therefore Sorrow for your selves and not for us But Earth is a place for Sorrow which we must tast in handling the first Doctrine and after we have pleased our selves with it from love to them we will endeavour and seek for Comfort as to them in the second CHAP. II. The First Doctrine proved by Scripture Instances and Reasons Doct. I. THE Actings and Workings of Sorrow in the Living for the Dead are allowed and lawful and ought to be For he saith not Do not sorrow at all this defect or want of sorrow is so far from becoming Christians that it is unworthy of a Man as a Man How incongruous is it for a Man to sorrow for a dead Beast that lays not to Heart the Death of a Child or of some nearer and greater Relation There are too many Stoicks in practice in this point that are not so in Opinion At the Losses of the World sorrow fills their Hearts you may see their Tears you may hear their Groans and bitter Complaints I am undone this Loss is my Ruine And the sense of this and sorrow for it shall last long mâ—y â—hey will not stick â—o tell you they shall never get over it but it will break their Hearts But these that melt like Wax for a Worldly Loss are as hard and sensless as a Stone not regarding the Dâ—â—th of a Wife of their Bosom of a Child of their Loins or a Brother from the same Parents but have a secret gladness in their Hearts when their Children die because they have the fewer to maintain or a weak and sickly Wife by Death is taken away because the burden of the charge is thereby eased Lord what kind of Christians are these that have not so much value for an Humane Body nor an Immortal Soul as for the more ignoble things of this World without Life or Sense or Reason This horrid and unnatural Sin against the Lives of their Parents is in too many Children who expecting the Possession of their Goods and Estates at their Death think they live too long long for their Decease and though they may cloath themselves in Mourning to follow them to their Graves yet secretly please themselves that they are gone and their Riches come to them Neither may any please themselves with Stoical Apathy or want of grief and sorrow for the Death of Relations because they were wicked and ungodly lived and died in Sin which should rather increase than diminish their mourning for them for must not that Man have an Heart of Stone that is neither moved for the Death of the Body nor for the Damnation of the Soul of any so near in relation to him Is it nothing to such a Man that the Body is consumed in the Grave and the Soul tormented in Hell Is it nothing that the Body is meat for Worms and the Soul a prey to Devils As there is no greater alleviation of our sorrow for the dead than well-grounded hope that the Soul is lodged with God above so there can be no greater aggravation of sorrow for the death of the Impenitent than the Thoughts that the Soul is Damned before the Body can be Buried Who or what manner of Man is he that can forbear to grieve and sorrow for the death of a Wife or a Son because she was a froward graceless or a wicked Wife or because he was a disobedient Son yet was not the one a Wife and the other a Son and both had Immortal Souls And if you had no ground to hope at death they were received into Heaven must not you conclude they were then cast down to Hell And take on and say Ah my Son my Son how miserable for ever miserable art thou my Son my Son Did I beget thee to be a prey for Devils to be Fuel for the Flames of Hell The Son of my Loins a part of my self is for ever lost because he died in his Sin He sinned and never repented he went on in Sin to his dying day and never turned to the Lord and when he died was condemned Oh my Bowels my Bowels for thee my departed Son thy Death I could have better born if Damnation after death by dying in thy Sin had not been thy Portion What! gone from me to Devils What! from my House to Hell While thou in Hell and I on Earth I cannot but sorrow on Earth when I think thou art tormented in Hell I have lost thee and that is bad and thou hast lost God and that is worse infinitely worse because the God that thou hast lost is infinitely good If you cannot sorrow for the death of a Relation because he was bad that will be no proof that you your self are good And if you justifie your self though you sorrow not at all do you not condemn the practice of David in mourning so much for an Incestuous Murderous and Rebellious Son because he died in his Sin and unprepared for Death and a better state in another World 2 Sam. 18.33 And the king was much moved and went up to the chamber over the gate and wept and as he went thus he said O my son Absolom my son my son Absolom would God I had died for thee O Absalom my son my son This is the first thing in the Survivers Carriage for the dead sorrow is allowed The defect is both their Sin and Shame That we may and ought to give a lodging to sorrow in our Breasts even for those whose Souls are lodged with God above and whose Bodies being lodged in the Grave do there sleep in Jesus will be apparent and justified by these Arguments pleading for it First The approved Practice and commendable Examples of Holy Persons Recorded in Sacred Scripture mourning and sorrowing for their deceased Relations Instances we find in the several respective Relations in which they stood while they did live together that the Surviving did mourn for not only in habit but in heart when death had parted â—hâ—â—â—â—â—der 1. 〈◊〉 Death had dissolved the Conjugal Vâ—â—â—â— be wixt â—usband and Wife the Surviving Husband that waâ— laâ—â—ly sâ—â— mourned for his deceased Wife So Abraham for Sarah Gen. 23.2 And Sarah died in Kiriath-arba the same is Hebron in the land of Canaan and Abraham came to mourn for Sarah and to weep for her Tears for a departed Wife are not unworthy of a Man nor unbecoming but he that hath not a Tear to shed upon such a sorrowful occasion was unworthy of a Wife Abraham wept for Sarah So Wives for their Husbands The Tidings that Vriah was dead were grievous to Bathsheba and caused her to mourn 2 Sam. 11.26 When the wife of Vriah heard that her husband Vriah was dead she mourned for her husband Powerful Death hath made many sorrowful Hearts because it hath power to do that which all the Created Powers in Heaven and Earth could not do that is to separate those that God by his Institution had joined together This Knot of unfeigned Lovers
the Almighty 15. Those that remain of him shall be buried in death and his widows shall not weep That Husband was unkind while he lived or his Widow unnatural that cannot weep when he is dead Psalm 78.64 Their priests fell by the sword and their widows made no lamentation When God takes away his loving-kindness and Mercies from men for their great wickedness while they live as a token of his wrath he will not have them lamented when they die Jer. 16.3 Thus saith the Lord concerning the sons and concerning the daughters that are born in this place and concerning their mothers that bare them and concerning their fathers that begat them in this land 4. They shall die of grievous deaths they shall not be lamented neither shall they be buried but they shall be as dung upon the face of the earth and they shall be consumed by the sword and by the famine and their carcases shall be meat for the fowls of heaven and for the beasts of the earth 5. For thus saith the Lord Enter not into the house of mourning neither go to lament nor bemoan them for I have taken away my peace from this people saith the Lord even loving-kindness and mercies 6. Both the great and the small shall die in this land they shall not be buried neither shall men lament for them nor cut themselves nor make themselves bald for them 7. Neither shall men tear themselves for them in mourning to comfort them for the dead neither shall men give the cup of consolation to drink for their father or their mother Dying by Sword and Famine denial of burial the Flesh of the dead lying as Dung upon the Earth devoured by the Beasts consumed by the Fowls and no Sorrow no Lamentation for them are Judgments of God upon wicked Men And should those that dye in the Lord be no more lamented than those that dye in their Sin and for their Sin deserve no Lamentation Tho the Name and Carcase of the wicked rot in the Grave together yet should not the name of the righteous be had in remembrance And can we remember their Name without Sorrow that we have not their Presence and Company and opportunity of getting good by their Counsel and Example Forms usual in Mourning for the dead as Ah my Brother or ah my Sister My Wife Ah my Husband are foretold by God should not be used concerning Persons by Name as a Judgment upon them for the wickedness of their Lives As concerning Jehojakim Jer. 22.17 Thine eyes and thine heart are not but for thy covetousness and for to shed innocent blood and for oppression and for violence to do it 18. Therefore thus saith the Lord concerning Jehojakim the son of Josiah King of Judah They shall not lament for him saying Ah my brother or Ah my sister they shall not lament for him saying Ah Lord or Ah his glory or Majesty 19. He shall be buried with the burial of an ass drawn and cast forth beyond the gates of Jerusalem Jehoram for his wickedness was punished by God in his Life his Person with an incurable disease in his Bowels pained therewith for the space of two years at the end of which time his Bowels fell out by reason of his Sickness at his Death in his Name and Reputation in that the People made no burning for him like the burning of his Father that is did not honour him at his burial by burning of precious and sweet-smelling Spices as they did for Asa 2 Chron. 16.14 But Jehoran departed without being desired 2 Chron. 21.18 19 20. And shall those that lived to the Lord and died in the Lord be no more sorrowed for than those that lived and died in their Sin Shall not leave be allowed that such that were desired in Life might be lamented at their Death Oh let not that saying be used of any that sell asleep in Jesus He or She lived undesired and died unlamented Fifthly Sorrowing and Lamentation for the death of others hath been appointed and commanded by God in Honour to them in whom real good and worth was found while they lived Jeroboam his Child being sick sends his Wife in a disguise to the Prophet to know what should become of the Child Who bid her return to her House and when her Feet entred into the the City said Her Child should die and that all Israel should mourn for him and bury him for he only of Jeroboam shall come to the grave because in him is found some good thing toward the Lord God of Israel in the house of Jeroboam The Child died and they buried him and all Israel mourned for him according to the Word of the Lord which he spake by the hand of his servant Ahijah the Prophet 1 King 14.12 13 17 18. Josiah was buried and all Judah and Jerusalem mourned for him and Jeremiah lamented for Josiah and all the singing men and singing women spake of Josiah in their lamentations and made them an ordinance in Israel and behold they are written in the Lamentations 2 Chron. 35.24 25. True and real goodness the Image of God in meaner Persons is precious and honourable tho in Persons of higher Rank is more honoured and might make them more useful while they live and so the more lamented when they die yet as Angels convoy the Souls of poorest Believers to Heaven and shew their Love and Respect to them in conducting them thither so those that live should lament and sorrow for the death of their Bodies as remaining still united to Christ Sixthly It is complained of by God and condemned as an Evil that Righteous Persons should be taken away by Death and those that live do not lay it to heart Isa 57.1 And can it be laid to heart without any sorrow in the Heart Some may sorrow without Tears but most shew the sorrow abiding in their Hearts by the Tears running from their Eyes Shall a godly Man an holy Woman be removed by Death and lamented by none Not by those of the Family from whence they were taken Lord let not this complaint be made by thee nor this charge brought against any of the Family more immediately concerned in thy late afflicting Providence that did befall all of them CHAP. III. Want of Sorrow blameable Conclusions premised IT being made manifest that the Apostle alloweth and taketh it for granted that sorrow for those that are fallen asleep may be should be in those that do survive for two Reasons I will study Answers to these Three Questions in this case in so many Uses to be made 1. For my own sake and the sake of my Children that when we hear we may sorrow and Natural Affections spurs us on thereto we may take heed of sinning in our sorrow and may turn our Natural sorrow to our Spiritual advantage that in much sorrow we might not be defective in our sorrow nor sorrow with sorrows displeasing to God 2. For your sakes because our case
We must have the Tongue of Christian Preachers tho some Hearers have not the Natural Affections of Heathen men 8. Whether the death of Relations be a Punishment to some or a Chastisement to others that remain alive a Penal Evil or a Correcting Trying since it is a Smarting Rod all should have such a sense of Gods Hand as to produce feeling sorrow in their Hearts want of sorrow under both is a Sin thus aggravated CHAP. IV. Ten Aggravations of Want of Sorrow for our Dead 1. WAnt of sorrow and sense of Gods Afflicting Hand is not Patience but Stupidity not Submission but Rebellion not Heroical Fortitude of Mind but a Sottishness of Spirit Is that Patience when you feel no smart or suffering Is that Submission to his Will when you have no feeling of his Rod Is it patient yielding to his Hand when you have no sense of the smart of the Rod that by his Hand is laid upon you Submission in this case hath these Requisites in it 1. A desire of the continuance of the Relation before it was taken from us 2. A thankfulness of Heart if God would have continued the Relation to us 3. A sense of the Loss that hath befallen us 4. A reckoning of all the Inconveniences and discomfort of our Lives by their removal by Death and yet 5. A quieting of our Hearts under God's dealings with us in taking them away from us because it was his Will in his Wisdom so to do unto us But if you did not desire their continuance but rather for Carnal Worldly Selfish Ends their removal could not have been thankful for their Life but secretly glad of their Death still for sinful selfish Ends have no sense of the Loss nor did esteem it a Loss but some Advantage and please your selves with reckoning the conveniences you have by their Death will you blind the World or your selves by calling your unsensibleness of Gods Hand in their Death a submitting to the Hand and Will of God However take heed that you go not about to impose upon God himself the Searcher of your Hearts with such a blind as this is When you have such love unto and care of and desire after the continuance of your Children â—s Job had and such a sense of their Death as he of his and yâ—t carry it as he did we will call yours a submission as his was Job 1 18 19 20 21 22. so 〈◊〉 sense and sorrow under God's Afflicting sâ—â—nd in this kind is hardness of Heart when such a lash can make no print nor impression of the Rod It is stiff-neckedness when such a burden will not make it bow It is stout-heartednesâ— against God when such a severe stroke doth not make you relent and melt and yield to him 2. It is accompanied with the Loss of that Spiritual good which yâ—u should have got by sâ—ch an Afflction so in it self tho by you not looked upon to be so When you are corrected should not you be reformed When you are scourged should you not be amended When iâ— the Furnace should not you be purified When in the School of Affliction should not you learn the Lessons there to be taught Is all this or any of this like to be when you make light of Gods heavy Hand in the death of your near relations And do not you make light of it when you have no sorrow for the stroke nor sense of the Wound inflicted by it The loss of a Relation is a great loss but the loss of a sanctified Improvement of it for your Spiritual and Eternal good is a greater loss because the one might be a Penal Evil the other is a Sinful Evil. The one an Affliction the other a Transgression the one is a stroke of God upon you the other is a Sin in you against God Jer. 5.3 Thou hast stricken them but they have not grieved thou h st consumed them but they have refused to receive correction they have made their faces harder than a rock they have refused to return The death of your Child of your Father Mother Wife Husband should have been improved so as to have beâ—n the death of your Sins but behold they are dead and your Sins alive they are rotting in their Graves and your Sins are still raging and ruling in your Hearts 3. Want of Sorrow from the want of the sense of Gods â—fflicting Hand in this case argues want of the sense of Sin that did procure it of Gods displeasure that did inflict it and hinders your Repentance for those Sins and humbling your self under the Hand of a displeased God Tho the death of Relations might not always be for the Sins of those that do survive yet sometimes it is Tho God may not always take them away in displeasure to those that remain yet sometimes he doth and thus it may be with those that are in a state of Grace as with David 2 Sam. 12.14 Howbeit because by this deed thou hast given great occasion to the enemies of the Lord to blaspheme the child also that is born unto thee shall surely die Should not you then search and enquire What is my Sin And what is my offence And wherein have I displeased God Have I sinned and shall I not sorrow for my Sin Is God displeased and shall I not seek to have him pacified Is my Relation broken by my Sin and shall not my Heart be broken for my Sin Or do I make light of the death of my Father or Mother Husband Wife or Child and of my Sin and God's displeasure too Or can I have any sorrow for the Cause when I have no sorrow for the Effect Tho many might have sorrow for the Effect when they have no sorrow for the Cause thereof Many might be full of sorrow for the death of Relations that have no sorrow for the Sin for which God by death did take them away from them that yet do livâ— but can a Man have sorrow for the Sin and for Gods displeasure for that Sin that hath no sorrow for the death of the Person caused by the Sin of the Living Can you grieve or repent of the Sin that caused the death and not be grieved nor sorrow for such of your dead Surely this should make you sorrow for your dead more than others that by their Sin did not hasten their death saying Oh what have I done What have I done Have I sinned my Child into his Grave Did I sin against God and hath God taken away my Child my Father my Mother my Wife my Husband from me for my Sin Have I shortned their days and provoked God to cut in two the Thread of their Lives And so sinned against a Living God that cannot die and against my Living Relations which for my Sin now are dead This would cause sorrow upon sorrow when many have cause to sorrow for both do yet sorrow for neither Indeed God was displeased with David for his Sin and for his
