers lain in obscurity; but is now brought to light, for the help of parents and tutors, to whom it is recommended. By Will: Goudge, D.D. Edm: Calamy. John Goodwin. Joseph Caryll. Jer: Burroughs. William Greenhill.; Childes patrimony. Parts I & II	Woodward, Ezekias, 1590-1675.; Woodward, Ezekias, 1590-1675. Childes portion. The second part. Respecting a childe grown up.	1649 (1649)	Wing W3500; ESTC R221221	404,709	499

discipline revive again All these examples charge the man still and good reason that he should be accountable being principall and the head of the family the chiefest pillar in it that holds up all And though the wife be as she should be more faithfull in her place then Bibulus in his office yet the husband carryeth the chiefe name of all being the more worthy person and Lord in the house And the wife is well content with it she counted the husbands honour here and so it is And being alwayes as the Moon is sometimes with the Sun in a full aspect with her husband then she casteth the greatest lustre then she is most bright Similies must not be strained Ang●riari Parabolam too farre Wives must not shine then the brightest when the husband is farthest off though then also though not her clothes yet her vertues may shine the clearer for then her wisdome in governing and commanding doth fully appeare when the husband is farre off And her husband is knowne thereby Hee sitteth among the Elders and her owne workes shall praise her in the gates A good wife is still in full aspect with her husband Certainly it is the comeliest sight in the world To see man and wife going in all things as Peter and Iohn went to the Temple together d Act 3 1. it was spoken of before e Epist to the first part where there are cloven hearts and divided tongues there is no edifying in that house but a Babell of confusion rather But now suppose the case as it is too ordinary that the man is the weaker vessell the head goeth the contrary way it is so surcharged or the heart is so like a stone suppose the case so that the head is so distempered and Nabal-like that it cannot leade the way how then This is a crosse in the way and a great one but it must be taken up and borne and the wife must as was said f Pag. 104. speake good of it we must not chuse every day If the choice is made and the two are yoaked they must draw as well as they can and be content They must use all the skill they have to fit the yoak to their Neck else it will prove an yron-yoake Before I have chosen I may fit my choice to my mind when I have chosen I must fit my mind to my choice before things might have beene otherwise now they cannot I must not now goe Crosse to my Crosse for that is to make it a double Crosse Patience and meeknesse in bearing and forbearing g Prov. 25. 12. and 15. very notable wins much upon a contrary disposition and at length may overcome it but if not and the labour be lost yet as saith the h Chrysost Tom. 5. de Lazcon 1. Greeke Father applying it to Ministers waiting when God will give repentance the reward will not be lost no nor the labour neither for if the wife cannot better her husband yet she will make her selfe the better as the old saying is i Mariti ●●t●um aut tollendum aut f●rendu● quae tollit maritum commodorem praestat quae se●t s●se meliovem facit Aul. Gell. lib. chap. 17. and it concernes the wife as well as the husband But how bad soever the husband be his badnesse shall not beare her out nor have her excused for the neglect of her proper duties and walking with God in his wayes nothing shall plead her excuse for any neglect therein We are apt to quarrell with our blessings much more with our crosses and with that calling that God hath set us in and allotted us unto But assuredly that excuse shall leave us speechlesse though we thinke every thing will be of weight sufficient to have us excused yet we shall find it but a meere conceit nothing is of weight sufficient to excuse from the doing of duty k First part p. 174. it shall not be an excuse for the man to say Lord I had done my duty as thou commandest but that Thou gavest me a scoffing Michal nor shall it serve the wife to say Lord I had done my part had I not been yoaked to a Nabal The man failing in his dutie shall not hold the wife excused for her failing in hers If the man leades ill the woman must not follow ill it was a good answer to an abusing and an over-bearing commander Doe you what you will I will doe what I ought l 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 The headhath an head All things shall be done as you will have it but you must command as God will have it The wife looseth her fathers name and must forget her fathers house but she must not forget her Lords charge nor her vow in Baptisme nor the name was called upon her then Her head hath an Head and therefore she must say to her husband as Ignatius to the Priest All things shall be done as you will have it but then you must command as God will have it m Ignatius to a Priest Chrys Tom. 6. in vet ● Princip p. 10. Chariu● The husband must command in the Lord and so must be obeyed if otherwise yet he must not put out the eyes of his wife she hath a light to guide her besides her husbands false rule The husbands exorbitancy from his rule will be a crosse and no small one a block in the wives way and a very clog hindering that she cannot walke on with speed alacrity and comfort but is so farre from warranting the wives aberration from the way God commands to walke in that it the more binds and engageth her unto it her bond is rather the straighter as her praise will be the more And this we must still note Not to obey as we should is more dangerous to society then not to command as we should though they shall not be unpunished that are carelesse in either being both the fountaine of all humaine society If the wife must stand alone so farre from an helper that her husband is an hinderer then she stands single and charged but with her single duty I and my maidens saith a woman a Queene that had attendants answerable to her state yet she would seeke God in His owne way so should her maydens too Esther 4. 16. indeed she lived apart and therefore might much better maintaine her authority It is not easie to maintaine it there either over maidens or children where the husband in presence will foolishly and unworthily contradict or slight the same But however the wife must doe her duty I and my children I and my maidens Ester is a cleare patterne who lived apart from her Lord. And if that comes not so home A●igals carriage is exemplary who was very unequally yoaked But now for I cannot passe over this point lightly that the husband and the wife may draw even though the yoake seeme to be or indeed is uneven let them consider the husband first

