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A43584	A narrative of the holy life, and happy death of that reverend, faithful and zealous man of God, and minister of the Gospel of Jesus Christ, Mr. John Angier, many years Pastor of the Church of Christ at Denton, near Manchester in Lancashire wherein are related many passages that concern his birth, education, his entrance into the ministry, discharge of his trust therein, and his death.	Heywood, Oliver, 1629-1702.	1683 (1683)	Wing H1772; ESTC R177987	61,863	136

might Rain such a tim● in such a place He was at present somethin● abashed and loath to Answer but bein● further urged said Sir I wisht it wou● Rain Learning Why said his Father wh● Profession wouldst thou be of he Answe● ed I would be a Preacher Come Be● said the Father what didst thou wish 〈◊〉 would Rain he answered Wool Wh● said he what Calling wouldst thou chuse he answered I would be of your calling a Clothier Samuel said the Father wh● hadst thou a mind it should Rain He a● swered Money for I have a mind to be 〈◊〉 Merchant And lastly calling Edmund d● manding the same he answered that he d● sired it might Rain Plumbs for he would chuse to be a Grocer The Father bei● an intelligent considerate man thus obse● ving every ones genius and being furnished with a competent estate suited to them Callings according to their wishes Bezaleel was a rich Clothier in Dedham a gracious man he died October 30. 1678. Samuel the Third Son being brought up a Merchant lived in good repute in Holland beyond Sea and there died in March 1666 7. Edmund the youngest being bound Apprentice to a Grocer went into New-England and is the only survivor hath many years kept a Grocers Shop in Cambridg there and I suppose is living at the writing hereof But to retun to the Eldest Son John the subject of this discourse Being trained up a Scholar proved a notable instrument of Glory to God and good to souls in his generation And thus they all answered the ends of their education and had good success a good Item to Parents in disposing their children to Callings rather to consult their Childrens capacities and inclinations than their own humours and conveniencies things do always best when voluntarily chosen when the stream of natural affections runs to the channel of an adapted Vocation it bears down all oppositions and attains the desired Port of a sutable success in the most arduous enterprises hence Dr. Harris saith he never attemtped any thing within the verge of his Calling ●hough it seemed difficult in the entrance but with Gods blessing on his industrious prosecution he sound it feasible and facile but nil invitâ Minervâ that which is attempted against heart or without an adequate capacity goes on heavily and seldom renders the professor of his Calling fit to manage it to purpose or arrive at any eminency in it because it goeth against the grain wisely therefore did the Athenians who brought their youth into a place where the Utensils for all Callings were laid up that making their choice thereof each might have the Calling he had thereby chosen And as his proficiency at School was according to his time so divine grace did be times begin to reach and touch the heart of this our young Timothy 2 Tim. 3.15 who from a child had known the holy Scriptures for at Twelve years of age the Lord dealt with his conscience by some rays of illumination and darts of conviction which more effectually were fastened in him by Mr. Rogers Ministry after his fathers death but from his first conviction he had much trouble upon his spirit which he kept much to himself and often retired into a corner being ashamed that any one should know of his heart-grief his Mother being a choice and gracious Christian often spake to him of Soul concerns wept and prayed much for him At a competent age his Father sent him to the University of Cambridg he was admitted in Immanuel Colledge where notwithstanding his pious education and hopeful impressions before mentioned he sell off to vain companie and loose practices see the slipperiness of youth to the great grief of his parents and his own present guilt and after bitterness in the review There he continued and commenced Batchellor in Arts before his fathers death who being sick sent for this his son to come home from Cambridg but he came so late that in the afternoon as he approached towards Dedham he met the people going from his fathers Funeral which had a very deep impression upon him God took hold of this occasion more effectually to awaken his conscience and Alarum him to his duty Mr. Angier was kept a season at his mothers house followed his studies attended on Mr. Rogers Ministrie this Mr. John Rogers of Dedham was a mirrour and miracle of zeal and success in his Ministerial labours it was wont to be said Come let 's go to Dedham to get a little fire he was Lecturer there and preached once on Lordsday and a Lecture on the Tuesday to which multitudes of people flock'd from the parts adjacent and his plain preaching was blessed with a large Harvest however some expressions and gestures he used would now seem indecent yet the gravity of the man and general reverence people had for him rendered them not only not offensive but sometimes very effectual his taking hold with both hands at one time of the supporters of the Canopy over the