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A87320	Imitation and caution for Christian woman: or, The life and death of that excellent gentlewoman, Mrs. Mary Bewley; who departed this life (her only son having finished his course the 9th. of December before) on the first of Febr. 1652/3. Recommended to the reader, by the reverend and eminently learned Doctor Reynolds.	Reynolds, Edward, 1599-1676.	1659 (1659)	Wing I55; Thomason E968_10; ESTC R207701	17,874	23

concerning her sons death for those medicines which prudently were omitted to him were administred to her self and did only help her to dye the more sensibly and with the more pain she exhorted others to learn by her example to beware of setting their hearts on any creature and that they would strive to glorifie God while they live that they would redeem their time and make their acquaintance and peace with God before they lye down on their death-bed During her sicknesse she had great bodily pain so that she seldome slept and no small trouble of mind concerning her future estate being assaulted in her weaknesse by that slie roaring and cowardly Divel whom she overcame by the Lamb of God in which expression she delighted that taketh away the sins of the world and though she complained for want of assurance and the comfort that doth attend it yet she did receive look to embrace and anchor her hope on Christ and durst appeal from Satan unto God that she had lov'd him with all her heart and had endeavoured through much weaknesse said she to walk before him in righteousness and holiness and that she had prized his favour before life and would not adventure on the least sinne for all imaginable contentment she satisfied her self in the satisfaction of Christ and in that he was a merciful and faithful high Priest that came to destroy the works of the Divel And if in the height of her bodily distemper the vapours fuming up to her head she spake any thing amisse of her self which is no * new thing and its better to go out of the world troubled than lulled by Satan in a holy sollicitude than in a carnal security she afterward remembred and bemoaned it and acknowledged that God was a holy and just Soveraign in letting her finde he had sharper rods for his people than the death of a sonne and that it is folly to stand it out against God All Sabbath night she put away sleep and prepared to launch into that boundlesse Ocean eternity and therefore proposed all her objections fears and doubts that she might have resolution laid open the temptations of the Divel that she might know how to repel them and freely confessed all her sinnes in some of which most live without taking much notice of them which her tender conscience aggravated to the full and when she could not remember any moe she begg'd a friend to help her in this her search and when he could not then she turned her speech to God saying O thou God search me and try me and let me not dye in one unrepented for sin let me not deceive my self O gracious God what shall I do I will anchor my faith on Jesus who hath been favourable to others and why not to me She prayed earnestly for pardon of sinne and that she might have her soul for a prey And of this she expressed her hope hoping that she had all her hell in this life meaning that nights agony and that notwithstanding all her fears she should go to heaven comforting her self in the remembrance of a most holy upright old Disciple who had gone to heaven without assurance what a joy doth she now finde in being delivered from all her fears and how greatly doth it set off heaven to travel to it through the Suburbs of hell and now all her doubts and temptations being answered and she silenc't she did rest all Monday satisfied in great calmnesse of minde giving directions concerning her body after death and other affairs and was not heard after that nights conflict to speak doubtfully or fearfully of her eternal salvation About seven of the clock at night finding her convulsion fit to seize on her she desired one to pray with her and after being asked if she heard and had joyned in spirit answered yea And I thank God I have delighted in prayer One desiring her to speak something of Jesus Christ she knowingly and affectionately spake of his natures and offices and afterward taking a draught of cordial jullep she paused and shut her eyes as she was wont to do to beg a blessing on it and being asked her thoughts answered feelingly giving thanks unto the Father who hath made us meet to be partakers of the inheritance of the Saints in light And so the convulsion fit encreasing and the pangs of death catching hold of her and she talking a little of her dear sonne and husband betwixt one and two of the clock became speechlesse and then one asking her whether her thoughts were not now on God and Christ she lifted up her eyes and hands and offered to speak but could not and so slept quietly in the Lord the first of February 1658 9. and the thirty sixth year of her