Sin his Child did die and yet after the Childs death we do nor read he sorrowed for the Child that died for his Sin with such sorrow that he did for Absalom that died in his own Sin But is your Case and David's alike He sorrowed for his Sin and humbled himself for his Sin and fasted and prayed with weeping Tears to God but did you do so He obtained the pardon of his Sin but have you also Is it not to be questioned when you have no sorrow for Sin nor God's displeasure nor the dead when your Case which is not the case of all was such that one did cause the other 4. Want of Sorrow for the dead taken from them from want of sense of God's hand upon them and against them argues That they are spiritually Blind and cannot see spiritually Deaf and cannot hear spiritually Benummed and cannot feel When your living fall down dead God's hand is lifted up and you do not see You see them fall into the Grave under your feâ—t but you do not see the hand of God lifted up over your head Isa 26.11 Lord when thy hand is lifted up they will not see When your living Relations do dye there is Gods rod upon you and it hath a Voice a loud a shâ—ill and doleful crying Voice but you do not hâ—ar did I say a Rod Nay God hath been in your House with his Ax hewing down your Living lopping off the Children as so many Branches cutting off the Father or the Mother or both and plucking up the Family by the Roots and yet you do not hear the sound of the Rod nor of the Ax nor consider who it is that did appoint both When your Relations dye it is a stroke of God upon your selves he kills them and smitteth you and yet you have no feeling of his blow What! are the living dead while they do live Are the living become like unto their dead Having eyes but do not see and ears but do not hear and flesh but cannot feel You stand before them but they do not see you you call to them but they do not hear you you strip them and put on them their Grave-clothes and remove them down your Stairs and carry them from your House to their Lodging-dust and let them down into the pit and all this while they do not feel you So are you towards God as they towards you God a displeased God is come into your House into your Chamber but you do not see him nor his anger He calls to you by your Dead that lies bâ—fore you but you do not hear his Voice He is punishing correcting of you but you do not feel the smart of his stroke Behold the dead burying their dead men spiritually dead burying their naturally dead The Lifeless corps do not sorrow that they are let down into the Grave and the Liseless-living living a Life of Nature but not a Life of Grace not having the Sense of Christians nor of Men of the death of their dead nor of Sin nor of God's displeasure do not mourn to see thâ—m lodged thâ—re 5. Want of Sorrow in this case from want of sense of God's hand that brought you into it argues That you wanted love to them and a prizing and a valuing of them Love your Money and do not sorrow when you lose it Love your Health and Ease and do not grieve when you want it in sickness and in pain Will you say you cannot How did you love your Child when living if you cannot sorrow for its Death How did you love and prize and value the Com◠〈…〉 â—f Father or Mother Husband or 〈…〉 live without Sor◠〈…〉 them If Sor◠〈…〉 of what was be◠〈…〉 bear some 〈…〉 of Lovâ— then how 〈◊〉 was the love to them when living when thâ—re is no sorrow for them when dead The sâ—ying of a poor Man seeing a rich Man burying his Child told me was this 'T is the priviledge of the rich to bury their Children when the poor must keep theirs Are not Children Husbands Wives Fathers Mothers a burden to such that look upon it as a Priviledge that they may dye that they may be buried What hearts have they that do not sorrow for their dead when want of Sorrow argues they wanted love and yet the thoughts of their want of formâ—r love to them doth not fill them with present Sorrow But something to this hath been said before 6. Want of Sorrow in this Case argues A contemning and a despising of the afflicting hand of God When God gave you a good Husband or Wife or Parents or Childrâ—n and you did not prize them when you had them this was a despising of Gods merciful and good Hand unto you when God took them from you by death you laid it not to heart this is a despising of the chastening Hand of God upon you When living you were not thankful when dead you were not sorrowful in the one you despised his love in the other you despised his anger As if you should say Let God do what he will you will despise all his doings God's command to Man is this Heb. 12.5 Despise not the chastening of the Lord nor faint when thou art rebuked of him One man despiseth that rebuke from God which another is ready to sink under One bears it without feeling of it when another faints at the smarting of it When it is a small Affliction a man despiseth it this is a light thing and easily born When it is a great Affliction man fainteth because of it saying No man's Affliction like to mine no man's Sorrow like to mine my Flesh faileth my Strength faileth my Heart and Spirit fail for this is grievous to be born but behold the Man we are speaking of is under a great Affliction for such is the loss of a near and good Relation and yet being not sensible despiseth that which another finds heavy to bear 7. Want of Sorrow in this case argues a man to be predâ—minâ—ntly a selfish man To have love to or care of none but himself What if a Child dye so long as he himself doth live What if a Father or Mother dye while he himself doth live And yet which is more what if a Wife be laid under ground among the dead so he himself hath Life and Strength to walk above ground amoâ—g the living He can set the comfort of his own Life aâ—â—â—nst all Sorrow tho he see all in his Faâ—â—ly removed by Death and tho he be lâ—fâ— aâ—â— alone it is all one to him for himseâ—â— alone is all to him It was fitter for such a man to have lived alone in some Cavâ—rn of the Earth than to have been troubled with Wife or Children whom he can part with without any trouble to himself 8. This wâ—nt of Sorrow in the â—xplâ—â—â—ed Sense is a provâ—cation to God to afflict 〈◊〉 more and more till he is sensible of the Assâ—◠〈◊〉 and of the hand that laid
our Sorrow for our Dead Spiritually defective tho it be naturally abundant Or when is it too little as we are Christians be it never so much as we are Men Ans 1. When we sorrow for the breach of the Relation made by death we sorrow as men tho in great abundance for so an Heathen may do but do not sorrow for Sin as Sin committed against God in the neglect of our Relative Duties while the Relation was continued for so only Christians can do Tho our Natural Sorrow doth abound in the first respect it is spiritually defective in the latter respect Two things taken for granted 1. Here it is taken for granted That the most Loving Relations may Sin and fail in their Relative Duties one to another for as much as we cannot yield perfect Obedience to any one of the Ten Commandments among which the Fifth contains Relative Duties And who can say tho I have transgressed all the rest yet this I have perfectly fulfilled I have heard that some have asserted that they have lived Twenty or Forty years in a Conjugal Relation without an angry word or unkind act betwixt them if so might not we say O peaceable Spirits that were in these O rare Example and seldom found But be it so is there no other Sin in these Relations but anger and angry words What! Did they pray also daily together or as much one for another as they ought and as fervently as they should Did they by all ways and means appointed by God help each other in their Spiritual Concerns as Duty did require Were there never no sinful Thoughts in their Minds one against another there is one can tell you his sinful Thoughts against some Related to him hath filled his Heart with more sorrow his Eyes with Tears and his Mouth with secret Confessions to God and cost him more Sighs and Sobs and Groans in pleading for Pardon for the Sin of his Thoughts tho resisted than any angry Words or unkind Actions ever did For the one might be more easily prevented than the other because we have a more absolute government over our Tongues and Hands than over our Thoughts What! Can any Persons in any Relation suppose Husband and Wife Parents and Children say they did never Love too much or at no time too little never did take too much care or never too little for their Relations but had that just proportion and measure of Love to them and Care for them as the perfect Rule requires So much as God commanded and no more than God allowed For my part my Prayer shall be Lord forgive my Relative Sins whilst others boast and bless themselves and say O God I thank thee I am not in this as other Men be nor as this Man And Lord let not me be as Blind as that Man that can see no Relative Sins to confess to thee or to be humbled for at thy Throne of Grace when thou wilt find some to judge him for at the Bar of thy Justice 2. The reigning Sins or Sins of Infirmities what they were or are in their kinds degrees frequency and all Aggravations committed in our respective Relations must be left to the scrutiny of every man's Conscience or to God that was an Eye-witness if Conscience was fallen asleep and will be an Impartial Judge if Conscience for the present perform not its Office of Witness Accuser and Judge These being granted that your Father or Mother Husband or Wife or Child is dead you sorrow and grieve you weep and wall you lament and mourn there is your Humanity and Natural Passion because your Relation is broke but where is your Christianity in this sorrow when you had not one Tear amongst so many for the Sins against God and them while you stood in that Relation And yet do not you see while your natural sorrow is abundant your Spiritual sorrow is defective or none at all in this respect Where are your Tears for your disobedience to your Father or Mother when alive Where is the Husband's sorrow for undue and unjust grieving of his Wife sadning her Heart and sending her by his unkindness to her Knees in secret to open her Case and pour out her Tears and Soul before God in Prayer Did you without cause make her weep when alive and shall not this in all your sorrow for her when dead make you sorrow for sinning against God and her before she died According as your Relative Sins were more or less greater or smaller when the Relation held it 's time it 's high time to sorrow for them when by death it is broke and so shew your self a Christian as well as a Man in sorrowing for your dead And do this now if you have not hitherto tho your Father or Mother Husband or Wife or Child be long since dead and turned into dust their rotted Flesh and dry Bones and bare Skull in the Grave do cry to God against you Therefore while you sorrow for their dead Bodies sorrow also for your own sinful Souls because you sinned so much against them in their Life-time 2. When you mourn for the loss of that comfort and delight that you had in loving of them and in being beloved by them be your Sorrow never so much you sorrow only as Men for so an Heathen might do but you sorrow not for the Displeasure of God by reason of those Sins which Conscience doth justly and truly charge you with committed in that Relation your Sorrow is defective as you are Christians You sinned as you were an Husband and for your sin God was displeased you sinned as you were a Father or a Mother and God was displeased for your Sin you sinned as you were a Son or a Daughter and for your Sin God was displeased and God hath by Death taken away your Wife your Child your Father or Mother you Sorrow because they are dead with great Sorrow and herein you do no more than a Man or Woman as such might do but you do not Sorrow that God is displeased which is not so much as a Christian should do You Sorrow because you are afflicted but where is your Sorrow because God is displeased You have many Tears for the loss of your Creature-comforts but have you dropped one for the loss of that Comfort that should arise from the sense of the Love of God unto your Soul You mourn for the smarting Rod that lies upon you Nature Flesh and Blood will make you feel the smart and cry out because of it but you do not grieve that by the Sin in your Relation you grieved the Spirit of God that Grace must inable you to do Are not you herein like unto a Child that is scourged by his Father he cries aloud he weeps and sobs he groans but what is it for Not because his Father is displeased this he is not troubled at but because of the smart and pain that the Rod doth make him so sensible of Do
Doct. II. THat Christians ought so to bound their Sorrow for the Dead that it be not excessive and immoderate Am I the first amongst you whom God by his Providence hath called to regulate my Sorrow for the Death of a dear Relation Not by many Shall I be the last among you that shall be thus exercised Not by many Many of you have followed Husbands or Wives Parents or Children to their Grave and more of you shortly shall and afrer that others shall follow you to your long home and see you lodged in the Dust And where there was Love in living together there will be Sorrow at your last parting asunder I understand the Communication of two Religious and Tender Mothers in this place since I began this sorrowful Subject that had buried some of their Children The one said I fear I sorrowed too much for my Child and sinned by excess of Sorrow The other said I buried mine and I doubt I was not sorrowful enough and I fear I sinned in being short in my sorrow To have a due sense of the Death of Relations and of the hand of God in taking them from us and yet to keep our Sorrow in due Bounds is an hard Task that lieth upon us Two things I have prayed for in my Affliction of this kind That I might not be unsensible of God's hand nor excessive in my Sorrow for the outward Comfort of my life removed thereby And for the helping of my self in both my thoughts have been so long working on this Text which I might have kept secret in my Study and not have brought them unto you but the Consideration of the common Case of all being mortal that Death will enter into your Houses and take your Living from you and that there are in all Affections common to Human Nature which being corrupted tend to Sin in over-loving of them and over-joying in them while they live and in over-sorrowing for them when they dye hath moved me to communicate to you what I thought for my self that in the like case it might also be a Guide and Direction and support unto you In treating on this Subject of Sorrow that it might be moderate as becometh Christians that have hope and not like Heathens that have no hope of a joyful Resurrection of the dead omitting many things in so copious a Subject endeavouring to contract as much as I can I shall cast my Mattter into this Method 1. I shall lay down some Rules concerning the kind and degrees of Sorrow for the Dead 2. I shall give you an account when our Sorrow for the Dead is excessive and immoderate 3. I shall shew you the Cure or bring you some Remedy against excess of Sorrow CHAP. VIII Contains Eight Rules concerning the degrees of Sorrow for the Dead First THe Rules concerning the kinds and degrees of our Sorrow for the dead are such as these Rule 1. Our Sorrow is not so much for the Death of a Stranger as for the Death of a suitable and intimate Acquaintance At the hearing of the Death of one whom we had no Conversation with we might entertain some Sorrow as he was one partaker of the same Humane Nature with us as he was one that became liable to Death by the Sin of Adam the common Parent of us all as Death is a penal Evil upon Mankind as Adam's Off-spring and which God would not remit nor except us from when he called Adam to an Account for the Sin he had committed and as he had a Rational and Immortal Soul that is passed into Eternity tho we know not to what State in that Eternity Rule 2. Our sorrom is not usually so much for an intimate Acquaintance when he dies as for the death of Relations excepr there be some other Circumstances that might alter the Case For an intimate Friend that dieth the sweet Converse the Affableness of his Carriage the Comfort in his Company the Kindnesses he hath done might oblige me to mourn for an evil as death is that hath befallen him for if it would have been matter of sorrow to me to hear he was Sick or cast into Prison would not the same Principle and Love bind me to sorrow when he is lodged in the Grave But all these and such like enumerated Circumstances there might be in a Relation and besides these some nearer natural Obligation as partakers of the same Flesh and Blood in a more immediate sense than all Mankind in Adom were and this might add degrees of sorrow to what is the sorrow for an intimate Friend when he dieth For being nearer by Bonds of Nature to us the greater the sorrow when by death those Bonds are broke asunder Rule 3. The nearer the Relation is usually the greater is our sorrow for the breach thereof by death So sorrow for those that are near us by Consanguinity ordinarily exceeds the sorrow upon the account of meer Affinity So also the sorrow of Pâ—rents for the death of Children and of Chilâ—ren for the death of their Parents being nearer in Blood ariseth to greater degrees than that for others more remote But the Conjugal Relation being the nearest whereby two become one Flesh and breeds the strongest Affection the dissolving thereof by death begets and feeds and maintains the greater grief pierceth deeper and is more hardly born For death cannot deprive us of a nearer Mercy than a part of our selves As Children are by Multiplication Husband and Wife that walk suitably to thâ—ir relation by such an Vnion that cannot be dissolved but by death Therefore that Relation that calls for the strongest Love of all others while it holds the dissolving of it calls for the greatest sorrow when death doth cause it If a Man must forsake his most Loving Father and his most Tender Mother to dwell with his Wife because of greater Love he ought to have to her then he should have greater sorrow for the death of this Relation than for the death of Father or Mother For proportionable to the Love and Joy in the Object injoyed must be our sorrow when we are totally and finally deprived of it Rule 4. The more persons did answer the obligation of a Conjugal Relation in mutual real constant Love to and care of each others Temporal and Spiritual and Eternal Welfare the greater degree of sorrow as to the loss of the Survivor there may and ought to be Though these may part at death with greater Comfort because they filled up their Relation with Duty in time of Life The more Fear and Love to God the more Love and Care concerning their Relations the more Conscientious performance of Relative Duties the more meekness of Spirit the more kind Carriage and Sweetness of Temper and Disposition the most suitableness in all respect there was in both the more grievous the separation by death to the Survivor must be And who can forbear to sorrow for so great a Loss when he doth sit solitary and ponder
deeply how great it is Rule 5. A Wicked Husband that is a constant Curse and a daily Cross unto his whole Family whose Wife is in a worse condition for Body and Soul than if she were a Widow and whose Children by reason of his want of Affection to them and Care for them are more exposed to Ruine than if they were Fatherless leaves little reason behind him why they should grieve and sorrow for his Death upon their own accounts For who can sorrow for a deliverance from a daily Cross Who can grieve for being eased of a Burden under which they so long did groan Who can sorrow upon their own account that one is gone that did rather Hate than Love them and filled their Hearts with daily sorrow their Eyes with flowing Tears and their Mouths with Heart-piercing Complaints And why should any dissemble sorrow for such by whose Wickedness and Sin against God and the Family God was dishonoured and the Family ruined when by death he is taken off from doing so upon Earth any more Do you ask who ever taught this Doctrine before Job did Job 27.13 This is the portion of a wicked Man with God and the Heritage of Oppressors which they shall receive of the Almighty 15. Those that remain of him shall be buried in death and his Widows shall not weep Were there â—ver any such Widows Yes Psal 78.64 Their Priests fell by the Sword and their Widows made no Lamentation Rule 6. In mourning for such Relations that neither did their Duty to God nor to their Family but lived to God's dishonour and their daily grief and died without Repentance for both our sorrow must be for their sakes and not our own For the ungodly and unnatural as dying impenitently in their Sins and for the Loss of their Souls and Misery in the other World as David did for Absolom for tho our grief for them cannot mitigate their Torments nor our Tears quench their Fire yet it cannot but be a grief to us that our Relations should live and die in their Rebellion against God and neglect of their Duties towards us but did dishonour God whom they should have glorified and overthrew the Family by their Sin and Wicked Lives which they should have built up and maintained And as for their Sin while they lived so dying impenitent for their Misery after death The death of some puts an end to those Troubles and Disquiet and Crosses which they caused in their Families while they lived that for their own sakes the Living cannot find a reason why they should mourn because they are dead But when they consider their death was the beginning of their Intolerable and Eternal Misery for their sakes they cannot but give place to sorrow â—or while these Thoughts are working my Husband is dead and his Soul is Damned it will be hard to keep sorrow from the Heart And tho such sorrow doth not profit the Damned Soul yet unaccountable sorrow is not easily cast off Nor can we always cease to sorrow when we cannot give a reason of any good that is the fruit of our sorrow But yet a reason will be here suggested it was my Husband or Wife or Son or Daughter that lived wickedly and died impenitently and the Soul of one so near is lost is for ever lost And Religion teaching us that the Souls of such are miserable Nature will be working in us to lament their Misery and this is sorrow for their sakes Rule 7. In mourning for those that lived holily towards God and Conscientiously in their Relative Duties towards us our sorrow is for our own sakes more than for theirs The common saying our Loss is their Gain teacheth that the sorrow is for the Loser and not for the Gainer And indeed if we search to the bottom of our sorrow to find the reason of our sorrow for those that lived to the Lord and died in the Lord and after death do live gloriously and happily with the Lord it will appear we are sorrowing more for our selves than for them We call it mourning for the dead when it is indeed mourning for our selves yet living for let us enquire 1. Do we mourn because their Souls are perfectly Holy and Happy with God and Christ above No this is matter of our Comfort Delight and Joy Did not we earnestly pray for them sick and well that when they left Earth they might be received up to Heaven And do we sorrow that God heard our Prayers and hath saved their Souls Do we thus take on for this Are our Tears shed because God hath Crowned their Grace with Glory Are we grieving on Earth because they are rejoicing in Heaven Are we groaning here because they are triumphing there For shame we cannot say this is the reason and ground of our sorrow and that in this respect it is plain we do not sorrow for their sakes 2. Do we mourn because they are fallen asleep in Jesus Because they are gone to rest in their Beds Because their Bodies in that state in which they are remain united to Christ Are these grounds of sorrow Should we weep and waste our Tears because these things are said of them Or is it not matter of Comfort and Joy unto us that it is so well with their very Bodies as these things declared by God himself do import unto us Is it not better to die in Christ than to live in Sin Is it not better to sleep in Jesus than to be naturally awake and spiritually asleep in Sin Is it not better for the Body to lye still and rest free from Actings of Sin than to be able to walk in a constant course of wickedness Is it not more matter of Comfort to have the Bodies of our Friends united to Christ in the Grave than to have our Relations above ground separated from Christ and not united to him If it be let us cease over-sorrowing for them with whom it is better tho in the Grave and begin to sorrow for those with whom it is worse tho they live with us Which is matter of greater sorrow a departed Saint or a living Sinner And shall we drop more Tears for one departed Saint than for twenty living wicked Relations Why so When all these wicked ones are in danger of Hell but the departed Saint is past that danger The ungodly that do live are in danger of Eternal Torments both as to Body and Soul The departed Saint is past the danger thereof both as to Body and Soul For when the Soul is once safe in Heaven the Body is for ever past all danger of Hell Is this it that we sorrow for No verily we do give thanks to God that the Body is in these Circumstances though in the Grave But you say you mourn because they are dead and taken from us Dead But are not we spâ—â—king to Believers that live concerning departâ—â—â—â—lievâ—rs And should not we beliâ—vâ— what God saith concerning them And think and