Pulpit and roaring hideously to represent the torments of the damned had an awakening force attending it Mr. Thomas Goodwin after Dr. Goodwin when he was a Fellow in Cambridg and an eminent Preacher much followed and honoured occasionally hearing Mr. Rogers fell under such convictions that he after professed that he lookt on himself neither as a Christian nor a Preacher one passage Mr. Angier hath oft mentioned That Mr. Rogers being called to Preach a Marriage Sermon I think insisted on the Wedding garment God did so set in with the word that the Marriage-Solemnity was turned into bitter mourning so that all the Ministers that were at the Marriage were imployed in comforting or advising consciences awakened by that Sermon Oh Blessed espousals betwixt Christ and Souls such sorrow was better than carnal Laughter and laid a solid foundation of Spiritual joy A Gentlewoman that Travelled ten Miles to hear plain and powerful Mr. Rogers being in great troubles of conscience desired some conference with him and after she had related her condition telling long and sad stories of her had heart sad state Gods wrath due to her danger of dropping into Hell c. the good old man hearing all this at last started up and fetched some frisks on the floor and cried out God be thanked God be thanked the Gentlewoman thought the old man mad and was strangely surprised to see him rejoyce in her sorrow But he knew what he said and rejoyced in that sorrow that was the seed-plot of so blessed an harvest for that Gentlewoman proved an eminent Saint and a lovely Consort in exile and tribulation to a very holy and eminent Minister of Christ as her own sister hath told me Mr. Angiers manner was when he attended Mr. Rogers Lecture after Sermon when others staid discoursed dispatched business he for his part went home to his chamber meditated prayed work'd the Sermon upon his heart for about an hour and thereby imprinted it so lastingly upon his memory that

grace which is able to build you up and to give you an inheritance among all them which are sanctifyed it was an excelent seasonable and pathetical discourse and well worthy to be annexed to this present relation if the worthy Author ●ad judged it fit however the solemnities of that day will not easily be forgot●en Thus the best must die Zech. 1 5. ●our Fathers where are they and the Prophets do they live for ever the holi●st men cannot plead for an exemption or expect Enochs priviledg of a Translation only to the godly deaths sting is pluckt ●ut this swelling Jordan is driven back the passage is rendred easy and safe to the heavenly Pilgrim God brought this ●aithful watchman through his long and boysterous sea to a safe harbour in a ●asonable time and if we imbark in the ●ame ship of the Church and have our Lord Jesus with us as our faithful and skilful pi●t though in storms and tempests he be as it were asleep yet believing prayer will awake him and he will rebuke 〈◊〉 Winds and Sea and there shall be calme and the Ship shall presently be at land and the passengers shall b●●afe I have now dispatched the History 〈◊〉 Mr. Angiers life as far as matters o● cur to our present observation a● have drawn it thus far on till this Thre● of his life be cut off and lets hi● drop into the Grave and so cuts o● the line of our Historical account 〈◊〉 him THere are yet two things behind which shew something of the breathings o● his gracious soul living and dying 1. The first is some observables gather● out of his own Diary under his own hand 2. His dying Speeches prayers counsel● and admonitions to those about him in 〈◊〉 last sickness Both these declare much of Gods Grace ●nd manifest the Holy exactness of his serious and savoury Spirit The first is a considerable paper respecting his frame of spirit in his younger days and reviewed and revsied in his elder years 〈◊〉 runs thus I do now seriously resolve between God and my own Soul to read his word diligently morning and evening before private prayer thereto adjoyned and do purpose to be constant in respect of time there●o to be allotted to wit in the morning before Chappel if it may be with convenience or otherwise without delay when return from the Chappel at Night between 5 and 6 of the Clock if extraordinary occasions hinder me not because my spirits being fresher than after supper I shall 〈◊〉 the fitter to do God acceptable service 〈◊〉 do likewise resolve to be diligent in my ●udy every day for the space of 6 hours ●t least no day to be overflipped without ●he full accomplishment of them I likewise promise faithfully to God and my own Soul ●o refrain as from the common sins of the ●me to wit Drunkenness Licenciousness 〈◊〉 the like so to strive against those sins 〈◊〉 am by nature most addicted to and for ●e prevention of the like faults to shun 〈◊〉 the occasions thereunto leading enticing or provoking as bad company l●scivious talk or excess in the use of th● Creature the which that I may perfor● according to Gods will and pleasure I d● dain all my own abilities and fly to his infinite mercy desiring his special help an● assistance his spirit to instruct me his spirit to direct me his spirit to sanctify me th● I may be kept blameless being without sp● till the day of his appearance my des● hath been is and shall be upon my bended knees for the furtherance of these motion begun and kindled by his holy spirit which I hope will cherish them till th● flame into an holy fire of Heavenly conversation the Life of Virtue the Glory 〈◊〉 Grace Written with my own hand April 6. 