age the seventh week after her sons death and was with honour laid in the same grave with him Mr. Ley preaching her Funeral Sermon And thus this true relation is left to the application of every tender-hearted mother and wise woman May it prove serviceable to those ends for which this precious Gentlewoman only desired life even to publish the Sovereignty Wisdome Equity Power and Love of her God Who though when she died desired that nothing might be spoken at her Funeral such was her self-denial and though now she be incessantly night and day praising adoring and admiring God without imperfection yet if she have any leisure to look off Jesus Christ and have any knowledge of what is done here below it will satisfie her greatly that God is glorified by her memory on earth in stirring up women to imitate what was praise-worthy in her and in warning them to moderate their love fear and sorrow and to pitch their affections on never fading objects He that testifyeth these things knoweth that he saith true and would not willingly through grace make a lye to uphold the reputation or preserve the lives of the best and most deserving women in the world On her Tomb-stone Inclosed here in love do lie together BENONI MARAH th' only son and mother Who in their lives lovely and pleasant were In death and grave they undivided are ERRATA Page 2. marg. for institutionae and institutione for Bezerliuck r. Beyerlinck Mr. Clarkes Sermon at the Funeral of the only son of this Gentlewoman wherein is a short Narrative of his life is sold by George Calvert at the Half-moon in Pauls Church-yard near the little North-door FINIS a Prov. 31. 10. b 1 King 11. 3. c Eccl. 7. 27 28 d Prov. 31. 1. e Prov. 18. 22. f Prov. 12. 4. g Prov. 31. 28 29 30 31. h Act. 9. 36 39. Gen. 23 2. i Gen. 35. 20 48 7. Mat. 26. 12 13. Luke 1. 48. k 1 Pet. 3. 6. l 1 Sam. 25. m 2 Sam. 20. ●2 n Esther 4. 10. o 1 Sam 1 ch. 2. Luke 1. p Luk. 1 ch. 2. q Luke 2. 38. r Acts 16. 14. s 2 Kings 4. 10 t Luke 8. 2 3. 21. 2.

writing a collection out of the Psalmes 1. Of the troubles inward and outward of the righteous 2. Their good or bad deportment under them 3. Their present support by faith and experience 4. And the issue and their happy deliverance out of them She begun also to draw forth all the commendable vertues and noted vices of the women recorded in Scripture that she might have the one for a pattern the other for a beacon Also she intended and did begin to read over the whole Bible that thence she might finde some mitigation of her sorrow by collecting all the presidents and promises which were sutable to her condition and sundry other Manuscripts she hath left which could they be read might be proposed as a spurre to Gentlewomen how to improve their much spare time In her inward graces For the Kings daughter is chiefly glorious within She had not only leafes and blossomes but had the seed of God abiding in her and was filled with the fruits of the Spirit She had a godly fear and solicitude concerning the state of her soul working out her salvation with fear and trembling and giving all diligence to make her calling and election sure She was blessed with a large measure of spiritual knowledge of God and Christ and the Covenant of grace and had good insight in the wayes of her own heart and the vanity of the world She had melting affections sorrowing for sinne and that she was not more heavenly and fruitful fearing to sinne against God serving him with reverence and godly fear had an intense and prevailing love to the Lord Jesus Christ her heart leaping within her to think on his love and undertaking and to speak of his praises and of this love of God in Christ which is wonderful she hath left a meditation as by some words may be conjectured but cannot all be read And hence her love flowed out to the Saints those excellent in the earth in whom was her delight without respect of persons doing very mean offices to some of them And of this love of the Saints she hath left in Italian hand this meditation following This Christian and well-grounded love as it is a fruit of the Spirtt for love is of God and as it proceeds from him so is it injoyned by him this is my Commandment that ye love one another nay he stiles it a new Commandment It is not so much a Legal as Evangelical Commandment backed with a most transcendent pattern I have given you an example and hereby perceive we the love of God that he laid down his life for us yea it bears the similitude of God for God is love and though its residence be in heaven yet it hath an habitation in and with the sonnes of men for he that dwells in love dwells in God and God in him and when Christians walk in this praise-worthy Palace then do they behold most of God This love then is sincere fervent pure serviceable constant and under the mantle thereof lie teaching free admonition meekness kindnesse faith and with this garment a multitude of sinnes are covered She had zeal for God witnesse her not sparing her dear sonne but