have none in that day tho others be condemned Do you think this Self-tormenting sorrow for the Damned proceeds from such Mercy in you to them in your imperfect state on Earth when you shall have no Mercy to them nor sorrow foâ— them in your perfect state in Heaven Q. 8. Should not your Zeal for Love to Desire after Delight in the Glory of God over-power and overcome all your passionate sorrow at the concernment of the Creature Is your own Salvation to be sought in subordination to the Gloâ—y of God And would you have the salvâ—tion of yours stand in competition with it or be prâ—ferred before it Would you have God lose his Glory in giving â—â—ing to your Relations If they did not anâ— indeed would not glorifie him by pâ—â—â—â—ent confâ—ssing of their Sin by serious tuâ—ning to him by thankful consenting to a Sâ—viour freeâ—y and frâ—quently offered to them but went on in Sin despised his Grace and slighted his Mercy and abused his Patience and finally refused the only Saviour and all this to his Dishonour in this World while they lived would you have God also to lose the Glory of his Justice Holiness Power and Truth in not punishing them for their Sin thus persistâ—d in when they died in the other World Should you so sorrow beyond all bounds when you mourn for their Death to mourn so much for their Damnation when God most righteously glorifieth himself in most just punishing them for their Sin who by their Sin did so wickedly dishonour him As for the Eternal state of Infants whom the sorrowful Religious Parents follow to the Grave and lodge them in the Dust I shall not now discourse it but think they are to hope well concerning them and tho they be their Parents not to take upon them to be their Judges and when they have passed a Sentence upon them according to their ungrounded fears next torment themselves and pierce themselves through with self-wracking Sorrows CHAP. X. The Ninth and Tenth Rule Five Reasons for great Sorrow for the Death of Ministers Rule 9. OVR sorrow for such as die full of Days and full of Grace and Hopes of Glory should not be so deep as for such that are holy but taken from us in the midst of their Days When an Holy Person Converted when Young hath led an Holy Conversation filled up his Duties in his General and Particular Calling been useful and serviceable in his respective Circumstances hath fought a good Fight hath kept the Faith and finished his Course when the Lease of Man's Life Seventy years is almost out is ripe for Heaven and Nature is worn parts of the Body decayed with Age and with such a Constitution in a Course of Nature could not live much longer but with grief and pains with aches and groans like ripe and mellow Fruit without violent shaking fall to the ground we have more cause to give thanks to God they lived so long served him so much were useful so many years and such a long-standing Comfort to Relations than to be bowed down with sorrow to be filled straitned and loaded with grief that they died at last Wherefore the Survivors of such should reckon up their Mercies take an account of their many Comforts and remember Blessings old and new had and received in the long Enjoyment of such a Relation in Life and then let thankfulness and sorrow joy and grief contend for Victory and strive which should exceed the other and when all is laid together and duly weighed by a Soul that is desirous that God should have the praise of his manifold Mercies in a Relative state almost for Forty years as well as himself have a sense of his loss if Nature prompt him to be sorrowful Grace would provoke him to be thankful but yet if the Contest remain as his Condition is mixt with Mercy and Affliction so let his frame of Heart be mixt with a Tincture of both and let them take their turns that one while he may be sorrowful for his loss another while be thankful for so many Mercies before that loss did befall him Rule 10. Our sorrow for the Death of Godly and Zealous Men that were in a Publick Station and Capacity admits of greater degrees than sorrow for our own Relations as private Persons Tho our sorrow for these may be more sensitive and passionate yet the sorrow for the other may exceed in degrees as more Judicious and Rational Sorrow for Godly Religious Zealous Magistrates for Able Holy and Laborious Ministers when taken away by Death should be more extensive and intensive than for others that did only live a private Life that is there should be more Mourners in number and all these should mourn with greater degrees at least of Rational sorrow for publick Persons than for private Thus all Judah and Jerusalem mourned for Josiah with a very great mourning 2 Chron. 35.24 25. When Samuel died all the Israelites were gathered together and lamented him 1 Sam. 25.1 The hearing that a Minister is Sick should fill many Hearts with much sorrow The hearing that he is recovered is matter of Joy Phil. 2.26 27 28. But the hearing that he is dead should multiply the sorrow of many And there are great Reasons of great sorrow for the death of such 1. The Death of such publick Persons is a publick loss And the more general the loss is the more general the sorrow should be When a private Person dieth that was godly as he was a Praying Christian many are losers by his death for he prayed for many while he lived yea for all Mankind in common and for the Church of God in special and therefore such a Man's death should be lamented by many but when a Publick Preacher dieth many do lose his Preaching Labours as well as the benefit of his fervent Prayers and all that are losers should be Mourners 2. The death of such is a Spiritual Loss Can we sorrow for the Temporal Losses that befall us by the death of private Persons and shall we not sorrow for our loss in Spirituals by the death of such that in their Life were helpers of our Souls in our way to Heaven Was he a Spiritual Father to many and might have been to more Is a Spiritual Birth a greater Mercy than our Natural Birth And shall our Natural Parents be lamented when they die and no sorrow for the other when they can Preach to us and Pray with us and for us no more How many Persons may one Minister instruct What a number might such a one at once and from day to day teach and direct in the way to Eternal Salvation And when such a one dieth what a loss would it be if God in Mâ—rcy did not raise up others when he falleth into his Grave 3. By the Life and Labours of such the Kingdom of Sin and Satan is battered and shaken and the Kingdom of Christ is encreased and carried on therefore all that are
you kill another and so bring in Death upon Death into your Family and invite and call it in to make Freach upon Breach Do you complain of Deaths doings and will you do as Death hath done do you grieve and sorrow for the death of another and by your grief and sorrow will you be your own death and yet not yield your sorrow is too much do you sorrow because yours are lodged in the Grave and do you thus hasten to go to them though God hath put an end to their lives yet hath not he bound you by all lawful means to preserve your own and to avoid whatsoever hath so great a tendency to cut it short or do not you know that excessive grief often is the cause of death Did you never read in the Bills of Mortality that some that many have died with grief and killed themselves with sorrow or did you never mind the difference given by the Apostle betwixt godly sorrow and sorrow of the World for worldly Losses and is not your sorrow such in thâ—s case 2 Cor. 7.10 for godly sorrow worketh râ—pentance to salvation not to be repented of but the sorrow of the world worketh death That sorrow that is for worldly losses and crosses proceeding from the over-much love of these Creature-Comforts doth huâ—â— the Body and hasten death temporal and doth wrong the Soul because sinful and doth deserve death eternal for the wages of every sin is death temporal and eternal Rom. 6.23 and will you so sorrow for another dead body as thereby to deserve the damnation of your own Soul and yet not say it is too much When your Spirit is broken your heart is broken how can you live and what will break it Prov. 15.13 By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken Prov. 17.22 A broken spirit drieth the bones Psal 6.7 My eye is consumed because of grief Immoderate sorrow drieth the Bones breaks the Heart preys upon the Spirits consumeth the Vital Parts and by all hastens death and therefore not to be cherished but avoided Q. 2. Is not that sorrow that must be sorrowed for excâ—ssive sorrow See the strait you bring your self into You sorrow too much and because you do so you must sorrow more and so add sorrow to sorrow ' when it is and because it is too much already you have more than you ought and yet you have not so much as you should you must have sorrow for your sorrow and yet you want sorrow for your sorrow Your eyes run down with tears for your dead more than they should and when you should weep for your excessive sorrow you haâ—e not a tear to shed Why do you waste your tears for what and more than you should and then want tears for what you ought to shed them for Excessive sorrow is a sin because it is excessive and sinful sorrow must be sorrowed for and repented of or how will you else get the pardon of that known Sin What do you mean then by sorrow to draw on sorrow and so to weep that you must weep over your weeping and to shed tears over again for the tears that you have shed if you cannot bear this sorrow that you are filled with already why by this sorrow do you make way for more and fo depth of sorrow calling for depth of sorrow you at last must swim in tears where you cannot wade through Q 3. Is not that sorrow too much that doth hurt and no good is sorrow good in it self as sorrow Then all sorrow would be good Whereas much sorrow is often evil and too much is always evil because as such it doth hurt and not good Whom doth your sorrow do good unto not to your dead be it never so much not to your Relations that live for you grieve them by over grieving and makes your company a burthen and unprofitable to them not to your self neither to Body oâ— to Soul for it is prejudicial unto both as before was made manifest Q. 4. Is not that sorrow too much for your dead which would be too much for your sin Many are defective in sorrowing for sin few sorrow too much for sin yet men may be and some are excessive in their sorrow for sin insomuch that their sorrow for sin is turned into sinful sorrow as when they are so overwhelmed with sorrow for sin as unsits them for other Gospel Duties and drives them from Christ and sinks them into despair which sorrow is excessive and God gives caution and charge against such sorrow sor our sin 2 Cor 2.7 So that cantrariwise ye ought rather to forgive him and comfort him lest perhaps such a one should be swallowed up with ovâ—rmuch sorrow When sorrow for sin doth more hurt than good it is over-much and so is our sorrow for our dead Q. 5. Is not that sorrow too much for your dead which is more than you have for your sin Is not sorrow upon the account of some present evil that is upon us as joy is for some present good and should not the degree of our sorrow bear some proportion to the greatness of the evil that is the cause and reason of our sorrow Is not sin against God a greater evil than any besides sin doth fall upon us Is not your own dead heart and cold affections towards God a greater evil than the dead Corps and cold Flesh in the Grave which is the cause of all this sorrow Now when your sorrow is more for the lesser evil than it is for the greater judge if your sorrow for the greater is not too small and your sorrow for the lesserâ— over-much and excessive Q. 6. Is not that sorrow over-much which carries our thoughts down into the Grave to think of their Dead Corps but hinders them from ascending into Heaven to meditate upon the the Eternal Ever-living God What a shame and reproach is it to us that a dead Wife or a dead Child or a dead Father or Mother should have more of our Thoughts than God and Christ and things above and that the Bodies of our departed Relations consuming in their Graves should have more of our thoughts than their Souls triumphing in Heaven have that it is so our excessive sorrow doth testifie to our faces for we cannot say nor do pretend to sorrow for the Soul in Heaven is it not then for the Body in the Grave And why should not the Joy the Immortal part is filled with abate our Sorrow for the Corruptible part though it be consuming if our thoughts were as much with the Soul in Heaven as they are with the Body in the Grave Let these Excessive Mourners ingenuously confess if they have not twenty thoughts of the Dead Body for one serious heart affecting Thought they have of God and Christ and the living triumphant Soul above for would not the one cause Joy as others do Sorrow and so our Joy mitigate be equal to or exceed our Sorrow if it be
Tho maâ—y things might be had out of the whole Word of God which would much enlarge this Discourse yet I shall that I may Contract pick up the Apostles Arguments in the Text and following Verses of this Chapter as Alleviations of sorrow in this Case because therein he treats designedly upon this Subject Concerning which it is as if he had said Those that are ignorant of or do not believe the Resurrection of the Dâ—ad and a better Life hereafter have ever sorrowful Thoughts of those that are taken away by Death and mourn for them to excess But I would not have you to cherish and maintain such immoderate sorrows by Ignorance of their Case at present and hereafter The Helps against Immoderate Sorrow for our dead given in this Chapter might be reduced to these Four General Heads of Argument 1. The consideration of the state of the Bodies of departed Believers They are fallen asleep and if they sleep in Jesus as they do v. 14. they shall do well 2. The Knowledge and Belief of the state of the separated Soul Their Souls are with Christ Triumphant in Heaven while their Bodies are sleeping in the Grave and these Souls he will bring back with him when he comes 3. The certainty of the Resurrection of the Dead by the Re-union of the same Souls with the same Bodies and so Christ will bring the entire Man with him at the day of Judgment Thus the Hope in the Text is the Hope of the Resurrection of the Dead and confirmed by the next words 4. The Antecedent Concomitant and consequent Circumstances of the Resurrection That is what shall go before what shall accompany and what shall follow after the raising of the dead and all these are laid down in the following part of this Chapter which is a Spring and Fountain of Living Lively Comfort against excessive sorrow for the dead And methinks I feel it already to begin to work It warms my Heart it doth begin to burn within my Breast My Affections move and it seems to me that my sorrow is turning into joy and my heaviness into rejoicing and am put to a stand whether now I shall call my Tears for my dead Tears of Sorrow or of Joy Have we been sorrowing because she is dead Methinks I cannot but joy that she sleeps in Jesus Have we been mourning because the Body is in the Grave Oh how delightful is it to me to think upon such good grounds that the Precious and Immortal Soul is above in yonder glorious Heaven in the presence of the Father and Redeemer and Comforter and in the innumerable company of Angels and saved Souls perfectly Holy and Happy for ever Have we been so much troubled because the Body did fall at the parting stroke of death methinks my trouble is allayed when I am considering and certainly sure that it shall rise and fall no more Is it an aggravating sorrow to look back upon the Circumstances of the Funeral The Bearers carrying the Corps upon their Shoulders the Mourning Relations following and many sorrowful sympathizing Friends coming after to see the dead Body lodged in its long Home Methinks another Affection is ready to take its turn and to act its part even Delight and Joy when I look forward and foresee the Lord a coming and all his Holy Angels with him calling the dead to rise they hear and come forth from their sleeping places and after Judgment go with their Lord into the highest Heavens in Body and Soul not only to their long but last yea Everlasting Home to Live and Love and Joy in God to all Eternity Oh what difference is there between believing Thoughts of these great and glorious certain things and those that have been daily running to the Grave looking upon a consuming Body What wrong have I done my self in hastening to this part no more and coming to it no sooner Why have we been looking so long in the Grave in which as such we can see nothing but death and cry out as the Men to Elisha concerning their deadly Pottage O thou Man of God there is death in the Pot 2 Kings 4.40 So we there is death in the Grave But when Elisha said Then bring Meal and he cast it into the Pot and he said pour out for the people that they may eat and there was no harm in the Pot. So we should have looked upon the Grave as a place where Christ before had been laid and as a Bed for the Bodies of Believers to sleep in till the Lord shall come and we should have seen no such great harm in the Grave to fill us with excessive sorrow Concerning this representation of death by sleeping four things may be premised as to this manner of Scripture expression 1. Tho Beasts do die yet their death in Scripture that I know of is never called a Sleep for they die to live no more Death puts an end to their Life without a Resurrection to it any more They are only in this World and not to have Life in that World that Men are hastening too They are not capable here of Moral Government of Sin or Grace and so shall not be raised to undergo Eternal Punishments or to receive Eternal Rewards hereafter Tho they do sleep while they live yet their death is not a sleep because they shall die but never wake 2. The death of ungodly Men is sometimes in Scripture called a sleep tho more seldom The worst as well as the best all Mankind in general shall be raised at the last day As death is common to all so shall the Resurrection of the dead also be Tho as there is a difference in their death so shall there also be in their Resurrection but because they shall awake therefore to them death also is a sleep Tho they had better to sleep on than to awake and rise to be tormented Dan. 12.2 And many of them that sleep in the dust of the Earth shall awake some to â—verlasting Life and some to Shame and Everlasting Contempt Expressed by Christ in these words John 5.28 All that are in their Graves shall hear his voice 29. And shall come forth they that have done good unto the Resurrection of Life and they that have done evil to the Resurrection of Damnation 3. It is most frequently used concerning the death of holy and believing persons that they may familiarize it to themselâ—es and get as great a willingness to die as to go to Bed and sleep So God said to Moses he should sleep with his Fathers Deut. 31.16 So of David 2 Sam. 7.12 So Mat. 9.24 When Christ said our Friend Lazarus sleepeth the Disciples thought he spake of his taking natural rest in sleep but after explained his meaning saying he is dead John 11.11 12 13. So Acts 13.36 4. The Expression of sleeping in Jesus is to be understood peculiarly of the death of true Believers that shall be awaked to live with him in Eternal
