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the_o second_o place_n thou_o must_v kind_o and_o with_o all_o possible_a sweetness_n admonish_v she_o of_o the_o danger_n of_o sin_n and_o of_o the_o fearful_a fruit_n and_o sad_a effect_n of_o it_o as_o that_o thereby_o she_o dishonour_v a_o good_a god_n she_o wound_v she_o own_o conscience_n she_o bring_v discredit_v to_o the_o gospel_n she_o provoke_v the_o lord_n indignation_n and_o wrath_n against_o she_o to_o her_o confusion_n if_o she_o persevere_v in_o sin_n labour_v to_o persuade_v she_o that_o sin_n have_v a_o long_a tail_n of_o judgement_n at_o the_o heel_n of_o it_o externall_n internal_a and_o eternal_a inchoated_a on_o earth_n consummate_v in_o hell_n
to_o his_o wife_n now_o this_o he_o shall_v do_v the_o more_o careful_o that_o be_v walk_v in_o a_o good_a conversation_n before_o his_o wife_n because_o most_o man_n and_o woman_n in_o the_o world_n be_v apt_a to_o be_v lead_v by_o example_n good_a or_o bad_a more_o than_o by_o precept_n the_o example_n of_o superior_n be_v of_o â—n_o attractive_a nature_n to_o inferior_n especial_o if_o the_o inferior_a do_v love_n and_o reverence_v the_o superior_a as_o the_o wife_n do_v if_o her_o heart_n be_v marry_v â—o_o her_o husband_n there_o be_v a_o intrinsical_a principle_n in_o she_o to_o carry_v out_o her_o desire_n and_o endeavour_n to_o tread_v in_o his_o step_n she_o will_v endeavour_v â—o_o imitate_v her_o husband_n in_o his_o word_n and_o action_n the_o wife_n of_o jacob_n be_v bring_v up_o in_o idolatry_n but_o they_o have_v better_a example_n set_v â—hem_n by_o their_o husband_n of_o worship_v the_o â—ue_v god_n they_o will_v be_v of_o his_o religion_n their_o â—ather_n worship_v 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worse_a than_o all_o that_o be_v before_o he_o and_o then_o in_o ver_fw-la 30._o it_o be_v say_v that_o ahab_n the_o son_n of_o omri_n do_v evil_a in_o the_o sight_n of_o the_o lord_n above_o all_o that_o be_v before_o he_o where_o by_o the_o way_n we_o see_v the_o son_n imitate_v the_o father_n in_o his_o wicked_a way_n now_o as_o ahab_n be_v a_o worshipper_n of_o false_a god_n so_o he_o be_v a_o enemy_n to_o the_o prophet_n of_o the_o true_a god_n for_o proof_n whereof_o mind_n the_o 9_o 10._o and_o 17._o verse_n of_o the_o 18._o chap._n of_o 1_o king_n also_o chap_n 21.20_o so_o again_o in_o chap._n 22.8_o where_o he_o plain_o say_v he_o hate_v micaiah_n but_o observe_v how_o his_o accurse_a wife_n jezebel_n follow_v his_o vile_a way_n of_o persecute_v elijah_n she_o hate_v and_o seek_v his_o life_n 1_o king_n 19.2_o but_o if_o it_o be_v say_v it_o be_v to_o no_o purpose_n this_o way_n to_o insert_v passage_n of_o wickedness_n relate_v to_o omri_n and_o ahab_n they_o be_v not_o 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observe_v this_o he_o play_v the_o close_a hypocrite_n and_o bid_v as_o fair_a to_o maintain_v the_o name_n and_o form_n of_o a_o christian_a as_o other_o do_v but_o he_o detain_v a_o part_n of_o the_o money_n in_o a_o private_a way_n for_o to_o maintain_v he_o and_o his_o wife_n yet_o pretend_v and_o affirm_v the_o contrary_a his_o wife_n saphira_n follow_v his_o example_n of_o hypocrisy_n join_v with_o he_o in_o false_a affirmation_n and_o so_o both_o perish_v together_o act_n 5.1_o to_o the_o end_n of_o ver_fw-la 10._o belove_a thou_o that_o be_v a_o husband_n as_o chief_o in_o relation_n to_o god_n and_o thy_o own_o soul_n have_v need_v to_o walk_v accurate_o with_o all_o circumspection_n in_o the_o whole_a course_n of_o thy_o life_n to_o beware_v of_o any_o scandalous_a way_n out_o of_o pity_n to_o thy_o poor_a yokefellow_n that_o by_o thy_o example_n thou_o lead_v she_o not_o into_o the_o way_n of_o sin_n and_o so_o to_o hell_n for_o ever_o without_o the_o infinite_a and_o 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husband_n