16●● John Angier Perused with comfort May 1. 165● July 19. 1657. I found a paper in 〈◊〉 study of May 9. 1626. A Bill for Phys● when I was in a Feaver in Cambridg abo●● 31 years since so long hath God lengthened out my life My going to New England was ve● forward Mr. Newman earnestly invited 〈◊〉 I received Letters from Bristol April 〈◊〉 1630. That I was expected there to ta● Shipping for N. E. this April and had m●● kindness offered me yet the Lord over-ruled it Upon the coming on of troubles I had comfort from Zeph. 2.3 It may be ye shall be hid in the day of the Lords anger Josiahs mercy was not to see the evil Jeremiahs mercy was to be secured in the midst of sight My Wife dyed December 12th One Night after her death the Children were in the Parlour Praying together and hearing a noise I went to the door and heard my Son at Prayer with his Sister he acknowledged to God that they had despised Father and Mother contrary to Gods command and therefore God hath taken away their Mother he desired God that they might not provoke him by their sin to take away their Father also which did much affect me Upon a recovery from a sickness unexpectedly I was much affected with Isa 33. ult and in prayer the Lord brought to my mind Matt. 8.9 affliction is Gods servant if he bid it come it comes if he bid it go it goes At Bolton I was sent for to visit a godly man that was sick at Great-Leaver found him in a comfortable condition he told me he received his first comfort by my Ministry ●at Denton Preaching on 1 Cor. 5.7 Christ ●ur passover is sacrificed for us ten years ago Blessed be God who gave me this encouragement He notes in the margent The fruits of my labours manifested ten years after Nov. 30. 47. A day of thanksgiving was kept with some friends for the recovery of a Child that had been sick it should seem they were in the journey and had small hopes of recovery the very same day they prayed the Child revived at night and gathered strength in the journey sensibly● they were by the sickness of the Child detained against their own minds and the minds of the people but God had a special hand in it for God sent the Pestilence into the Family where they were ●o sojourn and had they gone at the time purposed they had gone into an infected house and had been shut up there June 18 71. God gave rest to our aged afflicted Mother about 3 in the afternoon it being Lords day it is observable that the day after God took away our Mother and that supply from her sailed God se● me notice of some supply out of my own estate as he had formerly done when the rent of my Land fell in Essex Phil● 4.19 Novem. 19. 72 Died good Bishop W●kins of the Stone a great loss he d●ed comfortably and rejoyced in his moderation whilst he was Bishop his deat● was much lamented in the City of Chester Aug. 22. 73. upon hearing that Mr. Case going from home 4 or 5 days they returning found themselves Robbed to a great value he

will make it good to some and why not to the children of the Covenant how oft hath he told the Lord even in our hearing that he was resolved he would not let go that hold that God had given him but would stick to him by faith and prayer as ●ong as he had a day to live and die in hopes that God would make his promise good to his seed when he was dead and gone His opinion for a young man that intended the Ministry His opinion for young Scholars was to be placed for some time with fomeable Minister and to preach under such alones eye and ear and that it was hazzardous for beginners to live in great mens houses he was of excellent use in giving advice to young Scholars in publick and private in the times when the Sectaries were at the height at an ordination at Manchester he gave the Exhortation four were ordained and he said it rejoyced his Soul to see in these discouraging times so man desirous of the calling but saith he it m● be it is but as a Husbandman with his har●● toward Night when he sees a storm co●ing he calls out all that can carry a she● to come forth makes all his force for 〈◊〉 may be it is but a short time as coming i● at the Eleventh hour but one hour to wor● in He advised them to take heed of t●● things as in the case of the prophet to J●roboam sometimes the hand of Authorit● may be lifted up against you yet that ma● bed ried up be not affrighted with it b● then the seducer may slay you consent not 〈◊〉 him He was wise and happy in his counsel and usually being a man of much observato● he had exceeding pat instances his grave counsels to set on h● counsels with as this It is good for persons to submit to the Lords hand and to l● him chuse the Rod for us A Woman 〈◊〉 Manchester burying a Daughter of t●● years never looked up but repined at 〈◊〉 came often to the Grave to mourn over it yet it was a Child miserably infirm h●● the Evil runing on it in many places afterwards God took away the use of her Li●●● and lying in torturing pain acknowledge that it was nothing to bury a Child a● was now made sensible of her impatien● under her form● affliction and that no● God had dealt smartlier with her And upon this Mr. Angier mentioned an Aunt of his who had great bodily weakness and