Glory 1 Thes 4.15 Impenitent Persons go night after night to their Beds and sleep in their Sin and at last die in their Sin But it is peculiar to sanctified Persons to die in the Lord and sleep in Jesus Carnal unbelieving Men might laugh this Doctrine to Scorn as they did Jesus that taught it and say We know that they are dead And death is death whatsoever name you call it by and what Comfort can we have from Words and Names against such a real Evil as death is Luke 8.49 Thy daughter is dead trouble not the Master 52. And all wept and bewailed her but he said weep not she is not dead but sleepeth 53. And they laughed him to scorn knowing that she was dead But since the most Wise and Ever-living God hath called death so often by such a Name there is some supporting Comfort in it against the fears of our oâ—n and excessive sorrow for the death of otâ—ers Let 's search and try 1. Our Dead are sleeping therefore they are at rest from all Troubles from men Those that would not suffer them to rest in Life cannot hinder their rest in Death They that would not let them rest in their Beds in their Houses upon Earth will let them rest in the Bed of the Grave the house appointed for all the living in the Bowels of the Earth or if they should dig up their dry Bones yet they cannot hereby disturb their rest for they are not sensible of any more trouble To go to Bed and sleep and to go to Bed and take our rest are words importing the same thing Isa 57. 1. The Righteous are taken away from the evil to come 2. He shall enter into peace they shall rest in their Beds Job 3.11 Why dyed I not from the Womb 13. For now should I have lain still and been quiâ—t I should have slept then had I been at rest 17. There the wicked cease from troubling and there the weary be at rest 18. There the Prisoners rest together they hear not the voice of the Oppressor 19. The small and great are there and the Servant is free from his Master 2. Death as a Sleep affords us the meditatiâ—n of that freedom that our Dead have from those pains and sense of them which they had before they fell Asleep Then they did complain of pain in one part and sometimes in another and another while that their pain was all over in every part Are not the sound of their words yet in our Ears You do not know what we do feel All their wearisome days are now over and their tedious nights are past and gone there is no more wishing in the Evening O that it were Morning nor in the Morning O that it were Evening There is no more complaining This Night is a long Night because it is a painful Night and this Day is a tedious Day because it is a Day of so great and sharp Affliction Their Life is gone and all their Sickness Pain and bodily Griefs are all gone As when a Person in his Sickness hath something given him to cause him to sleep in his sleep he is not sensible of his Sickness so those that are fallen asleep in that sleep are no more sensible of such Pains that with us they complained of 3. Death as a Sleep yields us these Thoughts that our Dead are freed from all worldly Cares and piercing Sorrows those Cares did bring along with them If Persons have had their Heads full of worldly Thoughts all the Day and have busied them in buying and selling and trading in contriving and projecting for their worldly Interest and Advantage yet when fast asleep in their Beds they mind none of all these things they matter not nor do they regard what others awake are doing nor whither they are going nor the Pleasures they are taking nor the Evil they are suffering nor the Sin they are committing All these things that took up their Thoughts when alive they are freed from when fallen asleep 2 Kings 22.20 Behold I will gather thee to thy Fathers and thou shalt be gathered into thy Grave in peace and thine eyes shall not see all the Evil that I will bring upon this place In this Sleep they are so quiet that they do not so much as dream of any of these things 4. Death as a sleep tho it be a deep sleep helps us to the Thoughts how easie it will be for God to awaken them They sleep so fast that no created power can raise them out of their sleep but it is more easie to Almighty Power to awaken those that are sleeping in their Graves than for you to awaken one that is sleeping in his Bed Lazarus was sleeping in his Grave Christ gave a call spoke the word Lazarus come forth and he that was dead came forth and tho' he was bound hand and foot with Grave-cloaths yet he came forth Joh. 11.43 44. So Christ with a word with a call waked Jairus his Daughter out of the sleep of Death Jesus called saying Maid arise and her Spirit came again and she arose straightway Luke 8.54 55. So also the Son of the Widow of Naim dead and carried out to be Buried Christ did but touch the Bier or Coffin and say Young man I say to thee arise and he that was dead sat up and began to speak Luk 7.14 15. If Death be a sleep this is our Comfort it is easie for God to awaken them 5. Death as a Sleep administers this comfortable matter to our minds that it will not be a perpetual sleep For being but a sleep they can be awakened and because it is a Sleep they shall be awakened for if your Child or Father or Mother or your self at Night go to Bed and sleep do not you reckon and suppose you shall wake in the Morning And you are not troubled to lay your Child asleep when you have hopes and expectation it will wake again When did you go to sleep without waking after sleep This Comfort this representation of Death doth bring unto us that as we saw the time when ours fell asleep so there will be a Day when they shall awake 6. Death as a Sleep suggests to our Thoughts that the Bodies of thâ—se that Sleep in Jesus shall be much altered for the best when they awake out of their sleep If you are weary with Working or Travelling all the Day you go to sleep at Night and in the Morning you say tho you went weary to Bed yet by Sleep you are greatly refreshed and as fit to Work or Travel as you were the Day before When your Child complains he is not well you hasten to have him to Bed and say go to sleep You will be better after you have slept Sure I am these Bodies that are sick and weak and weary when they fall Asleep in Jesus will be wonderfully refreshed and be much better when after this Sleep they shall awake 7. Death as a
him may assuredly satisfie us that such shall also be raised Firmly believe the one and you cannot or need not doubt of the other 1 Cor. 15.12 Now if Christ be preached that he rose from the dead how say some among you that there is no Resurrection of the dead 13. But if there be no Resurrection of the dead then Christ is not risen 15. Whom he raised not up if so be the dead rise not 16. For if the dead rise not then is not Christ raised 1 Thes 4.14 For if we believe that Jesus dyed and rose again even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him Thirdly The gross Absurdities that unavoidably follow the denial of the Deads being raised may confirm us that they shall be raised They are such as these 1. Then Christ is not risen 1 Cor. 15.13 2. If Christ be not risen and so the Dead shall not be raised then Ministers preaching and Peoples believing is all in vain v. 14. 3. Then the Apostles were Liars and false for they affirmed both 1 Cor. 15.15 and in other Texts 4. Then those that are Dead in Christ are perished v. 18. 5. Then the best men are the most miserable v. 19. 6. Then a floodgate is opened to all wickedness v. 32. 7. Gods People then are weakened for doing or suffering v. 58. 8. Then Gods Covenant with his People is broke Mat. 22.39 c. Secondly Besides the certainty of the Resurrection of the Dead the consideration of the Properties Qualities and Endowments of their Bodies which shall arise administers more Comfort to us and consequently will be a further mitigation of our Sorrow God hath not only assured us that these dry Bones consumed Bodies shall live but also hath foretold us what manner of Bodies they then shall be far more noble and excellent than when they lived or died 1. They shall be raised Immortal and Incorruptible Bodies While they lived with us they were always mortal and did admiâ—ister matter of feâ—r unto us while we ofâ—en said 〈◊〉 thought What if my Husband should die or what iâ— my Father or Mother should die These were fretting fears and caused many distrâ—cting Cares or troubled us sitting at our Table or lying in our Beds because we knew they were always subject to Death and liâ—ble to its stroke and we knâ—w not how soon tho in Health they might be taken from us and so the feâ—rs of their dying abated our Comfort in th m while they were living because we looked upon thâ—m as dying Comforts and going from us whilst they were with us But when theâ— live again they shall die no more Death shâ—ll have no more dominion over them Then thâ—y shall be above the stroke of death and the fears thereof and it shall be no more a King of Terrors unto them But as Christ their Heâ—d hath said Rev. 1.18 I am he that liveth and was dead and behold I am alive for evermore Amen so all these his Members shall say We are they that live and were dead and behold we are alive for evermore Amen This is truth so it is When Death came in by Sin all mankind became subject unto Death When Sin was turned out by death and these Bodies shall be raised no more polluted with it they shall be as free from Death as they shall from Sin before they did die they were to die When they were dead and shall live again Death hath done its worst hath done its all and hath no more that it can do Death did conquer them and laid and kept them Prisoners in the Grave but when they shall be raised to Life and redeemed from the Grave they shâ—ll conquer Death and then this last Enemy shall be destroyed and in the morning of the Resurrection these revived Bodies united to their Souls shall sing that triumphant Song O Death where is thy sting O Grave where is thy victory Death and Grave did swallow us up but now the Destroyers are destroyed the Spoilers are spoiled and both are swallowed up in victory Thus the Bodies that were sown in corruption shall be raised in incorruption 1 Cor. 15.42.54 55. then Mortality shall be swallowed up of Life 2 Cor. 5.4 2. They shall be raised powerful and impassible Bodies While they lived here they were weak and suffering Bodies enduring hunger and cold and thirst crying out of Pains and Sickness or torments by Chollick Gout and Stone and Rheumatisms shaken by Agues and scorched by Feavors and swelling with Dropsie torn with Coughs overflowed with Catarrhs and liable to hundreds of Diseases insomuch that they died daily yea died many Deaths before they died and many Sicknesses put them to more and greater pains in time of Life than Death it self did put some of them to in the point of Death but when they shall live again as they shall die no mâ—re so they shall suffer no more nor be sick any more feel hunger and thirst no more and so shall grieve nor groan weep or sigh or sob no more for ever no more aking Heâ—ds no more pained Bowels no more Griefs of any sort whatsoever Indeed the Bodies of the Wicked shall be raised Immortal but subject to suffering they shall feel more pains and torments after they are raised than ever they did before they died and their Immortality shall be the aggravation of their misery for die again they would but cannot return to their Grave again where they felt nothing they would but must not because they must live for ever they must be tormented for ever Immortality of Bodies at the Resurrection to the Wicked is a Curse and Plague to the Godly it is a Blessing and a Favour conferred upon them for tho' they were sown in weakness they shall be raised in power 1 Cor. 15.43 3. They shall be raised Spiritual Bodies not turned into Spirits for then they would not be Bodies Spirits have not material Eyes with which Job said he should see his Redeemer at the last day with those he then had and not with others if it were not the same Bodies in substance it would not be a Resurrection but a new product on They shall then be Spiritual Bodies in this respect that their manner of Life shall be like the Life of Spirits having no need of Meat or Drink or Sleep or any such things whereby our Natural Bodies in this Life are supported and maintained In which respect Christ asserts that they shall be as the Angels Mat. 22.30 In the Resurrection they neither marry nor are given in Marriage but are as the Angels of God in Heaven This will be a great priviledge of Bodies raised from the dead at the last day for nâ—â— we spend a great part of our Life in Sleep for the refreshing of our Natural Bodies arâ— in that time we are not nor cannot be taken up with Admirations of God nor Contemplations of Divine things but after the Resurrection there shall be no
it is a sorrowful saying May Sin invite Death into your Families saying Come in thou Messenger of the Lord come in here is one deserves to dye and there is another seize him and hale him out apprehend him and take him away he lives not as he should let him die as he ought May it shortly be said by you my Wife is dead my Husband is dead and is Grace and Nature in you so equally poized and have you such a just temperament and mixture of both as not to sorrow less or more than you ought that now your Relations are round about your Tables and no ones place is empty you might not at present hear for time so shortly to come what might be said concerning Sorrow for the dead and cure your ignorance concerning them which are asleep that you sorrow not as others which have no hope or tho they dye yet you sorrow not as such do not that have neither Faith nor Hope nor natural Affection Nature and Religion binding me to promote the temporal and spiritual Good of so near a Relation all a long pressed more hard upon me to give my utmost diligence to assist her in her last Sickness by Night and Day by Prayer and Discourse that she might and God through his rich Grace and Mercy in Christ to her Soul did enable her with abiding comfort and setled hope of Heaven look Death in the face overcome this King of Terrors and conquer the Fears thereof when Death by its stroke without a Sting did conquer her This Portion of Scripture from the Text to the end of this Chapter was the last I read and urged before she left her own to go to her Father's house which I do make the first to explain and apply in this place for my own and your sake Wherein are three generals 1. A Doctrinal Conclusion concerning Sorrow for such as sleep in Jesus or dye in the Lord v. 13. 2. The Confirmation of it by many argumentative Reasons and are helps against sinful Sorrow by excess from ver 14. to the 18. 3. The Application of this Doctrine so confirmed or the use of Comfort to be made of it against such Sorrows V. 18. Wherefore comfort one another with these words The Doctrinal Conclusion laid down in the Text consists of these particulars 1. A familiar Representation of Death that the thoughts of it might be more easy to our minds to dye sounds more harsh to sleep is a softer expression of Death Death and Grave you would every day avoid Sleep and Bed you every night desire yet Death is but as a Sleep and the Grave is but as a Bed and both so called in the Scripture 2. The Deportment and Behaviour of the Survivers in reference to such as sleep the sleep of Death which relates unto their Sorrow upon this occasion And in this these two things are couched in the Text. 1. A Sorrow supposed granted and allowed to the living for their dead For should the living be as senseless as the dead when Death hath taken away Life and Breath and Motion from them shall Sin take away all workings of natural Affections from us Shall Death snatch them out of our Bosoms force them out of our Arms and tear one piece of our selves from our selves take the one half away and leave the other behind and we stand and look on without a Tear in our Eyes without Sorrow in our Hearts as if we had neither sense of Gods heavy Hand nor love to them nor feeling of the stroke that thereby is laid upon our selves Sorrow we may tho not as others 2. Excess of Sorrow is corrected Lay not the Reins loose upon your Affections lest they carry you to Sin in your Sorrow Lavish not those Tears in washing your dead which should be kept for lamenting of your Sins Let there be a difference betwixt your Sorrow and the Sorrow of others as there should 〈◊〉 betwixt those that have hope and those that have no hope of a joyful Resurrection to Eternal Glorious Life The Heathens have no such hope for they are without Christ the cause of hope without the Church the place of hope without the Covenant the ground and reason of hope While you are allowed to mourn as Men do not exceed the bounds and limits becoming Christian Men. The Heathens mourn for their dead beyond all bounds of Moderation while they lament them as such that shall live no more But let Christians limit their Sorrow as for such that tho they be dead shall live again and after that shall die no more 3. In the Text is the Cause of excessive Sorrow for the dead that is Ignorance concerning the State of the Dead now and hereafter at the present and for ever both as to Body and to Soul 4. The cure of excessive Sorrow Knowledg Meditation and firm belief of the present and future State of those that dye in the Lord. I would not have you to be ignorant others are and therefore mourn to excess but I would not have you so to be that you may not sorrow as they do Did ye know think and believe that their Death is but a Sleep out of which they shall certainly awake their Graves their Beds out of which when the morning of the Resurrection shall come they shall arise and that their Souls in the mean time are with God and Christ and the Eternal Spirit admitted into that glorious Society of Angels and Saints above perfectly Loving constantly delighting perpetually Praising and Triumphing in that God that did chuse them in that Jesus that did redeem them with his Blood in that Holy Spirit that made them meet to be partakers of that Inheritance of yonder Saints in Light and Life and Love would you groan while they rejoyce Would you mourn while they sing Songs of Praise Are you grieved because they are exalted Do you take on as if they were for ever lost when by saving Mercy they are now for ever found in the glorious Presence of their Lord and Father and Redeemer Could you hear them speak to you they would say you are in daily Trouble we in everlasting Rest and Peace and Triumph you are in the Field we have got the Victory you are in danger of Sin and Satan we are freed from them for ever your love unto our Lord and yours is imperfect love while ours wanteth no degree you know not what we do know of God and Christ and Glory you see not what we do see nor enjoy so much as we enjoy therefore spend your Tears upon your selves and not for us weep for your selves and not for us lament your selves being yet in a sinful World and not us that are lodged in a pure spotless Place and Kingdom You pray and wait and hope to be where we are but we have no desire to be where you be We have a better House than you live in better Company and better Work and sweeter Imployment