have_v these_o grace_n these_o qualification_n and_o divine_a operation_n o_o how_o will_v a_o gracious_a wife_n heave_v and_o strive_v pant_v after_o and_o gasp_n for_o spiritual_a vigour_n in_o the_o strength_n of_o god_n to_o imitate_v the_o same_o in_o her_o sweet_a precious_a heavenly_a and_o angelical_a husband_n ah_o dear_a heart_n let_v i_o beg_v of_o thou_o and_o beseech_v thou_o with_o all_o the_o obsecration_n in_o the_o world_n that_o thou_o will_v give_v thy_o wife_n no_o worse_o example_n than_o those_o for_o hereby_o thou_o shall_v glorify_v god_n edify_v and_o build_v up_o thy_o wife_n in_o grace_n discharge_v a_o grand_a matrimonial_a duty_n and_o gain_v demonstration_n of_o thy_o present_a gracious_a condition_n here_o and_o
of_o thy_o future_a tranquillity_n glory_n and_o bliss_n at_o the_o right_a hand_n of_o thy_o dear_a saviour_n in_o heaven_n to_o all_o eternity_n hereafter_o in_o the_o six_o place_n wife_n the_o six_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n it_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n to_o bear_v with_o her_o infirmity_n we_o that_o be_v strong_a ought_v say_v the_o apostle_n to_o bear_v the_o infirmity_n of_o the_o weak_a rom._n 15.1_o and_o peter_n in_o 1_o pet._n 3.7_o say_v the_o woman_n be_v the_o weak_a vessel_n ergo_fw-la a_o man_n ought_v to_o bear_v with_o the_o infirmity_n of_o his_o wife_n but_o the_o question_n be_v what_o fault_n may_v be_v say_v to_o be_v infirmity_n to_o be_v bear_v with_o in_o any_o in_o general_a and_o in_o the_o woman_n in_o particular_a i_o answer_v these_o and_o such_o like_a as_o forgetfulness_n of_o some_o material_a business_n some_o unusual_a neglect_n of_o duty_n to_o the_o husband_n child_n or_o servant_n some_o waste_a and_o spoil_v of_o the_o creature_n contrary_a to_o custom_n former_o or_o purpose_n then_o or_o some_o not_o ordinary_a break_v his_o forth_o into_o extravagant_a and_o exorbitant_a passion_n heat_n and_o choler_n of_o the_o last_o kind_n we_o shall_v find_v two_o very_a sad_a precedent_n from_o two_o gracious_a woman_n and_o of_o two_o pattern_n of_o admirable_a patience_n in_o their_o husband_n the_o first_o be_v the_o extreme_a but_o groundless_a passion_n of_o sarah_n former_o sarai_n raise_v against_o her_o husband_n abraham_n 6._o gen._n 16_o 2_o 3.4_o 5_o 6._o we_o shall_v abbreviate_v the_o divine_a history_n sarai_n be_v barren_a and_o age_a she_o despair_n of_o be_v natural_a mother_n to_o any_o child_n who_o do_v therefore_o desire_v to_o be_v the_o repute_a mother_n of_o child_n she_o make_v a_o motion_n such_o a_o one_o as_o it_o be_v unto_o her_o husband_n to_o go_v in_o to_o her_o maid_n hagar_n abraham_n hearken_v to_o her_o voice_n and_o do_v it_o hagar_n conceive_v then_o be_v elevate_v in_o herself_o and_o cast_v off_o due_a honour_n from_o her_o mistress_n which_o she_o discern_v be_v present_o full_a of_o passion_n and_o vent_v it_o very_o uncivil_o into_o the_o bosom_n of_o her_o husband_n and_o speak_v thus_o that_o be_v my_o wrong_n be_v upon_o thou_o i_o give_v thou_o my_o maid_n into_o thy_o bosom_n and_o when_o she_o see_v that_o she_o have_v conceive_v i_o be_v despise_v in_o her_o eye_n thâ—_n lord_n judge_n between_o i_o and_o thou_o well_o saraâ—_n what_o be_v the_o matter_n here_o be_v a_o great_a complaint_n out_o who_o have_v do_v thou_o the_o wrong_n what_o abram_n no_o he_o poor_a man_n be_v innocent_a in_o comparison_n of_o thyself_o what_o a_o false_a charge_n iâ—_n here_o draw_v up_o against_o abram_n what_o clamour_n upon_o it_o what_o appeal_v to_o god_n about_o it_o but_o how_o do_v abram_n demean_v himself_o in_o the_o condition_n true_o singular_o well_o he_o beat_v wiâ—_n this_o infirmity_n in_o his_o wife_n he_o know_v this_o wâ—_n not_o the_o frame_n and_o temper_n of_o her_o spirit_n anâ—_n therefore_o