Selected quad for the lemma: duty_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
duty_n	affection_n	child_n	parent_n	2,013	5	8.8735	4	true

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A00001	[The passoinate [sic] morrice]	A., fl. 1593.	1593 (1593)	STC 1; ESTC S115782	48,724	70

for well and what greater charge woulde this haue brought he had a care to liue or else hee would haue sought to loue without respect for who knowes not that she is as able to satisfie a mans desire that hath little as she that hath much if we onely regarde pleasure Take this on Hone●●ies credit that hee that buildes his loue on such reason as hauing little hée will chose one that hath somewhat wil proue a better match vnto thée then him that brings mountaines Beware when lou● is vpholden with maintenance if the heart remembers I am thus much beholden vnto her shée loued mée or else shée would neuer haue matcht with me she made me a man being before worse then nothing how much better might she haue done if she had not béen led with affection and such like It will also remember the duetie this kindnes requireth euen like for like least the worse crie shanie of him How happie should parents be were this in their rememb●●nce at their mariges making how blessed should their children be if the like practises were vsed and what a florishing commonwealth would that be where equalitie of birth which alwaies should bée regarded specially on the mans side should bée linked to abundance whereby the number of gentle beggers should be decreased and the misgouernement of wealth will be auoided One man should not haue his cofersful and twentie want it that better deserue it How many able men should we haue if this were vsed to serue and set forth men for the princes seruice where now I am but one man and I am bound but to my stint to finde one mans charge though I haue fiue mens liuings But no more this is too serious for Honestie I meruaile how I fell into this vaine since I studied to bee pleasant What thinke you did my widdowe after her search of enquirie for you must thinke that the b●tcheler longed for his answere Marry though she was not a fore in her spéeches yet shée proued no lesse in her dooing for now shée kept her house as closely as hée dooth his holde craftely She mislikt of the man for what cause gesse you if you knew as much as I knowe you would sweare not for lack of honestie or because he was vnthristie But wil you knowe whie he had not the hundreds lying by him as the reporte went shée had left her and therefore shée thought it néedeles any one should lose so much labour as to fulfill her promise in carrying his answere Yet if that were all it were well I and it had béen well for him for the sauing of shoo lether if she would haue spoken with him at his comming to fetche it But my widdowe would not be within or else she was busie and thus was his kindenes requited Now ●●e of the diuell is this a méete reward for affection nay suppose it be no more the good will was it well requited Me thinkes that if his dog had come h●e deserued better entertainement then to haue béen beaten away and shee had dealt better if shée had sent himselfe away with a crabbed answere then so vn●anne●ly to vse him by sléeueles ercuses And well it were if shee had no more fellowes but out vpon them there are too many such whose coye nicenes e●presse their mischieuous fondenes for speake they will with any man that come vnles a Herald fore runnes the sewtor In my opinion and it shall bée grounded vpon reason such widdowes are worthie to sit while their bréeches growe to their seates as refuse to answer all conuners of what degrée soeuer and because I promist you reason th●● shall be it Who knowes not that whosoeuer su●s for the like match winneth a thousand incombrances with his good spéede for he that knowes not that care shal be mingled with his best contentment shall fall into a pitte before he beware of it And who were it not for his soules health would imbrace such an inconuenience for a little commoditie I and the best mariage is but a little commoditie in respect of the continuall carking that comes with it If then as who saies it is otherwise a man makes so great suite for so small hearts ease respecting the earthly pleasure deserues not he a good countenance or at least a welcome that longs for so bad a bargaine In my iudgement and it shall ●umpe with mine opinion that woman ●● much more beholden to the man that would match with her then to her parents that haue brought her vp for they did what ere they did of duety this doth what might be vndone of mere deuotion Why thinke the best you can thinke for your selues suppose one that hath nothing comes to craue your loue did he only respect your wealth without his owne welfare and hée that thinkes to haue welfare without dealing wel with you he reckens without his hostesse and shal finde a new bil of charges had he not much better to hazsurd the taking of a purse by the high way Yes doubtles for were hée by that means brought vnto miserie he might haue death at his cal to rid him from extremitie but now being grieued vncessantly he may séeke for death but méete with the diuell hope for an ende but féele the want of it continually Yet come we to one further point imagine some men that bée ouer-unruly desire to haue accesse into your companie if you knowe them for such companions I would holde you vnwise to admit them into your presence but shall your hart but say I suspect without trial you cannot out-runne the crime of want of descretion It is best therefore you that feare such resorte to harbour your selues during the time of the heate of the market in such places as the countenances of your protectors shall preuent suspect and disparage the practise of such vndecent behauiour or otherwise to appropriate vnto your houses such helpes as shall bée likely to forestall the like mischiefe That euery one may bee answered is Hone●●ies meaning for vnles they bee they haue not their due nor doo ●ou shewe your selues to de inriched with that cur●esie which wi●dowes descretion dooth challenge For let me tell you and ensure as many as knowe it not that a man shall finde more pleasure in lying in the campe being dayly threatned with the bullets of his enemie then in lodging with a wise vnles his wisdome be the greater And I knowe you looke for my reason then for this cause for that their vnconstancie bréedes more feare then the shot brings hurt and their tender heart will craue more gouernement to content them then the other will aske forecast to preuent the danger they bring with them For a stéele coate resistes the harme of a musket but what garment shall out stand her threatning of the horne That man amongst Souldiers is counted accurst that is strucken with a great shot and that husband thrise blest among married men that is not