removed from them Mary and Martha lamented the death of their Brother Lazarus John 11.19 Many of the Jews came to Martha and Mary to comfort them concerning their brother 31. The Jews which were with her in the house and comforted her when they saw Mary that she rose up hastily and went out followed her saying she goeth to the Grave to weep there 32. When Mary was come where Jesus was and saw him she fell down at his feet saying unto him Lord if thou hadst been here my brother had not died 33. Jesus saw her weeping Can Brethren and Sisters that descended from the same Parents that were bred in the same Womb sucked the same Breasts brought up together in the same Family see any of them carried to the Grave before them and not follow with weeping Eyes and sorrowful Hearts 4. Ministers heretofore have not died unlamented nor followed to their Graves without Weeping and Sorrow They that watched over the People while they lived were bewailed by the People when they fell asleep When Death did tye their Tongues and silence them when the Seers eyes have been closed and the feet of them that brought the glad tidings of Salvation to lost Sinners are fettered by the bands of Death that they can come and bring no more When they that brake the Bread of Life became meat for Worms and could pray with them and for them and preach to them no more when they had done their work then the Peoples sorrows did begin The children of Israel wept for Moses thirty days Deut. 34.8 And for Aaron Numb 20.29 When all the congregation saw that Aaron was dead they mourned for Aaron thirty days even all the house of Israel When Samuel died all the Israelites were gathered together and lamented him 1 Sam. 25.1 Stephen was not buried without much sorrow Acts 8.2 Devout men carried Stephen to his burial and made great lamentation over him But now Ministers Widows and Children might mourn when many others are not concerned for them living or dying 5. Tho now in our Iron Age some can scarce sorrow for departed Relations yet in former times they have greatly mourned for servants that have died out of their Families Deborah that was Rebecca's Nurse belonging to Isaac's house had her Funeral attended with Tears Gen. 53.8 Deborah Rebecca's nurse died and she was buried beneath Bethel under an oak and the name of it was called Allon Buchuth that is the oak of weeping because of the many Tears that were shed at her burial 6. The compassionate Bowels the troubled Heart the weeping Eyes of our Lord Jesus for a departed Believer are significant Indications of the Sorrow there should be upon such Dispensations of Divine Providence When Lazarus was dead Mary and Martha wept the Jews wept and when Jesus came after he was buried he wept also he was troubled with them that were troubled and wept with them that wept for their dead on which occasion he was troubled he groaned he wept John 11.33 35. If all these did thus sorrow fo their dead may not we for ours Dear Jesus when thou didst not rebuke Martha and Mary weeping for their deceased Brother but didst weep with them didst not shew thine Anger but thy Pity to them in their Sorrow for the removal of a Brother from them keep us that are concerned because afflicted from sinful Sorrow and shew thy Compassion to us whilest we do case our burthened Hearts by venting of our Sorrow and weeping out our Grief Since we have so many approved Examples of Holy Men and Women that in the like case have sorrowed in the like manner Secondly Defect of Sorrow where there is true cause of Sorrow is a falling short of the exercise of those Affections which God himself hath implanted in our Hearts Why hath God given us the Affection of Love but that it may be set upon objâ—cts of Love And the Affection of Delight and Joy but that we may rejoyce when God affords us matter of Joy And why the Affection of Grief and Sorrow but that we should duly grieve when his dealings with us call aloud and provoke us to it And if Losses are causes of and calls to Sorrow what greater loss in things below than the loss of such as should be dearer to us than all things here below Religion doth not destroy Nature but rectify it Grace doth not abolish natural Affections but directs them to their Objects and keeps them in their due Proportion that as they should not be excessive so not defective in their measure Thirdly Love to and delight in Relations while they live must needs constrain our Sorrow when by death removed from us What is that which you truly and duly love and delight in the enjoyment of that you can forbear to sorrow for the loss of Nay if it be unduly loved as a worldly Man doth his Riches when lost can sorrow be concealed And shall not we be allowed to love near Relations more than worldly Riches and so to sorrow more for the loss of the one than of the other I do know what it is to meet with losses of the World but I do not know that they did break my Sleep but I cannot deny but my late loss of one so near hath kept mine Eyes waking in the deep silence of the Nights How any should have due due degrees of Love to Husband Wife Parents or Children while they live and not have equal Sorrow for them when they dye is not easy for me to give a rational Account of For if the Goodness of the Object beget love to it the Absence of it excites desires after it the loss of it must fill us with Sorrow for it Want of Sorrow when they are taken from us doth argue want of Love while they were continued with us If you groan not at their Death there is room for this question Were not you burdened with their Life Did you look upon that Relation when alive as one of your Enjoyments when you do not look upon the Death of such a one as one of your Afflictions When Husband and Wife are known not to live in love every one hath a Tongue to say Such will not mourn for her Death How should he afflict his heart with Grief when separated by Death when it was empty of Love when joyned in Life David's different Carriage at the death of his Son Absalom and of his young Child doth not shew that when he had so much Sorrow for the one he had no Sorrow for the other but that he had something to moderate his sorrow for the one which he had not for the other when he had hopes that the one was saved and fears that the other was damned Fourthly The want of lamentation and mourning is a punishment that God inflicts upon Sinners at their Death Job 27.13 This is the portion of a wicked man with God and the heritage of oppressors which they shall receive of
God hath a right to mine because he had redeemed them with his Blood and sanctified them by his Grace and Spirit and thereby set the Mark and Character of his own upon them and what had I to do to desire to keep his own with me when he had a purpose to call them and take them home unto himself If I had forfâ—ited the Mercy of their staying with me God retained his right to dispose of them at his pleasure therefore tho I have much to say against my self I have nothing to say against God or his proceedings with me in what he hath done unto me or taken from me But when our sorrow comes to be turbulent Passion we muâ—mur and think we do well we â—epâ—â—e and justifie our evil Act and Sorrow and think we do well to sorrow on till it break over all Banks and Bounds of Modâ—ration like Jonah when God himself did ask him Dost thou well to be angry Answered yes I do well to be angry even to the death Jon. 4.9 In this case such a one being asked do you well to sorrow thus when you see God hath done his holy Will And all your sorrow is unprofitable to the dead and hurtful to your self in Excess of passionate sorrow doth reply Yes I do well to sorrow even unto death God hath afflicted me and I am afflicted and I am sorrowful and will be so Will you But pray you take heâ—d what thoughts you have of God the mean while for in turbulent sorrow its hard not to have hard and unworthy Thoughts of God and to justifie him in the midst of vexing sorrows Ans 7. In kindly sorrow for our dead our Eyes are more clear to see our Mercies in our Affliction and what God continueth to us as well as what he taketh away from us So when Children thus mourn for their dead Mother they can see Mercy in a Living Father or for a Father taken from them by death can read tho with Tears in their Eyes God's sparing Mercy in continuing their Mother Parents mourning for the death of one Child can take notice of the goodness of God in preserving the rest from the Jaws of Death and say Where God hath taken away one he might have taken two where two he might have taken all he hath taken away some and therefore we sorrow under his heavy hand but yet he hath pleased to leave more with us than he hath removed from us and therefore in our Affliction come upon us we can see God's Mercy to us or if he hath taken more than he hath left yet we have one still and in our sorrow for our dead we can see much Mercy in one Child that doth Live But when our sorrow for our dead comes to be turbulent and the Actings of corrupt Affections the sense of the Less of one Relation takes away all thankfulness for and content in all the râ—st Parents setting their Hearts upon one Child more than all the râ—st and the Love they had to that one did equal the Love to all the othâ—r they loving that most and too much God singles that out first for a Prisoner of Death and then the remaining can scarce be called Mâ—rcies if moved to mitigate their sorrow for the one that is dead by the sight of those that live say What tell you us of these when the other is gone What are these tho with us when the other is taken away from us Thus Jacob coulâ— tâ—ke no comfort from all his Sons and Daâ—ghters wheâ— he supposed his Son Joseph was dâ—ad Gen. 37.33 34 35. But correct your turbulent â—orroâ— which hinders the sigâ—t of â—â—â—d'â— Mercy in thâ—m thaâ— live lâ—st he by death remove them also and make you groan and sigh and sâ—b fâ—r them when dead which yoâ— could see no Mercy in because one did die before Ans 8. In kindly sorrow for our dead we can better sympathize with others exercised with the like dealings of God Many can sorrow for their own dead that are not affected with the death of the Relations of others especially such as are turbulently sorrowful for their own Vexing Passion in our selves is joined with least compassion to others as we narrow our Love too much to our selves and where Self-love is too much Love to others is the less or none so the sorrow for the Evils that befall our selves when vexatious and corroding is less or none for the Afflictions that come upon others Tâ—ey think their Tears are few enough to express their own sorrows or too precious to be wasted for the sorrows of others These are more hard-hearted than Jews who wept with Mary and Martha for their dâ—ceased Brother Ans 9. In kindly sorrow for our dead we shall be more mindful of our own Death and stirred up to greater Care to make Holy Preparations for it As soon as David did hear his Child was deâ—d hâ— said I must go down to it When you sorrow rightly following your dead to their Gâ—â—ve you will have serious thoughts of your own My Wife is gone and I shall shortly follow My Husband is dead and so must I be too Our Mother is loâ—ged in the Dust and after a while we must be carried to lye by her therefore we will so mourn that we may reserve some Tears of Repentance for our Sin that as our Bodies must go to her Body in the Grave so our Souls may go to her Soul in the highest Heaven But turbulent sorrow for the dead is as if they again should never live and hinders their thoughts of their own Mortality as if they should never die While they are thinking in how many days they shall Bury their dead they are hoping how many years yet they shall live What turbulent discomposing besotting sorrow is this that when these Mourners stand and see the Corps they mourn over let down into the Grave cannot see where e're long they themselves shall be lodged Ans 10. In kindly sorrow for our dead we shall be moved to perform our Relative Duties with more Tenderness and Kindness with more Care and Love to those Relations that yet are with us When the Mother is dead the Father must shew more Care than he did before or did need to do because their Mother did much ease him of it So when the Father is dead the more the Mother should take Care accordding to her Capacity When Father or Mother or both are dead the natural kindly sorrow for them will dispose their Children as Brothers and Sisters to discharge their Relative Duties and live in greater Love than ever When Jacob was dead Joseph mourned all his Brethren mourned all went up to Bury their Father and at his Burial mourned greatly After this Joseph and his Brethren returned into Egypt they remembâ—ing how cruel they had been to Joseph said Now our Father is dead our Brother will certainly requite us for all the Evil we did to him but Josâ—ph was but
newly come out of the House of Mâ—urning and he said Fear not I will nourish you and your little ones and he comforted them and spake kindly to them Gen. 50.15 21. Our mourning for the dead should end in the mending of our Carriage and the regulating of our Affections towards the Living When we are mouâ—ning for the loss of one we should be seeking the Temporal and Spirituâ—l good of the rest that yet are found with us When God hath made a Breach in our Family for whiâ—h we sorrow we must be mâ—king up the Breaches of our Duties by filling up what before was wanting Death hath made a brâ—ach in our Houses a wide bâ—each which cannot be repaired for our Dead shall never be restored to us and Sin hath made a breach in our Comforts by the breach it made in our Duties the mourning for the breach by death in those taken from us should issue in repairing the breaches in our Duties to those that are continued to us Do we sorrow much for them that are dead whom we loved too much while they did live Let the greatness of our sorrow for the one moderate our Love unto the other Do we sorrow for our dead because we did not Love them with as great a Love as we should while they were with us let this sorrow produce due greater Love to them that do remain If sorrow for our dead do not mend our faults towards the Living it is a dead and fruitless ineffectual sorrow The Living should find some advantage by our sorrow for the dead Were you froward in your Family before and shall not your sorrow meeken your Spirit for time to come Did not you take care for the Religious Education of a Child that is dead and shall not your sorrow for him and the neglect of your Duty to him move you to make up to the Living what was wanting to the Dead Did not Children obey their Father before he died If they mourn kindly for a dead Father will they not yield better Obedience to their Living Mother And say Dear and Sorrowful Mother we were wanting in our Duty to our Father when he was with us for which we are sâ—rry now he is taken from us but be not grieved over-much and we will supply the want of our Duty to him by making up the more to you as long as God shall lend yon unto us We were a grief to him but we will be a comfort unto you We will indeavour to be as good to you as we were bad to him On his Dying Bed he did complain of us for our stubborn Carriage towards him but Mother since you have lost a Loving Husband and we a tender Father for whom you and we do now sorrow we will carry our selves towards you with that reverence obedience and honour to you that you shall not complain of us on your Dying Bed as our Father did on his CHAP. VI. Resolves this Question When is our Sorrow for our dead spiritually defective tho it be naturally abundant Or when is it too little as we are Christians be it never so much as we are Men VSE III. A Caution to the Mourners for their Dead is necessary because sorrow as sorrow or sorrow as great sorrow is not all in this case to be minded but how it ought to be regulated not only as we are Men but also as we are Christians If we sorrow not at all we are unworthy of the name of men because without the workings of those natural Affections in the Principle common to all men If we sorrow with turbulent Passion vexatious fretting Grief we sorrow as sinful men we may sin in our sorrow as well as in the want of it Which is worst let the offending judge If we sorrow as the meer fruit of Natural Affection with a kindly sorrow and not turbulent we sorrow but as men because we do no more than the Human Nature prompts and puts us on to do But a greater Task lyeth upon us as Christians and to an higher step it becomes us to ascend in our sorrow as we have a Principle of Grace higher than all Principles of Nature and the Scripture a more perfect Rule to govern our sorrow by to purifie and refine it than the Light of Nature is In the first Vse we spake to such as for want of sorrow under the Loss of near Relations and of sense of God's Afflicting Hand that took them from us seem not to be men while we see them to be men but below the Rank of men in the shape of men In the second Vse we pointed at them that sorrowed as men with a kindly sorrow distinguishing them from those that sorrow as sinful men with a turbulent sorrow vitiated with the Actings of corrupt Nature In this third Vse we shall speak of sorrow in our present case not meerly as Humane but as Christian and distinguish the one from the other Do not think me over-tedious on this Sorrowful Subject for herein I do not only consult the helping of my self to bear the Hand of God upon me and the searching of my own sorrow of what kind it is but the common good of mortal men whose case in one House or other one House or other In many Houses in this great City wherein many Hundreds die every Week this must be the common case of many every day When I sit in my Study and hear the sound of that which you call the Passing-bell in the next Parish to us Cripplegate Lord think I how many art thou calling to mourn as well as me and mine And tho you speak of a Passing-bell in common course of Speech and have not your Hâ—arts affected with tâ—e hearing of your Ears yet to me it makes a doleful sound while I think it is a Passing-bell for whither are they passing their Bodies from their Houses to their Graves from the Company of their Friends and Relations to be Companions of Worms and their Souls into Eternity of Joy or Torment to God and Christ and Holy Angels or to the Devil and his Angels for ever and so pass from us as no more to return unto us out of one World into another and so pass from this to that as to find no passage from that to this any more for ever Those that have past from us to the World of Immortal Spirits out of Time into Eternity have left us behind as Mourners not for their Gain which is cause of Joy but for our own Loss which to us is cause of sorrow and our Duty is to enquire further into the Nature of it which because you must die may be useful to your sorrowful Relations or your Relations must die and leave you to mourn for them and many every day have cause of sorrow by the death of some or other the Case being a common Case but the Question not a common Question I shall propound it and endeavour to resolve it When is
What do you call it Natural Sorrow Sorrow of Men as Men But where is your Christian Sorrow And the Sorrow you should have as renewed sanctified Men Or should tend by the spiritual Improvement of the Death of your Relation to make you such Should you not say Is my Child dead and my Soul not mended by its Death My Heart as hard and as worldly as before Hath God been smiting me and cannot I feel Hath God been correcting me for my Sin and cannot I yet grieve and groan weep and sorrow for my Sin Hath Death separated me and my Relation and do I sorrow for that And hath not Sin separated God and me and do not I sorrow for this Do I sit and sorrow because I shall enjoy the company of this Relation no more and have I no grief and sorrow that by my Sin I have forfeited the enjoyment of God for ever Is not God better than the Creature and the Enjoyment of God better sweeter than the Enjoyment of the Creature and the lose of God a greater and more bitter loss than the loss of my Relation And yet have I so many Tears for the loss of the lesser and not one for the loss of the greater Good Did I take the Creature for my God that I sorrow more for the loss of it than I do for the real loss of him that is indeed the only True Living and Eternal God Hath God been laying Gall and Wormwood on the Creatures Breast to wean me from the Love of this present World and do not I improve his stroke to call off my Affections from it When my Children did live I then pretended that my worldly Cares was to make Provisions for them hath God taken them away and do my worldly care still remain as much as when I had them to provide for May I not see the deceitfulness of my heart and turn my sorrow from mourning for my Dead to mourning for making no better Improvement of their Death Did I give that Love to them which was due to God and now I have not them to lâ—ve should not God have my love and more of it Did I place so much comfort in their Life and should not I seek my comforts now from God when I find my Creature-comforts thus do fail me Did I take delight in conversing with them and now that delight is ceased and gone should not I improve this disappointment in seeking and endeavouring after and labouring for more Communion with God And if I cannot find this Affliction sanctified to me should not I sorrow less for the loss of my Relation and cease mourning so much as I am a Man and turn my mourning into sorrowing far want of an holy Improvement of my loss and at lost begin to sorrow as a Christian man in this case should sorrow 5. When you sorrow more for their Death than that you are yet so much unprepared for your own And that you have improved your time and means of Grace no more to get ready for Death and Judgment after Death and Heaven after Judgment Your Father or Mother Husband or Wife died with well-grounded hopes of Heaven on their Dying-bed conquered the Fears of Death and rejoyced in the hope of the Glory of God expressed their thankfulness to God that they had had that Communion with God the experience whereof did so much then delight them that they would not have been without for all the Riches of the World And you are yet under doubts and fears afraid to think of Death because you do not know whether then you shall be damned or saved because you cannot tell whether you have believed or repented and yet you sorrow for them as men go sorrow because of your own Fears and Dangers you are in 6. When you sorrow more for your own loss than you do for your discontent and impatient murmuring at the Hand of God because of your loss and do not sorrow for your excessive Sorrow Natural Sorrow when it is vitiated with the acting of corrupt Nature will soon work up to discontent and impatience to repining and harbouring of hard thoughts and sometimes blasphemous Thoughts against the blessed glorious God If God did love me why hath he dealt thus with me If he had a kindness for me why hath he taken his kindness from me If God govern the World by his Wisdom why doth he take away those that are a comfort to their Relations and continue those that are a cross and a curse and a plague unto them Forbear say no more think no more these Thoughts but if in your Sorrow you have such things unworthy of God arising in your mind cease sorrowing for your Dead and speedily begin and hold on to lament and bitterly bewail such abominable Motions in your hearts and spare your Tears to mourn for this great Wickedness and pray That these Thoughts of your heart may be forgiven you For should God's afflicting hand lay you down at his Foot and doth your corrupt heart let fly such sinful Actings in his Face Or will you mourn for your Affliction by the Instigation of natural Affection as a Man and not at all grieve and groan sigh and sob lament and bewail the Exorbitancy of your Passion tho it work to so great a Provocation of a Just and Powerful God and by such discontent risen to such an height shew your self a corrupt Man and by not sorrowing for these sinful workings of heart shew your self to be no Religious Man 7. When you sorrow more for your outward worldly loss by the Death of your Relation than you do for your distrust in the Promises and Providence of God to provide for you A Wife had a dependency upon her Husband and Children on their Father under God He dies and their trust in God dieth with him What shall we do now for a maintenance For supply of our wants Who shall give us Bread to eat and Raiment to put on Is not this to mourn more like an Heathen than a Christian Can God provide for you no way but one By no other means than by him that was an Husband or a Father to you You are short in your Christian Sorrow while you are excessive in your Turbulent Sorrow 8. When you sorrow more for the dead Body of your Relation than you do for the want of greater Faith and Hope and quieting thoughts of a joyful Resurrection which should be the Fruit of that Faith and Hope You see the dead Corps in the Coffin laid in the Grave thither your Thoughts run daily when you do not to mourn over them in the Grave fixing your thoughts how they putrify and rot how they consume and moulder away and this pierceth your heart But you do not meditate as one that believes they shall live again and be glorious Bodies and in this your sorrow is defective as you are a Christian CHAP. VII The Second Doctrine and the general Method propounded