reproving him for the least arising of the least evil in him and hath been heard to say that she would not care for the enjoyment of him if she had not seen something of God and a tender conscience in him She was humble though naturally of a high spirit often concealed her parts and preferred others in love neither provoking nor envying others nor thinking her self to be something when she was nothing and of this grace of humility take this her own meditation written at large Humility is a rare and singular grace doth admirably adorn a Christian for if wisdome make the face to shine then with the lowly there is wisdome it is like the gold and enamel about the precious Diamond sets it off with a magnificent lustre it hath the promise of addition an humble soul is an habitation for a holy God and the Creator delights to dwell with the humble creature and the Redeemer will save the humble person for he humbled himself that sinners may be exalted and if they humble themselves he hath promised to exalt them for honour shall uphold the humble in spirit as pride is an harbinger to destruction so humility is a conduct to honour great are the in-comes of an humble soul riches honour and life and excellent their priviledges for the Lord hears the desire of the humble and forgets not their cry they shall be taught the way of God and guided by him in judgment for the Lord hath respect to the lowly and he lifteth up the meek and they shall inherit the earth good tydings shall be preached to them and they shall increase their joy among men for the Lord will beautifie them with salvation therefore who would not be cloathed with that shining garment of humility According to the ability of a wife she was not wanting in Almes-deeds * prompting and encouraging her husband to lay out some of his Estate on pious uses especially since the death of her sonne and perswading him not so much to look after an heir to keep up his name as to do something that might cause the blessing of the poor to come upon him She often professed that if she had more children she would never be so saving and sparing to lay up for them but would liberally do good for God said she hath taught us the vanity of disquieting our selves in laying up riches now not knowing whether he shall be a wise man or a fool that shall enjoy them Let good women remember that all this is for their imitation Now to proceed to the last thing in her life Her behaviour under her late tryal and affliction Her sharp tryal and stinging affliction indeed was the death of her only sonne eighteen years old who on the ninth of December last after eight dayes sicknesse dyed of the small pox suddenly unlook't for by her being put in hopes by those who had more skill in that disease than her self that there was no apparent danger and she a spectator of the assaults of death What Parent is not filled with sorrow for the losse of one son even a Prince that prevailed with God yet cannot overcome his sorrow for the absence of one Joseph though more than ten sons rose up to comfort him did not Christs bowels yearn toward that weeping mother who had lost her only childe Luke 7. 12. And doth not the Scripture hold it forth to be the greatest of sorrows Jer. 6. 26. Amos 8. 10. Zech. 12. 10. if Naomi change her name into Marah Ruth 1. 20. for such a losse if that noble and good Shunamites soul be vexed in her 2 Kings 4. 20 27. for her lads death and if Rachel weep for her children and won't

Gentlewoman docile of quick apprehension not like those silly women who are ever learning and still ignorant She hath been observed to dispute with her son syllogistically and to enlarge her discourse with him by the help of the Predicaments and to reply upon him in witty extemporary verse she had a good understanding and solid judgment could both give as sundry have experimented and take counsel she was prudent in her behaviour far from lightnesse or morosity but stately affable e she was no tatler no continual dropping but opened her mouth with wisdome and shut it with discretion both when and where her judgment prompted her she delighted not to tyre her hearers with an impertinent flux of words or to f reveal those secrets which were committed to her but had a faithful spirit and needed no seal for her lips to keep her self from shaeme and others from trouble and yet to give her her due as a woman she was too much over-ruled with love and sorrow care and fear about her near relations In all her relations as A Childe g Her fathers darling while he lived and her mothers delight since his death alwayes loving and * dutiful to her both in her behaviour words and actions who though she was eldest of all her mothers children yet was most h obedient to her comforting cherishing and entertaining her with her self in her own home and when she died i recommended her in a special manner to her husband so that now the reverend good mother laments for her daughter as her eminently gracious childe and one that never