answer_v very_o mild_o and_o say_v to_o be_v behold_v thy_o maid_n be_v in_o thy_o hand_n do_v to_o she_o at_o please_v thou_o the_o second_o sad_a precedent_n as_o beforesaid_a be_v that_o of_o the_o carraige_a of_o zipporah_n to_o her_o husband_n moses_n ex._n 4.19_o 20_o 21_o 25_o 26_o moses_n be_v command_v by_o god_n to_o leave_v the_o land_n of_o midian_a and_o to_o return_v into_o egypt_n about_o the_o deliver_n of_o the_o child_n of_o israel_n out_o of_o bondage_n he_o take_v his_o wife_n and_o son_n and_o the_o rod_n of_o god_n in_o his_o hand_n and_o begin_v his_o journey_n but_o be_v have_v neglect_v the_o observation_n of_o a_o special_a ordinance_n of_o god_n viz._n the_o circumcise_n of_o his_o son_n god_n say_v the_o text_n meet_v he_o in_o the_o inn_n and_o seek_v to_o kill_v he_o where_o note_n by_o the_o way_n that_o it_o be_v a_o dangerous_a thing_n for_o a_o man_n to_o take_v a_o journey_n though_o upon_o as_o lawful_a a_o occasion_n as_o can_v be_v with_o the_o neglect_n of_o a_o duty_n or_o the_o guilt_n of_o any_o sin_n lie_v on_o the_o conscience_n unrepented_a of_o moses_n you_o see_v be_v in_o great_a danger_n of_o death_n and_o his_o wife_n know_v the_o cause_n of_o it_o take_v a_o sharp_a stone_n and_o cut_v off_o the_o foreskin_n of_o her_o son_n and_o throw_v it_o at_o his_o foot_n with_o these_o word_n sure_o a_o bloody_a husband_n be_v thou_o unto_o i_o which_o be_v a_o very_a contemptible_a contumelious_a uncivil_a and_o unmannerly_a behaviour_n in_o she_o yet_o he_o be_v silent_a bear_v with_o her_o infirmity_n and_o no_o doubt_n but_o he_o do_v consider_v there_o lay_v a_o sad_a temptation_n on_o her_o spirit_n and_o withal_o be_v conscientious_a of_o his_o own_o sin_n against_o god_n and_o so_o sweet_o pass_v by_o his_o wife_n weakness_n now_o these_o infirmity_n which_o a_o husband_n out_o of_o duty_n to_o his_o wife_n must_v bear_v with_o must_v not_o be_v public_a nor_o give_v scandal_n and_o offence_n to_o other_o nay_o whatever_o they_o be_v he_o must_v take_v a_o fit_a opportunity_n to_o give_v she_o a_o sweet_a reproof_n for_o such_o a_o husband_n as_o be_v in_o a_o passion_n for_o his_o wife_n infirmity_n will_v make_v such_o a_o smoke_n in_o his_o house_n as_o shall_v disturb_v all_o in_o or_o near_o it_o the_o discretion_n of_o a_o man_n defer_v his_o anger_n and_o it_o be_v his_o glory_n to_o pass_v by_o a_o transgression_n prov._n 19.11_o wife_n the_o seven_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n the_o seven_o duty_n the_o husband_n do_v owe_v unto_o his_o wife_n be_v due_a maintenance_n in_o all_o thing_n both_o inward_a and_o outward_a for_o her_o comfortable_a bodily_a subsistence_n here_o both_o in_o life_n and_o livelihood_n for_o supportation_n of_o health_n while_o it_o be_v enjoy_v and_o for_o restoration_n of_o it_o when_o decay_a and_o this_o to_o be_v perform_v with_o as_o much_o dearness_n of_o affection_n and_o tenderness_n of_o heart_n as_o to_o himself_o which_o duty_n the_o apostle_n clear_o require_v husband_n to_o perform_v to_o their_o wife_n eph_n 5.28_o 29._o so_o ought_v man_n to_o love_v their_o wife_n as_o their_o own_o body_n be_v that_o love_v his_o wife_n love_v himself_o for_o no_o man_n ever_o yet_o hate_v his_o own_o flesh_n but_o cherish_v and_o nourish_v it_o even_o as_o christ_n do_v his_o church_n now_o we_o know_v all_o man_n will_v nourish_v their_o own_o body_n with_o such_o meat_n and_o drink_v and_o physic_n with_o such_o preservative_n and_o restorative_n of_o health_n as_o be_v necessary_a and_o they_o will_v cherish_v their_o own_o body_n with_o such_o apparel_n as_o may_v not_o only_o keep_v they_o warm_v in_o their_o body_n but_o be_v some_o delight_n unto_o their_o mind_n the_o same_o for_o kind_n and_o measure_n for_o quality_n and_o quantity_n they_o must_v allow_v unto_o their_o wife_n if_o