desirous that the Devil's Kingdom should be destroyed and the Kingdom of our Lord Jesus should be promoted and propagated must be mourners in Heart tho not in Habit at the death of those that God did please to use for the one and for the other 4. Such sorrow argueth our selves to be of a publick Spirit and not to have such little narrow Souls as to be only concerned for our Carnal Self-interest You are afflicted in your own Person or in your own Family and you sorrow and mourn who will thank you for it What Grace or good Nature is manifested in your selfish sorrow Or who will call this good Nature in you when you are so selfish to sorrow only for Self-concerns 5. The Labours of Godly Ministers in their Life have immediate reference to your holy Living to your happy Dying and to your Well-being to all Eternity Is there any thing in this World concerns you more than to lead an holy Life to die an happy death and to be saved when you die Do they die that should direct you in all these And is there no cause of sorrow for the death of such which puts an end to all their Labours CHAP. IX Resolves this Question When is our Sorrow for our Dead excessive and immoderate THe Second Part of the propounded Method in treating of this sorrowful Subject is to shew When our Sorrow for our Dead is excessive and immoderate That in some it is Defective especially in Spiritual Respects hath been already shewed and wherein it doth come short of what it ought to be that it is excessive and immoderate in others the Practice of many deprived of their Relations by Death is a visible Proof and the Caution and Charge given in the Text doth suppose that some do exceed the bounds and that their Tears do overflow the Banks of Moderation and make a Land-stood in their Families So far as it hath already been discovered to be turbulent it is excessive which here should be reviewed to which some more might be added The Apostle's Golden Rule should be our Christian Directory for the moderating of our Joy and Sorrow in having or losing the outward Enjoyments of this Life 1 Cor. 7.29 But this I say Brethren the timt is short it remaineth that both they that have wives be as though they had none 33. And those that weep as though they wept not and they that rejoice as though they rejoyced not and they that buy as though they possessed not and they that use this world as not abusing it for the fashion of this world passeth away In which Rule we might note these things 1. Some have their Wives Husbands Parents Children yet continuing with them Others have none because by death taken from them 2. Those that have them are apt to â—ver-joy in them those that have lost them are prone to over-sorrow for them 3. Those that have them shall shortly be in the same circumstances as those that are by death deprived of them Ours are dead and yours shortly will be so Life is so short and the end of all so near and sure that there is little and no long difference betwixt the state of one and of the other 4. Those that have Wives and other Relations should sometimes suppose themselves to be in the Circumstances of those that have none that the thoughts that shortly they shall have none might correct their excessive joy while they have them for though you have them you should he as though you had them not looking upon Relations that shortly will not be as if now already they were not is a point of prudence for the moderating of our joy in them Those that have them not should suppose this will be the case of those that have for the allaying of their sorrow that now this is their present state 5. The reasons of this indifferency of our Spirits in these different Circumstances of our Life 1. The time is short those that have Fathers and Mothers Wife Husband or Children shall have them but for a short time Why then are your hearts transported with so much joy when you might stand and see the end of them those that are deprived of them have themselves but a little time to live Why then are you so much cast down for so short a want of them 2. All these things are but as a shadow or an appearance of good rather than that good wherein our happiness doth lie and the solid spiritual abiding comfort of our life doth consist it is but the fashion of this world an accidental and External Figure without substance the surface and outside What is all that is in this world that is of the world but a meer surface and vain outside why then do we joy so much or sorrow so much whether we have them or be without them 3. They are in continual change like Water in the River is continually every moment passing away What! are these things neither substantial nor continual and shall we be over-affected with the having or the losing of them Christians should do as to Temporals as Worldings do in Spirituals these pray as if they prayed not they can confess sin and neithâ—r weep without nor sorrow within they are under the loss of the favour of God and yet are as contented as if they were not they can ask for an interest in Christ pardon of sin and eternal Salvation and yet not be much troubled for the present though they go without them for ever they can sit and hear the threatnings of God and never fear nor grieve can sit and hear the glad tidings of the Gospel and never rejoice hear all as if they heard them not or if they have some movings of Affections they are not deep they reach not the heart they do not break their hearts for sin against God nor for the loss of God so much as some do for the loss of a Creature Let such as are immoderately weeping for their dead stop their Tears that they may read compose tâ—eir minds for a while at first that they may consider what is said and command their Sorrow to give place to Reason and Religion or if they have not such command over it should earnestly pray to God that hath that they might at last not sorrow with such excess of sorrow as if they had no hope of the blessed present and future state of those they thus do sorrow for Let me propound some Questions to you and let Reason and Conscience in your Sorrow give in their Answer if it be not sorrow in excess Q. 1. Is your sorrow for your Dead so much as in the degrees of it tends to the shortning of your own Life and is it not then too much Is your Relation dead and will you therefore kill your self hath death broken the Relation you had in the Fifth Commandment and will you go on to transgress the Sixth hath Death killed one and will
Sleep teacheth us that it is no trouble to them that are in their Graves that they do not know when they shall awake Is this any trouble to a living Man fast asleep in his Bed that he knows not when the day will dawn and the Morning-light appear and he awake he sleeps on and concerns himself with no such Thoughts We that are alive think when shall our Dead arise how long must they sleep there That which troubles us is no trouble unto them 8. Death it self as a Sleep châ—cks our Immoderate Sorrow for those that are fallen asleep They sleep and you take on as if you had no hope that they would ever wake What saith the Text they are fallen asleep do not ye sorrow as those that have no hope When did you mourn because your Relation in due season went to sleep If they have been Sick and could not sleep it grieve your Heart and so it also would if your nearest Friends lay sick and full of pain tormented day and night with sighs and groans piercing your Ears and Hearts should they long lie thus and could not recover nor yet dye it would grieve you that they could not dye insomuch that by such sights and hearings of the Sick and pained whom they loved with entire Love some have gone to their knees and begg'd of God to give them a release by Death and were better satisfied when they were fallen asleep and thereby delivered 9. Death as a Sleep thô it be a long sleep teacheth us that it seems not long to them that sleep A Mâ—n that is fast asleep and sleepeth long he doth not tell the Clock nor number the Hours nor thinks it long that he doth sleep and when he wakes he thinks the time was not long but quickly gone when to one that watcheth while he sleepeth it seems to be a tedious time When they that live and wake while others in their Graves do sleep reckon the days then the weeks next the months at last the years that our Father or Mother Husband or Wife or Child hath been dead and say so long so many years they have been sleeping in their Graves It is long to you but not to them they know no Nights or Days no Weeks or Months or Years to reckon by a thousand years is no longer to them than an hour seems to you Adams Body hath been sleeping some thousands of years already and yet all those years and what are yet to come till he shall awake but like one hour unto him Why should we discompose our Minds with the thoughts of their long Sleep when they themselves are not concerned at it nor to them doth it seem long 10. Death as a Sleep because it is a sleep that is Death brings us these tydings of Comfort that they are sleeping their last Sleep and when they awake shall sleep no more For when they live again they shall dye no more therefore now let us moderate our Sorrow for those that are asleep in Jesus for they are at rest from pains and cares God can easily awaken them and he will after their Sleep they shall be refreshed tho it be a long Sleep it seems not so to them it is indeed their last but not an everlasting sleep they sleep quietly let not us sorrow excessively but every Night when we put off our Cloaths think we must put off this Body and lie down in our Graves as we do in our Beds and shall our selves sleep in the Dust with them that are gone to sleep before us CHAP. XIII The Second Remedy against excessive Sorrow is the Glorified State of the Soul immediately after its separation proved The Souls Triumph in its first entrance into Heaven The Meditation thereof The Survivors Comfort THE Second Remedy against Excessive Sorrow for the Death of those that dyed in the Lord is the knowledge and belief of the Glorious State of the separated Soul while the Body lies sleeping in the Grave The Body is the more ignoble part the Grave a more formidable place yet from thence there is something of Support when both are considered according to what is sâ—id of both in the Scripture as to such as were truly holy when they lived But if we call off our Thoughts from the Body and the Grave that they may ascend and follow the Soul the more precious part into the highest Heavens the most Glorious place what cause of Joy what matter of Rejoycing what reâ—son of changing our Mourning into Garments of Praise and our Spirit of heaviness into gladness and lively thankfulness to God that those that are gone from us are received by him That whom we have lost he hath found and those whom we must enjoy on Earth no more are enjoying God in yonder glorious highest Heavens for evermore Controversies are not profitable at this season nor suitable to the present temper of our Spirits in the Circumstances now we are under nor consistent with that brevity that I labour for therefore two things only I shall now endeavour First To select some Texts of Scripture that do assure us what state of Joy and Happiness the separated Soul of a Child of God doth pass into Secondly What ground of Comfort against our Sorrow this is to us that yet are left behind 1. What clearer Evidence what surer Arguments what better Proof what greater satisfaction can we have in this Point than what Scripture doth afford For cannot God that is the Father of Spirits and the Disposer of Souls after their Dissolution and being separated from the Body best tell what doth become of them And will he that is faithful and Essential Truth deceive us Or need he that is absolute Lord and Soveraign perfectly happy in himself to flatter us or to gain our Obedience to him by promises of Eternal Rewards and everlasting Joys and Glory if there were not such a Ssate prepared for us Where God speaketh let us believe and his Veracity is reason why we should Then let us hear Luke 16.22 It came to pass that the Beggar dyed and was carried by the Angels into Abrahams bosom Luke 23.43 Verily I say unto thee This day shalt thou be with me in Paradise Act. 7.29 And they stoned Stephen calling upâ—n God and saying Lord Jesus receive my Spirit 2 Cor. 5.1 For we know that if our earthly house of this Tabernâ—cle were dissolved we have a Building of God an house not made with hands eternal in the Heavens 2. For in this we groan earnestly desiring to be clothed upon with our house which is from Heaven 4 For we in this Tabernacle do groan being burthened not for that we should be unclothed but clothed upon that mortality might be swallowed up of life 6. Therefore we are always confident knowing that whilst we are at home in the Body we are absent from the Lord. 8. We are confident I say and willing rather to be absent from the Body and to be present with
presentiate them unto us tho yet they are future that it may be the substance or subsistence or as it were the ready presence of such things hoped for and the evidence or convincing demonstration of things not yet seen as if we did now behold them with our Eyes which is the nature power and working of a lively Faith Heb. 11.1 then should we now wipe tears from our Eyes in the fore-believing views thereof as God will do then when we shall actually behold them then our Sorrow would now be turned into Joy and our Heaviness into Rejoycing now we know and say they are dead and therefore Sorrow filleth our Hearts but let us believe what is revealed concerning them that they shall be raised and what great and glorious things shall then be done to them and for them and let the Faith of the one make us as joyfull as the Knowledge of the other at present makes us sorrowfull These Remedies for the asswaging of our sorrow may be reduced to these five general Heads But remember it is not the bare Notion of them nor cursory talking of them nor superficial thinking of them but our serious pondering and powerful practical Believing of them and the Spirits effectual applying and laying them warm to our Hearts that must he the Cure to those that are deeply sorrowfull for their Dead 1. The Lord Himself will descend from Heaven to fetch them out of their Graves v. 16. 2. The Solemnity of his Coming and his Attendants waiting upon him and the Call that shall then be given to them to awake arise and come forth out of their Graves For he shall come with a shout with the Voice of the Archangel and of others and with the Trump of God v. 16. 3. The Prerogative of those that sleep in Jesus above those that then shall be found alive the Dead shall have the precedency of the Living that the Dead shall be raised before the then Living shall be changed V. 15. For this we say unto you by the Word of the Lord that we which are alive and remain unto the Coming of the Lord shall not prevent them which are asleep V. 16. the Dead in Christ shall rise first 4. The Dead in Christ being raised first and after that the Living changed both shall be caught up together in the Clouds to meet the Lord in the Air. v. 17. Are our Hearts almost dead with sorrow Where is our Faith Here is the Word of the liâ—ing faithful God declaring Wonders that shall be done for the Dead in Christ but where is our Faith Here is our sorrow but where is our Faith Behold the Lord comes down from Heaven behold the Dead come up out of their Graves behold they that long lodged and slept under ground are caught up and carried from off this Earth into the Air where their Lord and they do meet O happy joyful meeting not only Bodies and Souls do now meet after so long a parting but which is more their Lord and they do meet after so long sleeping Lord here is our Faith and our sorrow is abated 5. The eternal Enjoyment of God and Christ in the highest Heavens V. 17. and so shall we ever be with the Lord. Now we see where they that are Lodged in the Grave sleeping in Jesus shall at last be Lodged rejoycing in Jesus and therefore now let us be the less sorrowfull And that our Faith concerning these may be encreased and thereby our sorrow may be diminished let us take them up and view them again I. Is it nothing for the asswaging of our sorrow that our Lord will come himself from Heaven to raise them up out of their Graves If you say Who can cause these dry Bones to live and cloath them with flesh and cover them both with skin and bring them out of these deep and dark sleeping places the Answer is ready the Lord can He can but the Question is whether he will he hath declared and promised that he will He will While he was on Earth he raised some but now he is gone to Heaven and there he doth abide and except he come from Heaven the Dead must abide in their Graves Say you so weep not for he HIMSELF will come and he will surely have them forth Did he at his first coming die for their Bodies as well as for their Souls and will he be content to have their Souls only with him in the Heavens and their Bodies to lie always in the Grave Did he purchase their Bodies as well as their Souls with the price of his own most precious Blood and will he for ever lose such a part of his purchase Are not the Bodies as well as the Souls of Believers Christs own by right of Redemption 1 Cor. 6.20 and will he lose his own so dearly bought for want of looking after them Hath he redeemed them from Sin and Hell and will not he redeem them from the Grave And is not the deliverance out of the Grave called the Redemption of the Body and do his People and Redeemed ones while they live wait believe and hope and like a Woman in Travel groan for Deliverance and long for the Blessed Inheritance and full possession of the Blessed State above both in Body and Soul at the Resurrection and will he suffer them to be disappointed Are they Adopted hereunto as well in their Bodies as in their Souls and did they here receive the Spirit of God as the Pledge and Earnest and First-fruits of Glory and shall he let them be for ever without it Rom. 8.23 Were they Sanctified in their Bodies as well as in their Souls and Spirits 1 Thes 5.23 and shall not their sanctified Bodies be glorified Bodies at the coming of Christ Did their Bodies partake with their Souls in the serving of their God in Hearing Praying and Religious Fasting and shall not they partake with the Souls in the heavenly and Eternal Reward thro' the Riches of his Grace Did they present their Bodies when alive a Living Sacrifice holy and acceptable unto God giving up their Bodies wholly to him to do and suffer what he did call them to tho' it were to Death Rom. 12.1 and will he suffer them to remain for ever as Prisoners of Death and not call them from thence to be partakers of Eternal Life Did both parts serve and yield Obedience to him and shall one only be saved and rewarded by him He was the Redeemer and Sanctifier of both and he will be the Saviour of both And if Angels sent from Heaven cannot deliver them out of their Graves he will come HIMSELF and bring them out When he would redeem Israel from the Bondage of Egypt he sent Moses but to Ransom Redeem and set the Bodies of those that died in him from the bonds of Death with which they are tyed hand and foot it being a Work too great for any meer Creature he will come himself and break these bonds that tho'
