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mighty_a god_n be_v thou_o shall_v not_o commit_v adultery_n ex._n 20.14_o the_o lord_n himself_o will_v be_v witness_n against_o such_o mal._n 2.14_o the_o lord_n say_v the_o prophet_n have_v be_v a_o witness_n between_o thou_o and_o the_o wife_n of_o thy_o youth_n against_o who_o thou_o have_v deal_v treacherous_o yet_o she_o be_v thy_o companion_n and_o the_o wife_n of_o thy_o youth_n yea_o of_o thy_o covenant_n to_o keep_v thou_o only_o to_o she_o and_o do_v not_o he_o make_v one_o say_v the_o prophet_n and_o yet_o have_v be_v residue_n of_o spirit_n and_o wherefore_o one_o one_o man_z and_o one_o woman_n that_o he_o may_v seek_v a_o godly_a feed_n therefore_o take_v heed_n to_o your_o spirit_n say_v he_o and_o let_v none_o deal_v treacherous_o with_o the_o wife_n of_o his_o youth_n mal._n 2.15_o and_o the_o same_o be_v the_o sin_n of_o the_o wife_n and_o her_o wickedness_n if_o she_o break_v the_o marriage-covenant_n as_o you_o may_v read_v prov._n 2.16_o 17_o 18._o to_o deliver_v thou_o from_o the_o strange_a woman_n which_o flatter_v with_o her_o word_n which_o forsake_v the_o guide_n of_o her_o youth_n and_o forgeti_v the_o covenant_n of_o her_o god_n for_o her_o house_n incline_v to_o death_n and_o her_o path_n unto_o the_o dead_a none_o that_o go_v unto_o her_o return_n again_o neither_o take_v they_o hold_v of_o the_o path_n of_o life_n and_o prov._n 7.27_o of_o the_o adulterous_a woman_n the_o wise_a wise_a man_n conclude_v that_o her_o house_n be_v the_o way_n to_o hell_n go_v down_o to_o the_o chamber_n of_o death_n a_o whore_n be_v a_o deep_a ditch_n and_o a_o strange_a woman_n a_o narrow_a pit_n proverb_n 23.27_o therefore_o to_o be_v avoid_v as_o snare_n and_o pit_n prepare_v for_o thy_o destruction_n both_o the_o adulterer_n and_o adultoress_n they_o sin_v grievous_o and_o their_o punishment_n will_v be_v terrible_a except_o god_n in_o time_n give_v they_o true_a repentance_n for_o by_o the_o law_n of_o god_n they_o be_v both_o to_o be_v stone_v 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or_o gold-link_a of_o love_n or_o gold-link_a of_o love_n be_v that_o either_o of_o they_o or_o both_o of_o they_o have_v a_o special_a care_n of_o their_o mutual_a duty_n to_o give_v right_a and_o due_a respect_n to_o each_o other_o first_o the_o wife_n to_o honour_n and_o reverence_v her_o husband_n as_o her_o head_n and_o to_o obey_v he_o in_o all_o thing_n lawful_a and_o expedient_a in_o the_o lord_n as_o sarah_n that_o great_a lady_n do_v honour_n and_o obey_v abraham_n her_o husband_n call_v he_o lord_n 1_o peter_z 3.6_o i_o say_v obey_v he_o in_o all_o thing_n lawful_a and_o expedient_a in_o the_o lord_n for_o as_o this_o be_v the_o rule_n of_o child_n obedience_n to_o their_o parent_n give_v by_o the_o spirit_n of_o god_n ephes_n 6.1_o so_o it_o be_v the_o rule_n of_o all_o inferior_n to_o obey_v their_o superior_n in_o all_o thing_n lawful_a in_o the_o lord_n yea_o expedient_o also_o it_o be_v to_o be_v respect_v a_o husband_n may_v not_o prostitute_v his_o wife_n chastity_n or_o honour_n as_o he_o may_v not_o prostitute_v his_o daughter_n to_o be_v a_o whore_n as_o you_o may_v read_v leviticus_n 19.29_o nor_o husband_n nor_o father_n can_v lawful_o command_v a_o wife_n or_o daughter_n to_o consent_v to_o such_o a_o sin_n nor_o be_v either_o wife_n or_o daughter_n bind_v to_o obey_v in_o such_o sinful_a command_n no_o superior_a have_v power_n to_o command_v a_o inferior_a to_o sin_n against_o god_n command_n the_o answer_n to_o such_o unlawful_a command_n of_o man_n or_o woman_n be_v set_v down_o by_o the_o holy_a ghost_n act_v 5.20_o it_o be_v better_a to_o obey_v god_n then_o man._n these_o unlawful_a command_n will_v stop_v the_o current_n of_o love_n between_o husband_n and_o wife_n for_o as_o the_o wife_n be_v to_o honour_v the_o husband_n as_o her_o head_n so_o the_o husband_n be_v no_o way_n to_o dishonour_n or_o seek_v to_o dishonour_v his_o wife_n but_o to_o