the consent of Parents but abhorres such loue as is built on their liking if there be no remedie but that either they shall like or thou wilt not loue let him haue thy Fathers good will before he obtaines thy countenance for doubtles she that will entertaine louers and repay their courting with kindenes will care as little for her fréends counsell hapning on a mate she can fancie as the horse wil for haye that hath his manger full of prouender And what is the cause why so many stande so curiously on their fréends consent nought forsooth but the presumption of a double baite that being sure of their countenance they may be assured of an other dinner if their owne likes them not or otherwise to haue a hole to hide a For in for that her owne denne is not secret enough If her Husband controlle her for any misdemeanour or reproue her of any dishonest behauiour then on goes her pantoples building the reckoning of her honesty on her fathers countenance so far presuming of his bounden duetie for the match making as if he kept the keye of her huswiferie Her long toung vtters large spéeches standing at defiance vnder the banner of her Fathers defence and his house must be her Castell to kéepe her from her Husband This is the commoditie a man shall reap by such a match and this is their meaning that would couer their rebellion with the cloak of obedience Is not he wel preferred that is so well married and how can he mend it Marry no way but this that he which is mated with the like inconuenience to learne more wit against the next time striuing in the meane time to please both her and her fréends since he had so much reason to woo both her fréends and her to be bound to so bad a bargaine It is follie quoth a wise man to be sorrowful for things irrecouerable and Honestie thinkes it madnes to repent for déedes done whereof her selfe is culpable can any man be so witles especially in matter wherein wisedome is so much required as to doe and wish vndoone in a moment yea d●ubtles Honestie knowes such they being the hotte spurres of our age that thinke euery day a twelue moneth vntill they be married and after they are matched euery houre seauen yéeres vntill they are parted It was hotte loue that will be so soone colde some of you will say but I say if it bad béen hot loue as it was burning lust it would not haue béen so soone colde For whereas y● prouerb goes that hot loue wil be soone colde it is ment by such affection as wants matter therby to continue longer For as that is the purest wood which yéelds the perfectest heat and y● purer it is the sooner it wil be it own destruction leauing the sitters by without fire vnles a fresh supply be as néede requires added so wil our hotte loue whose kindled affection is come vnto it perfection the hart being on such a blaze as euery part of it is on a light flame decay as reason and nature requireth vnles new faggots of kindenes adde fresh matter for fiering the supply thereof remoning all suspition of want of affection How pure y● loue is where there is so light a regarde of proffered kindenes as my Fathers will or my Mothers leaue must be a Spurre to my liking let euery one iudge that knowes loue But ●n my opinion as I confesse that the duetie we owe to our Parents may doo muche where the knowledge thereof bindes to obeye so must I confirme that loue is a duetie himselfe b●nding to so great obedience and tying with such strong conuaiances as he remoues all thoughts of lower dueties I tearming al dueties lower for that by commaundement those dueties must be reiected in respect of the louing duetie that a Husband shall require Now how far my nice Mimon was from knowing this duetie her coye demeanour and cunning behauiour hath manifested Yet how happie was my youth at l●st to be rid of such a monster And monster may I tearme her in respect of her lewde behauiour for was it not much better that her inconstancie should haue béene knowen before he was fast linked vnto her then it should haue béene found when it had béen incurable Doubtles it was a good cause he had to double his orisons vnto loue for so louingly preseruing him from so pestilent a prittie-bird I should haue said pricking-burre or paultry bauble BVt to come to my second couple which were seated opposite to these in an other corner being a lustie widdower that was courting a gallant wench both of them being highly beholding to nature for her liberall skill in their making which were thus placed She was set down ouerlooked by him standing before her hauing ●ne of his hands leaning on her lap and the other resting on the w●l hauing therby as I gesse the more libertie to vse his pleasure in bestowing kinde kisses and louing fauours so he wa● seated and thus he began to sue Faire Maide quoth he I know my experience to be greater then your practise for that I haue tried rules me by reason hauing loued and liued with my loue vntill by the fates I was bere●ued of that fruit so well liked I of my last losse as my former good hap bréeds an assured hope of the like good fortune that being a helpe to further my will and a meane to make a now choise which change what good it shal yéeld your selfe shall challenge whose good reporte hath bound me to commence my deserts to receiue their censure by your doome To boast what I am were frinelous for that your fréends are alreadie priuie to my estate and to say how well I loue you were booteles for that women loue to trie ere they trust yet vnles I should say more then I haue saide I should séeme to say nothing though to say more then is spoken already were ●éerely foolish For thus stands the case I haue made choise of you for my second wife and haue already your fréends good will there restes therefore nothing but a confirmation of your duetie in agréeing to that they haue confirmed thus conuning to a full point he closed vp his period with a brace of smirking kisses which wrought with his Louer as a strong pyll dooth with a sore sicke patient namely they forced her to answere him thus threwdely The assurance of your good fortune Sir hath made you highly beholden to her deitie that dauncing in the morrice of good matches you should be led by her to so good hap but belike it was ouer good to continue long either her kindenes being ouermatched with your vnconstancie or your good happe ouer ruled by fortunes cruelty They euer change and lightly neuer but for the worse which the rather séemes so vnto me by the sure knowledge I haue of your second choice that is so far vnequall to your reported first match as I know your liking would