Indeed there is not a more unseemely and unworthy sight then to see a wife usurp the authoritie over the man It is like a body I have sometime seen whose head was bowed down so close to the breast that behind you could scarce discern any thing but the shoulders Certainly it is a seemely sight To see t There is much in the example of a good master to make all follow his steps though he say nothing yet children and servants may see enough whereby they may be taught Chrysost in cap. 17. Gen. bom 40. ● the head stand out in sight and the contrary as unseemely And as unseemely every whit if the man demean himself unworthy of his place if he be not answerable to his honour and headship it will but disgrace him the more being like a pearle set in lead or a jewell in a swines snout a skull without braines or an head without wit It is not to be doubted but the prime dutie and the very weight of the burden lyeth upon the man It is much how he leadeth the way and draweth here for the head is the Glory and Crown of the Body and to be an Head imports a preheminence and soveraigntie it implyes also a derivation of the spirits thence to the members which being intercepted the body would quickly fall into a dead palsie Vt in corporibus si● in imperio gravissimus est morbus qui ● capite d●ss●●ditur Pl●n l. 4. cp 22. ● Morbido Capite nil sanum est aeque ullum 〈◊〉 membrum efficio suo 〈◊〉 ubi quod est principale non constat de 〈◊〉 d. Gaber l. 7. pag. 234. All which strongly argueth the mans principall charge and duty to whom belongs the headship and therefore is the principall and leading example The man by his example must lead on the wife to faith else what is one in the flesh will be two in the spirit that is divi●ed saith Chrysologus Vir conjugem deducat ad fidem ne quod un●m est ● car●● 〈◊〉 ●●● d ● sum Ser. 10. As it is in printing when on Sheet is set a thousand 〈◊〉 pr●ss●d after it so when the master hath a good impression upon him ●is 〈◊〉 is ●●sily 〈◊〉 to pr●ty If Grace that pretious oyntment be plentifully ●●●●e head and heart of the Master it will quickly distill to his skirts children and servants The man is in his place though of the lowest ranke yet in his place as the great parsons in their great seas as the Ad●irall ship that beares the Lanthorne all steare after it And indeed this man though in a low estate of life yet being out of order can blow as big and raise as great stormes proportionably in his little pond as the other doe in their great seas so Lipsius phraseth it x De Const lib. 2. chap 25. see part first p. 93. The lightnesse of my family shall be laid to my charge so my con●cience makes me feare for lacke of more earnest and deligent instruction which should have beene done Bishop Ridly to Master We● martyr p. 1569. Therefore whether the man be in high place or low it is very much how he leadeth the way for he is as one that carryeth the Lanthorne If the husband hath received the stampe of holinesse as was said y Epistle to the first part he will quickly presse his houshold with the same impression if Grace that pretious oyntment be in the head of the head in an house it will quickly destill to his skirts Children and servants A husband should know that he is not more above his wife in place then in example Therefore what is done amisse in the house will returne upon the man as most blame-worthy My conscience makes me feare that the lightnesse of my family shall be laid upon my charge for lacke of more earnest and diligent instruction which should have been done said Bishop Ridly to Master West Woe and woe againe if we by our examples should make others to stumble at the Truth So Iohn Bradford to Iohn Carelesse z Martyr pag. 1569. Pag. 1494. It is a tradition that Matthias the Apostle was used to say If a goodmans neighbour did fall into any great sinne the goodman was to be blamed for if that goodmans life had been sutable to his Rule the Word of God then had his example according to rule so awed that neighbor that he had not so falne said Clemens of Alexandria a 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Strom. l. 7. pag. 541. Much more may the same be said touching the husband and the wife the father and the child the master and the servant if any thing be amisse if things goe not straight in the family it is very likely the husband the father the master walke not according to rule but some crosse or crooked way for he is the head the leading hand The starres are eclipsed oftner then the greater lights but their eclipse we observe not but if the Sunne or Moone are eclipsed our eyes are upon them for the one rules the day the other the night Inferiors faile often in their duty but the observation is what their Superiours what their Governours doe They are in their little house as the Sunne and Moone are in the great world The little great Rulers therein Therefore it requires our Marke That it was the Man for whose faithfulnesse the Lord did undertake I know that Abraham will command his children and his household c. b Gen. 18. 19. Command marke that Command not so much by his Word though that was a command too but by example That hath more force in it more of that we call compulson Abraham will command And it was the Man that promised for himself I and my house will serve the Lord Ioshua last 15. It was the man and a man after Gods own heart that said I will walk within my house with a perfect heart Psal 101. And much reformation must follow for the removing of the wicked from his seat and sight and for the encouragement of the godly as it is plain in that place And which is more this was a great house a kingdome It was a man and one under authoritie though he had souldiers under him and they are none of the tamest creatures who did say to this man go and he went and to another come and he came and to his servant do this and he did it And to put the lowest last for indeed he was much below a Christian but quite shames him it was an old man and a darkman That had foure sonnes stout young men five daughters many servants a great retinue over all this man carried himself with such authoritie with such a Lord like command but so well tempered as his servants feared him his children reverenced him all honoured and loved him In the house you might see saith the author c Cic. de Sente the old paternall authoritie and