the Lords if I had not had it from him I could have told no such thing that we that are alive and remain unto the Coming of the Lord shall not prevent them that are asleep V. 16. The dead in Christ shall rise first The like Order and precedency he affirms 1 Cor. 15.52 The dead shall be raised Incorruptible and we those that shall be alive shall be changed We think that those that shall be found alive will have an advantage above those that are dead But they shall have this advantage above the then Living that they shall be first raised and be made immortal glorious and incorruptible Bodies sooner and before those that shall be alive As they put off the mortal and corruptible Body before them so they shall put on the Immortal and Incorruptibble Body sooner than they These died a Temporal Death which the other shall not but they shall live an Immortal Life sooner than those that are not to die a Temporal death The Living must wait for their Change till those that were changed from Life to Death shall be again changed from Death to Life Do you mourn because your holy Relations are dead and do not Live Rejoyce also that they shall Live and have the preeminence before those that shall not die but only be changed because God hath told you how mindfull and careful he will be of those that sleep in Jesus Forgotten by Men remembred by God IV. Is it nothing to moderate your sorrow that Christ and yours shall surely meet Death was a parting you and them and that parting day was a sorrowful day And you record the day of their Death and your parting and mention it with Grief and Tears Remember a meeting day will come not only when they and you shall meet but when they and Christ shall meet and let the Thoughts thereof cause you to rejoyce What tho you and they shall meet no more while you live yet Christ and they and you also if you believe shall meet and never part But where shall this Meeting be In the Air. But how shall they get up They shall be caught up by the Power of God or be such agile and nimble Bodies that they shall be as able to move upwards as now they are proue to fall downwards You follow them to the Grave and see them there let down and you are filled with Sorrow Think again as if you saw that Body raised again and mounting aloft as swiftly as any winged Bird into the Air to meet the Lord and let such a Foresight abate your present sorrow CHAP. XVII After their meeting with the Lord THEY shall be with HIM for EVER Comfort from all Recollected SHall not a believing Prospect that those that sleep in Jesus shall awake and live with the Lord for ever make some abatement of our sorrow or rather turn it into Joy in the hopes thereof This is the last and highest and most Soveraign Remedy the Apostle giveth in this place against Excessive Sorrow saying and so shall we ever be with the Lord. Short words but matter of lasting everlasting Joy Soon said but not so soon understood for indeed they contain more than we can conceive and none know so well as they that are with him Yet that we may have a relish of this Remedy and a taste of this Spiritual Comfort for the correcting of extravagant Sorrow let it be enquired 1. With whom it is that these must be with the Lord and what it is to be with him 2. Who they are here meant that shall be with the Lord We. 3. How long for ever Blessed shall they be whoever they be that thus shall be with the Lord for ever 1. It is the Lord himself with whom these shall be And to be with him is the summ of all our Hopes the end of all our Prayers and the top of all our Happiness The Misery of the Ungodly and Impenitent when raised judged and condemned is that they must depart from the Lord and be in flaming fire and then with Devils The Happiness of the Godly then acquitted and absolved will be to be called to come to the Lord and to go with him into Glory and there abide and remain with him Mat. 25.34 41 46. Then shall the King say to them on his right hand Come ye blessed of my Father inherit the Kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the World 41. Then shall he say also to them on the left hand Depart from me ye Cursed into everlasting fire prepared for the Devil and his Angels Some are called to come to him the others commanded to depart from him some to be with Him the rest to be with Devils therefore those are declared to be blessed the other accursed for 46. These shall go away into everlasting Punishment but the Righteous into Life Eternal Do we believe these things or do we not All these things are spoken of Men when raised from the Dead and judged and sentenced and the Sentence put into Execution and do not you by Faith see with whom they shall have their abode that now do sleep in Jesus enjoying the beatisick Vision living in the comfortable glorious and immediate Presence of God the Father of Christ the Redeemer and of the Eternal Spirit their Sanctifier Now your Thoughts run to the Grave look down into it and you see them with Worms and with Rottenness and therefore sorrow Let your Thoughts run as far as the day of Christs coming and then suppose you look for them in the Graves you will not find them The Voice will be They are not here for they are risen come see the places where they lay Where are they Look up they are gone to meet the Lord in the Air and whither are they next to go to be with the Lord And is there nothing in the belief of all these things not only to asswage Sorrow but also to beget great Joy but because we are of so little Faith therefore we are of so much Sorrow 2. Who are these that are to be with the Lord What we doth the Apostle mean whom doth he say this great thing of of all those that shall be caught up in the Clouds to meet the Lord in the Air. Who are they those that shall be alive and remain when the Lord shall come Together with them Who are they the Dead in Christ that did rise first before the Living were changed so then it comprehends those that slept in Jesus and shall be raised and those Believers that shall be found alive and changed and caught up together into the Air to meet Christ who will adjudge them to Everlasting Life and so after that shall be with Christ in Glory Are these the Dead we Mourn for and why because they are dead in their Grâ—ves and with the dead but have we no Fâ—ith in this Word of the Lord. If we havâ— let us set their Resurrection over against their Death
so surâ—ly our dead shall rise Comfort your selves and one anoth r with these words 2. Those that shall be found alive shall not prevâ—nt them that are asleep but the Dead shall be raised before the Living shall be changed they in their Graves shall have the precedency and preheminence before the Living and tho the one are dead and the other living yet the Dead shall be made Immortal and Incorruptible before the Living Comfort your selves and one another with these words 3. Rather than the Dead shall lye in their Graves for ever Christ as soon as the appointed time is come will Himself in his own Person come and with a shout with the Voice of the Archangel and sounding Trumpet call them out of their Graves and they shall hear and shall come forth Comfort your selves and one another with these words 4. When the Dead in Christ shall be raised and the Living changed they shall all be caught up together in the Clouds to meet the Lord in the Air and shall there be acquitted and absolved and adjudged to everlasting Life therefore comfort your selves and one another with these words 5. After this they shall go into the highest Heavens in Body and Soul to be with the Lord for ever wherefore comfort your selves and one another with these words Now upon the survey of the whole matter what have you most cause for your Sorrow or your Joy What if yours do not live with you is it not better that they died in the Lord than to live as such with you what if they are in the Grave for a while and after that shall be with the Lord for ever Cease Excessive Sorrowing and encourage and comfort your selves and one another as the Death of any requires with the lively Belief the joyful Hopes and often mention of this most Blessed Time and State CHAP. XVIII Additional Questions propounded to Mourners for the Moderating of Excessive Sorrow BUT if your Sorrow be Excessive after all these Remedies alleadged made known to us by Divine Revelation doth it not argue Want or Weakness of Faith and slowness of Heart to Believe If you do not believe will you reason the Case with your self that we may bring it to this Issue that your Immoderate Sorrow is irrational contrary both to Faith and Reason Which will appear by that time you consider the Matter well and give in a deliberate Answer to these following Questions briefly offered to you 1 Quest If a particular Resurrection now could be as formerly hath been would you desire that your Relations that died in the Lord might now be raised from the dead to live and dwell with you in your House upon Earth again If it were possible would you have your holy Father or Mother Husband or Wife raised as Jairus his Daughter Lazarus Tabitha and others were and come and sit at your Table and live with you in the same Circumstances as they did before If you would not how unreasonable is all your excessive Sorrow because they are dead and yet would not have them live with you again thô you may What! will nothing content you Is their restoration to Life now no matter of your desire and yet is their death such matter of so great abundant Sorrow Will you be pleased neither way concerning them dead or alive again If you would desire this do you consider what it is you do desire and how injurious you would be to them that you may have your will and as you say the comfort that before you had in them Tell me 1. Would you indeed have them from the glorious presence of God and Christ and the eternal Spirit to live with you Could they have that Delight and Joy in your Company as now they are filled with in the presence of their glorious God and Redeemer 2. Would you have them leave the Society of Angels and saved Souls above to come and dwell among sinfull men again 3. Would you indeed have them return from Rest to Trouble from Joy to Sorrow from Praising to Mourning 4. Now they have got out of the reach of Satans Temptations would you have them live here again to be buffeted again and tempted and assaulted by that roaring Lion And after they have got the Victory and won and wore the Crown would you have them to come into the Field again and conflict with the Powers of Darkness again 5. Were you grieved for them on their dying Beds to see what they endured and what cold Sweats the Pangs of Death did put them to and yet would you have them live again that they may die again Do you sorrow that they have died once and will you sorrow on except you could have them live again that they may die twice would you have them have two deaths for one Is this your Love to them 6. Is once mourning for them so grievous and would you have them live again and so die again and you Mourn again for their Second dying if you should out live them or leave them behind you for them to Mourn for you whereas where they are now they have done Mourning and are strangers to it 7. Would not you be more Kind to your self and them to prepare and desire to go to them than to have them return to you if such a thing could be Do not you know which to choose and yet sorrow in this manner 2 Q. If you would have them Live again can your sorrow multiplyed ten times more help you to your Will May you not by this sorrow bring your self to the Grave sooner than fetch them out Say what good this excessive sorrow doth or else moderate it 3 Q. Who hath done this that you mourn so much for Was it not by the Providence of God And will you quarrel with him or call him to an account why he hath done so Or should not his Hand quiet your Heart Read Job 33.13 1 Sam. 3.18 Psal 39.9 4 Q. Do not you hereby contradict your Prayers Do not you pray his Will might be done and submitted to when it 's done Do not you see it was his Will to have your Relation from you and is this your submission to it Is it so done in Heaven as you do it upon Earth 5 Q. Hath God herein taken any from you but what he first gave unto you Who gave you your Children or Husband or Wife were they not the Gifts of God Did not this quiet Job Chap. 1.21 6 Q. Whose was He or She that is dead that you so Immoderately do Mourn for Do you say it was my Child my Father or my Mother my Husband or my Wife If it had not been mine I should not thus have mourned But were they not Gods own more than your own When God gave them you did he give away his own right Might not God do what he will with his own but you must take on as if he had taken something he had no right unto What
had you to do to keep his Own from him when he would have them with him 7 Q. Is not God Soveraign Lord and absolute Disposer of all in the World Are not Kingdoms and Nations Princes Lords and Nobles at his disposal And what are you above all others in the World that you and yours should be exempted from the disposing Hand of God 8 Q. Did your Happiness lie in the Enjoyment of the Creatures you have lost In them or in God If in them you are miserable if in God tho they are dead yet he doth Live Why then do you thus mourn so long as your Happiness remains 9 Q. Tho your Relations are cut down and withered like Grass yet doth not the Word of the Lord stand and continue for your Support Isa 40.6 7 8. And cannot you find as much Comfort in all the standing Promises of God as you did in a withering Creature Go and try by reading believing applying of them as your Case requires and by turning Promises into Prayers 10 Q. Did not your Relation live out the Time appointed by God Job 14.5 Or did he not die when God did foreknow he would die And do you thus take on because Gods Purpose is performed Would you have a Child tarry in the Womb beyond its appointed time or in the World beyond what God intended it should 11 Q. Did not you know your Relations were mortal or do you sorrow because they were so Is not that to sorrow because they were Men or Women or Children Would you have had them to have been here Immortal that they might not have been subject to Death Did you ever see any Men Women or Children that were not mortal 12 Q. If so did not you know a parting time would come Was there not some Intimation and mention of Deaths separating you in your conjugal Covenant And do you now mourn as if something had befallen you that you never knew or heard of Is it so intolerable to you to see a dying Creature dead 13 Q. When would you have been willing to have parted with them If God had continued your Child ten years longer would not you have been more unwilling and so more sorrowful than now you are After Forty years would you be willing 14 Q. Hath any thing befallen you that hath not been the common Case of all the Generations before you will shortly be of all this Age and of following except those that shall be found alive at the Coming of Christ And would you have your State to be singular Or if it be not will you be sullen 15 Q. Could your Relations Souls have gone to Heaven if their Bodies had not died Or would you have had them never lodged there except as Enoch and Elias without seeing Death If the Soul could not have been happy above except the Body dyed and took the Grave in its way to Glory are you excessively troubled for a dead Body which must be for the greater advantage of the Immortal Soul 16 Q. Would not you have been as loth to leave them behind you as now you are sorrowful they are gone before you And will you be pleased neither way Would you have died all together You are sorrowing now for Wise and Children because removed by Death and if God had laid you upon a dying Bed then your trouble would be for them if alive because you are like to be taken from them and say What will my small Children do if I die And what will their Mother dâ— when their Father leaves the one â— Widow and the other Fatherless I could have been glad if God would have spared my Life to have seen them well brought up It is hard for you to say which would be less trouble to you to leave them behind you or have them go before you But if you have that which you had rather have why do you so sorrow when you have that which is best for the rest of your Family 17 Q. Do not you know that all your Family have sinned and that therefore they have all deserved to die Why then do you sorrow so much for one captivated by Death when you should be admiring the Patience of God and praising him for his Mercy that so many are continued in Life 18 Q. Is not this Ingratitude to God that the loss of one should make you unsensible of the many Mercies of your own Life Is all gone in one Look about you and you will see the abundant goodness of God to you in your outward Accommodations in this World many spiritual Blessings as Pledges of Eternal Glory and will you bury your Thankfulness for these in the Grave of your dead 19 Q. Do not you provoke God hy your sinful excessive Sorrow to go on to make more Breaches by Death that you might have something more to sorrow for Do you sorrow thus for one Might not God say There is another Child Death lay it dead and bring it out and lodge it by the other There is an Husband or a Father yet left Death go and seize him and have him away and if they are delighted in such discontented Sorrow let them havâ— more to sorrow for 20 Q. Have not they lived a long life before they die they enter into Eternal glorious life when they die Do you sit and sorrow and say if he had not died so soon if he had not died so young How soon if he lived to be Converted to be sanctified and prepared for Heaven did he not live longer than a Man at Sixty and then dies in Sin and is Damned at last Do you reckon length of Life by multitude of years or ripeness and fitness for Heaven When you Sorrow he died so soon Bless God he lived so long as to be saved when he died 21 Q. Will you compare with God in point of Wisdom in governing and disposing of his Creatures with all the circumstances of Life and Death Are you wiser than he dare you entertain such a Thought would you not resist it with abhorrence why then do you think it would have been better for you that your Relation should have lived longer Is not this to set your Folly against Gods Wisdom Doth not he best know what is the most fitting time for any to be born how long to live and when to die If so why do you oversorrow for that which is done with highest Wisdom 22 Q. Why hath God implanted such Graces in your Heart as are suitable for a time of Affliction but that you should exercise them in their season As Faith and Patience and Submissiveness of will to his holy Will and Pleasure Are not Habits given for Act and when will you act your Patience and Submission but when Tryals are upon you but doth your excessive Sorrow look like Patience under or fretting against the hand of God 23 Q. Do you say you did exceedingly desire their Eternal Good in Gods accepted time and excessively
not so it is easy to judge your sorrow is over-much Q. 7. Is not your sorrow over-much when it hinders you and keeps you from rejoycing in God from praising of him and giving thanks unto him for the mercies you have mixed with your affliction Have not you more Mercies left than you have lost have not you greaeter Mercies continued than are removed is your Earthly Father dead but have not you still a Father in Heaven is your Wife dead but is not your Soul married to Christ and though the Conjugal Union be broken by Death yet doth not the Mystical Union betwixt Christ and you still remain have not you the pardon of Sin the favour of God the sense of his Love and Hopes of Heaven seriously set these over against your Dead and say if you have not more cause to rejoice in God and give him thanks for these than you have to mourn for your Dead and whether God doth not command you more and give you a stricter charge sor these to rejoice in him than to mourn for your Dead and consequently is the grand constant Duty you owe to God all the days of your Life and are you so much indebted to your dead as you are to the Living God Was their Life of so much worth to you as your Relation to God is and your Receivings from him see your Duty and cease from that which hinders your performance of it Phil. 3.1 Finally my Brethren rejoice in the Lord. Whatsoever state you are in serve God with joyful hearts Phil. 4.4 Rejoice in the Lord alway and again I say rejoice Always rejoice in the Lord What whâ—n my Father or Mother or Child Wife or Husband lieth dead in my House or is newly lodged in the Grave Is it not alway you are commanded to rejoice is there this Exception when you have any Relation dead that then this should be no Duty Have not Christians always greater cause of rejoycing in the Lord than they have of sorrow for Worldly Losses is not holy joy in the Lord and a thankful praising of God the very Flower of Religion and makes us most like the Angels and Saints above but can you thus rejoice and praise and magnifie God and triumph in his Love and Grace when you are overwhelmed with sorrow for the loss of Worldly Comforts and is not that sorrow too much that unfits you for this constant standing Duty 1 Thes 5.16 Rejoice evermore 17. Pray without ceasing 18. In every thing give thanks for this is the will of God in Jesus Christ concerning you Whatever a true Believer doth lose he should rejoice because the Grounds and Reasons and Causes of Joy do still remain and in every Case and Condition of life should give thanks to God for as much as the Good that continueth to him doth exceed the Evils that do befal him This is God's revealed Will making it our Duty for the great Blessings we receive from him by Christ Job's sorrow for the loss of ten Children in one day by a strange unusual death added to all his former Losses making his Case more sorrowful than yours was kept within such Bounds as that he was able even then to bless and praise the Lord. Job 1.19 They are dead 21. He said naked came I out of my mother's womb and naked shall I return thither the Lord gave and the Lord hath taken away blessed be the name of the Lord. In your sorrow try if you can do so if not judge whether it be not over-much Q. 8. Is not that sorrow for your dead over-much which doth deaden your Heart towards God in all Holy Duties You were wont to pray with a lively Heart and to hear the Word of God with warm Affections but now you pray with a dead Heart and hear with dull Affections Your Love and Desires and Delights are become as cold in your Duties as your Relations Corps are in the Grave What have you done in your sorrow taken away a lively Heart towards God and laid a dead Child a dead Father or Wife in the room of it Like the Woman in Solomon's Reign whose Child did die in the Night and there being another Woman in the House that had a living Child rose and while the living Child's Mother did slâ—ep took her living Child out of her Bosom and laid her dead Child in her Bosom in the room of the living Child But these two Women contended before Solomon one saying The living Child is mine but the dead Child is thine the other also said The dead Child is thine but the living Child is mine 1 Kings 3.16 to 24. Solomon commanded a Sword to be brought to divide the living Child and to give half to the one and half to the other The true Mothers Bowels yearning towards her Child said O my Lord give her the living Child and by no means slay it the other said Let it be neither mine nor thine but divide it whereby the King discerned the Natural Mother and commanded the living Child to be given to her ver 24 25 26 27. Love filled your Heart to your living Child Sorrow fills your Heart for your dead Child You had a lively frame of Heart when your Child was living but now it is dead through over-much sorrow you have laid your dead Child in your Bosom in the room of that Activity of Soul that before you had towards God and you lay claim to the dead Child this dead Child is my Child Alas this Child that is dead is mine But whose is your Hâ—art and Love God's or your Child's Take heed this be not the true answer during this fit of excessive sorrow it is not all God's â—or all the Child's but you have divided it between both and given half to the Living God and half to the Dead Child That sorrow that causeth you to make this division is excessive sorrow Q. 9. Is not that sorrow for your dead over-much when it all runs out to them that you are not sensible of nor concerned for the Calamities of the Church nor Afflictions and Sufferings of the People of God All your sorrow is contracted and all your Tears run in this one Channel for your dead Father or Mother Husband Wife or Children are not the Concerns of the Church of God greater than your selfish Matters Are not the Sufferings and Calamities Martyrdom by Burning and Wracking and Torturing of many dear to God greater Evils than the Natural death of your Relations Did Christ shed his Blood for his Church and amongst all your Tears for your dead cannot you drop one for the Suffering Church of God Are Men shedding their Blood and for this cannot you shed a Tear when you have so many for one dead Child or Husband or Wife Should not the Concerns of the Glory of God in Publick Affairs lye nearer your Heart than a dead Relation and wound deeper and make you sorrow more You are ready to die with