pain and she desired that God would take that affliction away and lay on her what affliction he pleased but that the Lord did take that away and laid affliction of spirit upon her which was far sharper and she never recovered it while she lived So to count the affliction best for us be it never so sharp he sometimes told how Mr. Daniel Rogers his first Wife was a very cross Woman and he bore it a long time at last he made his complaint to his Father Mr. Richard Rogers and he gave him this answer Any thing Daniel to bring thee to heaven He was very faithful in admonishing as he saw cause His faithful admonition when an eminent Minister said he ●ook such a thing ill or unkindly from such 〈◊〉 one Mr. Angier gravely and smiling●y answered Would I so little favour ●y self as to take unkindness from ●ny one which saith that good man 〈◊〉 thought of since to my great advantage for this taking unkindness is ac●ompined with a fretting within ones self ●nd so it is a leaving the offender and ●lling upon ones self Mr. His thoughts of the Dutch War Angier was much afflicted with that sad War betwixt the Dutch and us yet he comforted himself that God did not give us over to be corrected by Papists but that Protestants are in the hands of Protest ants tho upon a sad account and he hoped that the drops of the storm might begin with the reformed Churches but the fury of it should be poured upon the Papists It pleased the Lord to lay upon Mr. His afflictions in old age Angier many grievous and cutting affliction in his old age the latter part of his days according to his own observation on Joh. 21. concerning Peter our Lord told him that when he was old he should be carried whither he would not That God oft exerciseth his choicest servants that have been men of eminent activeness and usefulness in his service with great afflictions in their old age 1 Chron. 16.12 Invit Ger. Maj. 470. as bodily pain so Asa in the latter part of his life was diseased in his feet Melchior Adams tells us of Mr. George Major that he saw the Funerals of six sons whereof one i. e. Leonard died by the biting of a mad Dog several Daughters Nephew died in all this and much more saying Si bona accepimus annon mals sustineamus shall we receive good and not bear evil at last he died of sore diseases having kept his bed near three years thus Mr. Angier instanced in Mr. Rogers o● Dedham who had great pain of the stone so had worthy Mr. Storer of Stockport and Mr. Johnson Parson also of the same place old Mr. Bourn Mr. Herle and at that time when he spake of it good Mr. Harrison of Ashton his neighbour it may seem a Riddle and an unaccountable mystery of Providence why God should think fit to lay the heaviest load on the weakest Horse old age is a burden to it self Mr. Angier gave this account of it that thereby God thinks it fit to wean his Children from the World fit them for Heaven and render it more desirable besides God will make his Children perfect Christians exercised every way in suffering that they might be ●ntire lacking nothing according to Jam. 1.4 His old-age afflictions were 1. His Daughters dying The death of his beloved lovely Daughter Elizabeth who tho she was Married and lived with her Husband in Yorkshire yet being in a deep Consumption he sent his own easy going-Horse to fetch her home in hopes that change of Air might tend to her recovery but there she grew worse and anguishing died May 26. 1661. and was ●d by her own Mother in Denton Chappel●ard whose death tho it went near to his heart yet being abundantly satisfied that ●he was got safe to Heaven he bore it with great composedness and aequanimity for indeed she was the mirror of her age for parts and piety yet it could not but be an affliction to his spirit since fo hopeful a blossome of his Family was so quickly nipt off in the flower of her age 2. The Churches afflictions laid to heart But this presaged more crosses it was a great affliction to him that things wen● so ill with the Church of God as to publick liberty with which he sympathized tho he injoyed his but himself also must ta● a few drops of that cup that many of 〈◊〉 Brethren hath a large draught of

Childs hands according to the last Will and his Authority be ceased that takes not away the Authority of the Mother which was included in the Fathers but always distinct and therefore some Wills in bequeathing a Portion to be paid at Marriage do make the reasonable consent of the Mother a just condition 2. It may be the Mother hath just reason to deny her consent amongst others the want of temporal means i● that be wanting which is a greater defect in Ministers conditions than usually in others because they having large Spiritual means and living at the height thereof or beyond their Wives at their Death fall so much lower than others by how much they live higher the Mother may say She will provide a Match where Piety and Portion meet 3. If the Mother should unreasonably deny her Consent yet we must not run into that we have had so much experience of of later times to right our selves by force and violence but seek remedy in a regular way 4. If the Mother be carnal and they religious they must be afraid to lay a stumbling-block before her and tho the Scandal will not be so great being to live in another Country yet it will be too great if to any especially if to