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A57118 Considerations concerning marriage the honour, duties, benefits, troubles of it whereto are added 1. directions in two particulars, 1. how they that have wives may be as if they had none, 2., how to prepare for parting with a dear yoke-fellow by death, or other-wife : 2. resolution of this case of conscience, whether a man may lawfully marry his wives sister? / by Edward Reyner ... Reyner, Edward, 1600-1668. 1657 (1657) Wing R1221; ESTC R3111 49,078 102

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speech_n to_o open_v their_o mouth_n with_o discretion_n prov._n 31.26_o 9.13_o prov._n 7.11_o 12_o and_o 9.13_o and_o bridle_v their_o tongue_n and_o not_o be_v as_o the_o harlot_n babble_v and_o clamorous_a who_o be_v as_o extravagant_a in_o her_o tongue_n as_o in_o her_o foot_n good_a wife_n shall_v account_v meekness_n of_o spirit_n their_o chief_a ornament_n and_o take_v heed_n they_o be_v not_o either_o 1_o proud_a or_o imperious_a in_o their_o spirit_n speech_n look_n carriage_n 2_o or_o unquiet_a turbulent_a impatient_a always_o brawl_v or_o chide_v such_o wife_n be_v neither_o credit_n nor_o comfort_n to_o their_o husband_n but_o a_o continual_a vexation_n thorn_n in_o their_o side_n and_o prick_v in_o their_o eye_n the_o contention_n of_o a_o wife_n be_v a_o continual_a drop_n 19_o prov._n 13._o and_o 27.15_o like_a rain_n that_o fall_v into_o all_o the_o room_n of_o a_o house_n which_o be_v very_o tedious_a and_o irksome_a 21.9.25.21_o prov._n 21.9.25.21_o it_o be_v better_a 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presence_n with_o you_o in_o it_o and_o for_o god_n blessing_n upon_o it_o and_o that_o god_n will_v build_v you_o a_o house_n psalm_n 127._o by_o give_v you_o hopeful_a child_n faithful_a servant_n bless_a good_n let_v husband_n and_o wife_n interest_n god_n much_o in_o their_o marriage_n by_o prayer_n reas_n 1_o because_o a_o conjugal_a condition_n can_v be_v no_o more_o comfortable_a or_o satisfactory_a to_o we_o than_o god_n make_v it_o it_o will_v be_v a_o empty_a thing_n if_o god_n do_v not_o fill_v it_o and_o bitter_a if_o god_n do_v not_o sweeten_v it_o it_o be_v not_o the_o have_v of_o a_o husband_n or_o a_o wife_n but_o of_o god_n in_o they_o or_o with_o they_o that_o give_v content_a comfort_n and_o satisfaction_n we_o ought_v in_o all_o our_o way_n to_o acknowledge_v god_n especial_o in_o marriage_n which_o be_v one_o of_o the_o chief_a of_o our_o way_n and_o a_o great_a turn_v of_o our_o life_n which_o concern_v the_o future_a comfort_n thereof_o 2_o because_o mercy_n 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