grief for one Child I will tell you of one that lost two Sons in a Battel at once when also the Ark of God was taken and when he heard of the death of his two Sons he bore up but as soon as mention was made of the taking of the Ark of God he fell down and died This was Eli 1 Sam. 4.17 18. And his Daughter in Law that was with Child near to be Delivered hearing that the Ark of God was taken fell into Travail the Women about her comforted her saying Thou hast born a Son but she made them no answer and regarded it not She called the Childs Name Ichabod that is Where is the Glory For the Glory is departed from Israel because the Ark of the Lord is taken She sorrowed indeed for her Husband that was dead and for her Father-in-law that was dead but more for the Ark of the Lord that was taken by the Enemies for she mentioneth this over and over and gives up the Ghost and dies 1 Sam. 4.19 to the end David when his Child was dead leaves sorrowing for him and prayeth for the Church Psal 51.18 But you cannot mitigate your sorrow for your dead so much as to sorrow for the Evils that befall to the Church nor pray to God to help her to bear them or that he would remove them and while it is so your sorrow for your dead is excessive and immoderate sorrow Q 10. Is not that sorrow for your dead excessive and immoderate whereby you do discredit Religion become a stumbling-block to those that are already too much prejudiced against the Holy Ways of God While they see you thus all in constant Tears how are they ready to reflect upon and reproach your Profession and say Is this their Hope and Confidence in God whereof they spake when all was well with them Is this their living by Faith when Creature-Comforts fail them Is this their boasting of God as their All-sufficient Portion and that they could find satisfying Comfort in one God when all outward Enjoyments are taken away Where is their trusting in the Promises of God and their relying upon his Word Where is their profiting by so much hearing And where is the return to all their praying They said All things work together for their good if they find it so why do they weep and mourn as if all things did work together for their hurt They said There were such props and stays in their Religion as to bâ—ar up their Hearts in the sorest Afflâ—ction why then are they thus disquieted above other Men And why do their Hearts sink and their Spirits fail them more than other Mens They could speak comfortable words to others in Affliction but now it is come upon them they find no comfort in their own words were they any more than words vain and empty talk Are they not ready to retort upâ—n you as Job's Friends upon him Job 4.3 Behold thou hast instructed many and thou hast strengthened the weak hands 4. Thy words have upholden him that was falling and thou hast strengthened the feeble knees 5. But now it is come upon thee and thou faintest â—t toucheth thee and thou art troubled 6. Is not this thy fear thy confidence thy hope and the uprightness of thy ways Do you harden Mens Hearts by your exâ—essive sorrow and is not that too much by which you render Religion less Amiable in the Eyes of Men Q. 11. Is not that sorrow for your Dead ever-much whereby your submission to the Will of God is caused to be suspected if you submit why are you not quieted If you acquiesce in God's Dealings why do you carry your self as if you were discontented at his doings Do not so many and so long-continued Tears look like the Tears of a murmuring repining discontented Mourner Is not your Carriage more like a Disputer with God than a patient Bearer of his Hand You might have a sense and feeling of his Rod and yet submit but what soâ—row is inconsistent with submission is too much Q. 12. Is not that sorrow for your dead whereby you lose much of your little time to be allowed you excessive and immoderate Are not your days few your Life short and hasting away and have you nothing else to do with your time but to waste it in such mourning for those that are removed out of time into Eternity Have not you much greater and more necessary work to do for your own Soul Have not you the Pardon of Sin to get which every day you do commit Have not you many Corruptions further to subdue Have not you many Duties to perform for your self and towards your Relations that yet do live Have not you Children to instruct in the Principles of Religion Have not you many Temptations to resist and many vain and sinful Thoughts to pray against and beg that they might not lodge in your Mind nor find any quiet Entertainment there Have not you many Doubt s to be resolved and many Fears to be expelled Have not you Assurance yet to seek and your own Death to be prepared for if all this Work stand still while your time is passing away in mourning for your dead your sorrow is immoderate CHAP. XII The Remedies against Excessive Sorrow for our Dead The First That their Death is a sleeping in Jesus Four Notes about it Ten Meditations upon it THE third Work we have to do is to enquire after an effectual Remedy against excessive sorrow for our dead What is easie unto others might be hard to me in the practical part of this Inquiry It is less Labour to prescribe the Cure than to feel the powerful working of it It is hard to have a due sense of God's smarting Rod and yet a patient submission to his Will Man's Heart is either stony and stupid under Gods Afflicting Hand and doth not feel it or in the sense of it doth murmur and repine Either when God smites we do not grieve at all or if we are sensible of the Wound do mourn too much Both these Extreams have been already considered now Lord direct me to the Golden Mean and guide me to the middle way which lies betwixt these two Extreams that I might grieve because of thine Hand and yet might not over-grieve because it is so heavy The Cure of excessive sorrow for our dead will be the better found by finding out the cause thereof The cause of it God by his Apostle acquaints us is Ignorance concerning the state of Believers after the separation of the Body and the Soul Or if we are not wholly ignorant yet do not well consider what we know or if we do consider yet do not firmly believe what we do consider of In opposition to these as the cause of exâ—essive sorrowing as those do that have no hopâ— knowledge due consideration and an unshaken belief of the state of departed Believers will come in as a Cure Help anâ— R medy of such immoderate grief
the Lord Phil. 1.23 For I am in a strait betwixt two having a desire to depart and to be with Christ which is far better Heb. 12.23 To the spirits of just men made perfect 2. Then why do we Mourn on Earth for those that are Rejoycing in Heaven Do we weep for their Joy Is that our Love unto them to have such Sorrow for them What if there be one or two or ten fewer in our Family on Earth if there be so many the more in Heaven What mean these bleared Eyes this pale and macerated Face what means this washing of your Cheeks with Tears these sighs and sobs and groans Are they got safe into the place they prayed hoped longed for and do we grieve they have their Prayers answered their Hope 's obtained and their Longing Souls are fully and for ever saâ—isfied What if as they went to Heaven they took Death in their way could they have gotten thither without dying Is dying a greater Evil than all the Joys and Happiness they are possessed of is good Would they leave that State above to choose to be here below as they were before Conceive if it be not beyond all your Conceptions what Joy and Praise and heavenly Delight and holy Triumph the separated Soul of your dear holy Relation was filled with at its first beholding the Lord Jesus Christ in his Majesty and Glory in the other World Who can tell its ravishing Pleasures its transporting Delights its fullness of Joy at the first view of its blessed Lord and Saviour Is this the Jesus that was bufâ—eted and scourged and spit upon that is thus Beautiful as now I behold him Is this that Blessed Lord that was falsly Accused unjustly Condemned and cruelly Crucified that I now do see sat down upon his Glorious Throne Is this he that was vilified more than any Man that I see thus exalted above all these Glorious Angels round about I heard of his Majesty and Beauty and Glory from Ministers in their Sermons but what they said was not equal to what I see O the Love the Love the Love that I do feel to him that dyed for me that Redeemed me by his Blood to bring me to this glorious â—lace this glorious place I never before was in I never saw such a glorious place such Glorious Company I heard of it but before I never saw the like the like there is not to be seen Christ in Heaven and I with him all these Angels in Heaven and I with them all these Prophets Apostles Martyrs and happy holy Souls in Heaven and I with them I see such things I never saw I hear such things I never heard I feel I feel such Love and Joy that doth transcend all the thoughts I had of Heaven before I came into it O happy day that I came hither O joyful hour I left my Body till it be raised and partake with me in what I do enjoy I am but newly come into this Glorious State I am but now entred into this triumphant Society and what praises are these What Songs and Hallelujahs what divine and heavenly melody do I hear And what is my delight and Love and Joy it is great it is great I never knew the like it is so exceeding great Love and never doubt whether I do love Be loved and never question whether I am beloved Question and Doubt here is no room for such doubtings Do I enjoy what I enjoy and can I doubt whether I do enjoy it it is so full I cannot doubt it is so sweet I cannot Question it O blessed Day in which I was made thus blessed O blessed be this God that chose me to this blessed place O Blessed Saviour that by thy Blood didst Redeem me and purchase this Glory for me O Blessed Eternal Spirit that didst fit me and prepare me for it and didst guide me to it and being here I shall be here for ever I am where I would be and do not desire to be but where I am And this I know that where I am I shall for ever be and this God I shall ever love with perfect love and the more is my love the more is my joy and because my Love shall be perfect for ever my Joy shall be compleat for ever Is this the Soul we are Mourning for because it is separated from its Body Is this the State and infinitely beyond this that the Souls of our departed Friends are gone unto and do we sit and sob as if we were undone Do we weep and wail and lay their absence from us to Heart so much that makes us look more like their Enemies than their Friends and more like Strangers to that State above than Expectants of it or as if we were rather Unbelievers than Believers of Christ his Word and of the happiness of Heaven Think O think but alas it is more than you can think what departed holy Souls enjoy from that moment or day that you saw them draw their last breath and rather desire to be with them than Mourn that they are gone from you CHAP. XIV The Resurrection of the Dead great ground of Comfort in our Sorrow for them As also the Qualities and Endowments of their Bodies when raised THE Third Remedy against Excessive Sorrow for the Dead is sure knowledge and firm belief of the Resurrection unto Life Death is opposed to Life as being the privation of it the Resurrection is opposed to Death as being a restoration to Life The one is the cause of our Sorrow the other is a solid ground of Christian Comfort It is a Doctrine unknown by the Light of Nature it is undeniably proved by the Holy Scripture The Heathens hearing Paul preach the Resurrection of the Dead did deride and mock Act 17.32 for they did judge it a thing incredible that the dead should be raised Act 26.8 This was the reason they sorrowed for their deâ—d so immoderately because they had no hope that they should live again and the Resurrection and Christian Hope are conjoyned the one being the Foundation of the other Act. 23.6 Of the hope and resurrection of the dead I am called into question Act. 24.14 And have hope towards God which they themselves also allow that there shall be a Resurrection of the dead both of the just and unjust If the Resurrection be granted hope must be allowed and the more hope of this the more mitigation of sorrow for the Dead because they shall live again In this copious Subject I must omit many things and content my self with so much as is sufficient for my present design which may be done in these two things 1. That there is sufficient foundation for our Faith that the Dead shall surely live again 2. That their Bodies for which we mourn because dâ—ad and buried shall not only be the same for substance but in respect of Qualities shall far exceed what they were while they lived or when they dyed And the Faith
of this wiâ—â— be as much cause of Joy as their Death was of Sorrow and more abundant In the first of these three things give me full satisfaction 1. Taken from God 2. From Christ 3. The absurdities that must unavoidably follow the denial of the Resurrection of the Dead First in this Article of our Faith from whence I check my Sorrow for the Dead that it may be kept within bounds three things in God so considered by us tho one in him remove my Doubts confirm my Hopes in this Case 1. The Wisdom 2. The Power 3. The Will of God 1. God being Infinite in Wisdom and Knowledge I am fully satisfied that he knoweth the number of the dead and where their Bodies were buried or consumed and which are the bones and Skull and Dust of one and which of another for this is knowable in it self and therefore God knows these and all other circumstances of the Dead or else his Knowledge would be limited and finite Knowledge and not extended to every thing that may be known which is contrary to Natural Reason to Scripture and Religion and to the Infinite Perfection of the Divine Nature to deny this Knowledge in God is to Blaspheme him 2. God being Infinite in Power is able to raise all the Dead all which and every particle of all of them being thus known to him to raise the Dead is an Act of Power and not of weakness and is possible and not a contradiction Cannot the same Power that made all things out of nothing cause these dead-out of something to live again Cannot the same Power that at first formed Mans Body of the dust of the ground and caused it to live make these Bodies to live again thô they be turned into dust Cannot God do what he hath done Cannot he do all that is possible to be done Is not that which hath been done to some possible to be done to others Are there not many Examples in the Scripture that this hath been done Have not many Dead been raised to Life The Resurrection of the Dead being in the rank of things possible comes within the reach of Divine Almighty Power which to deny is to blaspheme these two being manifest to compleat the Argument add 3. God hath declared his Will and Purpose that the Dead shall live again We cannot argue from the Power of God that a thing shall be because he is able to do it because he doth not will to do all that he can do but we might argue from his Will that what he doth will to do shall be done because he hath Power to do whatsoever he will Men might have a will to do some things but they have not Power answerable to their Will and they often would but never can but tho' God be not Omnivolent to will every thing he can yet he is Omnipotent to do whatsoever he will Wherefore our reasoning issueth in this Whether it be the Will of God that the Dead shall be raised to life The fundamental Error of the Sadduces denying the Resurrection of the Dead Christ shews was in their Ignoronce of these two Principles the Power and the Will of God which is revealed in the Scripture Mat. 22.29 Jesus answered and said unto them Ye do err not knowing the Scriptures nor the power of God The Scriptures do abound in this fully assuring us that it is his Will that all the Dead shall be raised the Wicked to Damnation the Righteous to Life everlasting If you doubt read these Texts Job 19.25 I know that my Redeemer liveth and that he shall stand at the latter day upon the Earth 26. And thô after my skin Worms destroy this body yet in my Flesh shall I see God 27. Whom I shall see for my self and mine eyes shall behold and not another thô my reins be consumed within me Joh. 5.28 The hour is coming in the which all that are in the Graves shall hear his voice 29. And shall come forth they that have done good unto the Resurrection of life and they that have done evil to the Resurrection of damnation Joh. 6.38 For I came down from Heaven not to do my own will but the Will of him that sent me What 's that 39. And this is the Fathers will which hath sent me that of all which he hath given me I should lose nothing but should raise it up again at the last day These are comfortable words of Christ to us What a strict Charge is here of the Father given to Christ My Son I give you so many men and charge you with them that you lose not any one of them but that you raise every one of them at the last day and set them before me in Body and Soul in my heavenly Kingdom Do you fear lest among so many millions to be raised any one of yours should be left in the Grave and never raised Would not then such be lost and is not that contrary to the Charge given to Christ and contrary to the Fathers Will Are not you satisfied that Christ hath and will do his Father's Will in every Point Hear his words 40. And this is the will of him that sent me that every one that seeth the Son and believeth on him may have everlasting life and I will raise him up at the last day Are not you yet satisfied with these words of him that is able and can and faithful and will do what he saith reaching to every one without the losing of any one The Father that sent me hath declared his Will that I should and so I will raise every one of these at the last day Believe and sorrow for your Dead with no more degrees of Sorrow than becometh one that doth believe that Christ will raise them up at the last day John 11.24 Martha said to him I know that he shall rise again in the Resurrection at the last day 25. Jesus said unto her I am the Resurrection and the Life he that believeth in me thô he were dead yet shall he live John 6.44 No man can come to me except the Father which hath sent me draw him and I will raise him up at the last day 54. Whoso eateth my Flesh and drinketh my Blood hath Eternal life and I will raise him up at the last day 1 Cor. 15. throughout Rev. 20.12 And I saw the Dead small and great stand before God 13. And the Sea gave up the dead which were in it and Death and Hell or the Grave delivered up the dâ—ad which were in them Now the Grave and Death hold your Relations that are under their Power fast so fast that now there is no help and you therefore sorrow but the day will come when Death and the Grave shall deliver them up and hold them no longer here is matter of Hope therefore do not sorrow as those that have no Hope Secondly The indissoluble connexion betwixt the Resurrection of Christ and Believers that sleep in