offended her but fought God betimes A Wife Known to be surpassing kind and loving to her husband solicitous for k his health neglecting her own for to take care of his l a wise manager of what part of his estate he committed to her So that his heart trusted safely in her for she did him good and not evil all the dayes of her life counselling and assisting him both by pen and tongue yea with Abigail sometimes m seasonably and discreetly admonishing him comforting and chearing him up for the law of kindnesse was in her mouth keeping in her grief before him though to her own prejudice lest he should be grieved wisely compliant with his will and that in some things wherein many wives will have their will loyal to him n delighting most in his company and never taking pleasure to walk abroad without him being to him as the loving Hinde and pleasant Roe for all which her husband praised her all commended her and some imitate her A Mother Who her own self o instructed her only son to read even his Accidents and like another p Eunice to know the Scriptures from a childe framing and propounding such questions to him as made him give a good account of the chief Histories in the Bible she was in pain till she saw Christ formed in him prayed daily for him followed him with her wholesome counsel and wise reproofs not conniving at the least imperfection or appearance of evil in him ambitious to have him eminent and useful in that employment which he intended often perswading him to be diligent and therefore setting before him the deteltablenesse of the life of an idle Gentleman What her true love to him was and that though it was great yet not foolish and sinful may appear by this following letter written to him foure months before his death Dearly beloved Childe I rejoyce exceedingly to hear of the welfare of thy body and that thy outward man prospers but the q flourishing of thy inward man and the prosperity of thy soul thy thriving in grace how much this will adde both to the inward joy and outward contentment of her that bare thee I want both time and words to expresse And as God in his wise providence hath seen it good to give me but one to build my hopes upon I hope the Lord Jesus hath both purchased and pray'd that this one r may be one with himself which ever hath been and I hope shall be the prayer of thy most affectionate and endeared mother As also this passage in a letter of hers to his friend Sir one request more in the behalf of my Childe to beg your earnest prayers that what you have endeavoured s to plant God would water with the heavenly dew of his Spirit that his soul may flourish and you see of the travel of yours and be satisfied And for this her son most ardently loved her most dutifully obeyed her and arose up and blessed her yet herein was she to be blamed that she was over-careful about him while he liv'd and over-sorrowful when he dyed A Sister who as she had got the first-borns portion of parts as her son used to speak so she did faithfully improve them for the good of her brethren and sisters being a stay and support to them all advising them by word and letter admonishing and mildly reproving when need required keeping them in the house with her while unmarried and together with her husband who is and hath engaged himself still to be kinde to all her relations disposing of them in marriage setting them a copy of obedience to their mother love to their husbands and of piety toward God so that every one of them in particular are sensible of her death before which also she expressed her love to them in recommending them to her husband A Governess of family t that look't well to the wayes of her house and that chiefly out of conscience often complaining that her houshold encumbrances required so many of her thoughts and so much of her time her delight was to abide at home not spending her time on needlesse and complemental visits or in going about from house to house being modest and reserved the most of her converse being with her relations and some few friends which made her liable to be censured by some as proud and loving to keep at distance from which she was free in a good measure A Friend that w stuck closer than a brother that lov'd at all times especially when most need of her help that loved not in word and in tongue only but in deed and in truth a friend courteous sincere affable grateful intimate and another Jonathan to a David in her life and death and therefore may her friend weep over her as David did for Jonathan 2 Sam. 1. 25. Her holinesse did appear In her x Conversation which was blamelesse and harmlesse she being of a meek and quiet spirit adorning her self as a woman professing godliness not exceeding her husbands ranck and professing that if it had not been for her husbands credit men now adayes being judged penurious if their Dames go not fine she would not have put on some of her apparel and was so far from y priding her self in her cloaths that she was often heard to say