Selected quad for the lemma: duty_n
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A27966
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The Bachelor's directory being a treatise of the excellence of marriage, of its necessity, and the means to live happy in it : together with an apology for the women against the calumnies of the men.
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1696
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Wing B261; ESTC R40746
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duty_n be_v of_o very_o difficult_a practice_n and_o that_o it_o be_v better_a not_o to_o marry_v at_o all_o than_o to_o constrain_v one_o self_n to_o this_o degree_n i_o grant_v the_o difficulty_n but_o what_o will_v it_o not_o be_v scandalous_a to_o omit_v a_o thing_n which_o be_v good_a in_o itself_o and_o very_o necessary_a for_o salvation_n because_o it_o impose_v a_o indispensible_a obligation_n to_o be_v a_o good_a man_n and_o to_o live_v according_a to_o the_o maxim_n of_o virtue_n o_o god_n what_o christian_n be_v we_o be_v it_o not_o a_o thing_n which_o ought_v on_o the_o other_o side_n to_o determine_v man_n for_o marriage_n what_o method_n be_v more_o infallible_a to_o withdraw_v man_n from_o debauchery_n or_o to_o prevent_v they_o than_o marriage_n do_v not_o the_o example_n which_o be_v owe_v to_o a_o wife_n and_o child_n render_v a_o man_n more_o circumspect_a in_o his_o conduct_n marriage_n be_v bridle_n that_o keep_v man_n within_o the_o bound_n of_o sanctity_n and_o 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