a Mother whose Souls good the Daughter is bound to pray for in a special manner and to seek by all good means 5. To Marry without Consent of the Mother at best is not a clear Case but dark and doubtful and will be an advantage to Temptation assailing tender Consciences whereby if their Expectations be crossed one in another or God send Afflictions their burden will be much increased because this Question will soon be moved Whether they did well to Marry without or against Consent 6. If Children be left to their own Liberty yet the Duty they owe to their Parents comfort and the greater judgment and experience of their Parents do justly challenge their humble desires of their Counsel their serious Deliberation thereupon and great unwillingness to Match without their reasonable consent Advise your Friends seriously to consider whether they have not gone out of Gods way in ingaging their Affections mutually before Consent sought if the Lord shall help them herein to repent it will be a foundation of after-Mercy the truly Godly are apt to miss it far in these occasions but Grace will not allow it when God makes a discovery Thus I have freely imparted my thoughts to you in this Case beseeching God to clear the paths of all his Servants especially his Ministers who are to carry the light before the people I rest Jan. 22. 54. Yours in all brotherly Offices J. Angier a The matter of Scandal seems to stick most and whether if Providence dispose of the Minister in another Country this may not be some relief to that is queried He received the Opinion of others as well as this yet he took mightily with Mr. Angiers Counsel for he saith Upon the receit of your Letter and Mr. Angiers advice in it To pray and wait upon the God of Spirits who could sweetly incline all spirits to comply with his counsels Tho I had prayed dayly for it yet I was put on upon a more earnest begging that Mercy in much more Faith and Hope that the Lord will so incline spirits And about a week after he had the news that the Gentlewoman had by an humble Letter to her Mother on this account obtained that the Mother did yield to leave her to her own disposal In a little time after he was setled a Minister in London and Married but shortly fell into a Fever and into the Small pox whereof he died and particular Friends understood that he was seized with great Melancholy and trouble which it was thought killed him and it was judged it was occasioned by excessive travelling that had surfeited his Body but if this matter of Consent had been doubtful what work would it have made with him in such a condition According to the prudent Suggestion of the fifth Reason in Mr. Angies Answer This was the first Case The second Case was about Presence at Common-Prayer which I the rather insert to testifie his Judgment and Principle in that Case The Case was represented from an unknown Person to us in these words Jan. 10. 1662. The grounds of my dissatisfaction concerning the Common-Prayer are 1. The ineffectualness of forms upon my heart Tho I do not deny the lawfulness of forms nor Question the experience of others in this or other forms yet I will say That tho I have to the utmost endeavoured to benefit my self by the several forms I have been necessitated to hear in publick and private yet I could never get any impression made on my heart thereby tho I have as much as I could removed prejudice yet they have been so to me as if I had had nothing and this I have observed in my self in several tempers of Spirit as Joy Grief Fear c. Nay when my heart hath been in the best frame and most sensible then have they been worst of all unto me 2. As to this form my prejudice is so great upon several accounts that I have no hope of good by it as having been bred up under its plenty and tired with its emptiness and yet surfeited of it whereby it hath the same effect that such meats have on which we surfeit which besides nauseating neither have I had any good by it but much hurt many ways 3. I cannot hear it without sin when I have been surprized with it it hath instead of stirring up Graces raised Passion and such Anger as hath forced me out of the place and if it be Worship it should be attended upon as Worship and the heart go along with it which if it do not must not be attended I find upon the view of my heart at Night that I have contracted guilt in my not joyning cordially in Gods Worship and getting good by it and by hearing it increase my sin 4. The influence that my intent of hearing it had upon my heart which I shall relate something of tho short of what it was Being in another Country amongst my Friends I was somewhat troubled what to do but the Minister being of my acquaintance tho I could not prevail with him to forbear it while I was there yet he promised me to read very little which did pretty well satisfie me but when I heard the first Bell in the Morning I was something sad to think what a Snare I was come into but when the next Bell gave notice I being in secret Duty was carried on by such trembling and terrors with anguish of Spirit that I was forced from the Duty thereby striving to satisfie my self with arguing the Case but the more I did strive the less I prevailed my weeping and sighing was so extream that I thought my heart would have broke Oh! how was I troubled that ever I set my foot out of