it_o be_v of_o necessity_n or_o 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the_o apostle_n say_v that_o he_o be_v worse_a than_o a_o infidel_n that_o do_v not_o provide_v for_o his_o own_o family_n 1_o tim._n 5.8_o now_o if_o the_o whole_a family_n must_v be_v provide_v for_o as_o none_o dare_v deny_v then_o much_o more_o she_o who_o in_o thy_o absence_n be_v the_o head_n of_o the_o family_n and_o in_o thy_o own_o presence_n thy_o right-hand_a mate_n what_o encouragement_n can_v thy_o wife_n have_v to_o seek_v thy_o good_a when_o thou_o shall_v in_o whole_a or_o in_o part_n neglect_v she_o beside_o when_o thou_o shall_v especial_o with_o cheerfulness_n allow_v thy_o wife_n all_o due_a and_o necessary_a maintenance_n for_o her_o comfort_n and_o encouragement_n in_o this_o life_n if_o she_o
have_v any_o ingenuity_n of_o nature_n in_o she_o she_o will_v soon_o give_v the_o fruit_n of_o the_o same_o into_o thy_o bosom_n by_o a_o more_o vigorous_a and_o dexterous_a put_v forth_o her_o utmost_a ability_n to_o serve_v help_v and_o comfort_v thou_o in_o all_o thy_o various_a condition_n but_o it_o herein_o thou_o who_o be_v her_o husband_n be_v niggardly_o penurious_a and_o base_a heart_a and_o hand_v towards_o thy_o wife_n thou_o may_v perhaps_o though_o it_o be_v her_o sin_n have_v such_o poor_a return_n that_o thou_o shall_v not_o crack_v of_o thy_o gain_n and_o incomb_n but_o be_v thou_o persuade_v that_o maintenance_n be_v the_o wife_n due_a and_o be_v thou_o careful_a to_o discharge_v that_o debt_n wife_n the_o eight_o duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n the_o eight_o duty_n which_o the_o husband_n do_v owe_v unto_o his_o wife_n be_v to_o labour_v to_o be_v a_o instrument_n under_o god_n to_o protect_v she_o from_o all_o injury_n wrong_n insolence_n and_o contumelious_a abuse_n that_o any_o of_o the_o son_n or_o daughter_n of_o belial_n shall_v put_v upon_o she_o to_o the_o utmost_a of_o his_o power_n in_o eph._n 5.23_o the_o apostle_n tell_v we_o that_o the_o husband_n be_v the_o head_n of_o his_o wife_n even_o as_o christ_n be_v the_o head_n of_o his_o church_n and_o he_o be_v the_o saviour_n of_o his_o body_n where_o take_v notice_n that_o first_o this_o duty_n of_o a_o husband_n protect_v his_o wife_n be_v employ_v second_o a_o precedent_n propound_v to_o incite_v we_o to_o the_o performance_n of_o it_o first_o this_o duty_n be_v employ_v the_o husband_n be_v denominate_v to_o be_v the_o head_n of_o his_o wife_n now_o the_o head_n do_v labour_n to_o foresee_v first_o the_o danger_n the_o body_n be_v in_o second_o to_o contrive_v mean_n to_o prevent_v it_o and_o three_o to_o project_n and_o contrive_v some_o mean_n afterward_o for_o the_o remove_n of_o the_o evil_a if_o it_o fall_v and_o thus_o must_v a_o husband_n labour_n to_o do_v in_o relation_n to_o his_o wife_n he_o must_v labour_v to_o foresee_v what_o wrong_n may_v fall_v upon_o his_o wife_n beforehand_o lest_o they_o come_v unaware_o second_o he_o must_v wise_o prevent_v they_o if_o he_o can_v which_o if_o he_o can_v then_o in_o the_o three_o place_n he_o must_v labour_v to_o remove_v they_o and_o so_o to_o ease_v his_o wife_n from_o the_o burden_n of_o they_o second_o here_o be_v a_o precedent_n propound_v to_o incite_v the_o husband_n to_o labour_v to_o protect_v his_o wife_n and_o that_o from_o the_o example_n of_o christ_n himself_o christ_n be_v the_o saviour_n of_o his_o body_n the_o church_n which_o be_v his_o spouse_n so_o must_v the_o husband_n labour_n to_o defend_v and_o protect_v his_o wife_n his_o spouse_n his_o body_n yet_o further_o be_v we_o to_o labour_v this_o to_o do_v even_o from_o the_o practice_n of_o very_a heathen_n the_o wife_n of_o potiphar_n tell_v a_o seem_a fair_a tale_n but_o it_o be_v a_o most_o diabolical_a lie_n to_o her_o 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