honour_v she_o as_o the_o weak_a vessel_n as_o a_o coheir_n with_o he_o of_o the_o grace_n of_o life_n as_o the_o apostle_n direct_v 1_o peter_n 3.7_o this_o live_n together_o as_o heir_n of_o the_o grace_n of_o life_n must_v be_v of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n as_o to_o a_o companion_n and_o fellow_n in_o the_o bond_n of_o marriage_n as_o may_v be_v intimate_v mal._n 2.14_o 15_o 16._o for_o when_o god_n make_v the_o woman_n as_o he_o do_v not_o take_v she_o out_o of_o the_o head_n of_o adam_n to_o be_v above_o he_o so_o he_o do_v not_o take_v she_o out_o of_o adam_n foot_n to_o be_v trample_v upon_o but_o out_o of_o his_o side_n near_o to_o his_o heart_n gen._n 2.21_o 22._o to_o be_v honour_v and_o love_v as_o his_o fellow_n helper_n and_o belove_a companion_n and_o this_o kind_a respect_n on_o both_o side_n be_v a_o excellent_a mean_n and_o help_n to_o preserve_v love_n between_o husband_n and_o wife_n to_o the_o end_n the_o thirteen_o direction_n love_n the_o thirteen_o direction_n or_o gold-link_a of_o love_n or_o gold-link_a of_o love_n be_v that_o both_o husband_n and_o wife_n be_v mutual_o careful_a in_o their_o place_n for_o the_o preservation_n or_o increase_n of_o their_o estate_n and_o provision_n and_o government_n of_o their_o household_n or_o family_n and_o provide_v both_o for_o the_o present_a and_o for_o the_o future_a this_o care_n of_o the_o husband_n and_o his_o duty_n we_o may_v learn_v from_o that_o great_a apostle_n 1_o tim._n 5.8_o if_o any_o man_n provide_v not_o for_o his_o own_o especial_o for_o those_o of_o his_o own_o household_n he_o have_v deny_v the_o faith_n and_o be_v worse_a than_o a_o infidel_n that_o be_v good_a counsel_n of_o solomon_n prov._n 27.23_o 24._o be_v thou_o diligent_a to_o know_v the_o state_n of_o thy_o flock_n and_o look_v well_o to_o thy_o herd_n for_o riches_n be_v not_o for_o ever_o and_o do_v the_o crown_n endure_v to_o every_o generation_n providence_n be_v requisite_a to_o preserve_v a_o estate_n i_o remember_v it_o be_v above_o threescore_o year_n since_o when_o i_o be_v in_o 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he_o say_v a_o virtuous_a woman_n she_o look_v well_o to_o the_o way_n of_o her_o household_n and_o eat_v not_o the_o bread_n of_o idleness_n her_o child_n rise_v up_o and_o call_v her_o bless_a he_o husband_n also_o and_o he_o praise_v she_o etc._n etc._n he_o conclude_v give_v she_o of_o the_o fruit_n of_o her_o hand_n and_o let_v she_o own_o work_n praise_v she_o in_o the_o gate_n the_o good_a wife_n will_v consider_v her_o husband_n estate_n and_o not_o press_v he_o to_o spend_v above_o power_n she_o will_v do_v her_o husband_n good_a and_o not_o hurt_v all_o the_o day_n of_o her_o life_n prov._n 31.12_o thus_o whon_v there_o be_v a_o mutual_a providential_a care_n of_o husband_n and_o wife_n for_o themselves_o family_n and_o posterity_n this_o be_v
the_o wife_n this_o be_v a_o mean_n to_o enjoy_v peace_n it_o be_v the_o moral_a man_n observation_n etc._n heratius_n latius_fw-la regress_n avidum_fw-la domande_fw-fr spiritum_fw-la etc._n etc._n that_o a_o man_n shall_v conquer_v more_o by_o rule_v his_o spirit_n then_o by_o conquer_a the_o great_a person_n in_o the_o world_n and_o the_o holy_a spirit_n of_o god_n direct_v that_o we_o shall_v forbear_v one_o another_o in_o love_n co._n 3.13_o and_o the_o same_o apostle_n exhort_v to_o be_v long-suffering_a this_o be_v our_o duty_n as_o christian_a in_o general_a and_o the_o same_o be_v incumbent_n upon_o man_n and_o wife_n in_o particular_a to_o yield_v sometime_o to_o each_o other_o in_o love_n that_o be_v a_o excellent_a example_n of_o self-denial_n example_n example_n which_o faithful_a abraham_n give_v when_o his_o wife_n sarah_n be_v angry_a with_o her_o maid_n hagar_n who_o she_o herself_o have_v give_v to_o her_o husband_n to_o get_v child_n because_o she_o herself_o be_v barren_a as_o you_o may_v read_v gen._n 16.1_o 2._o abraham_n leave_v her_o maid_n at_o her_o mistress_n dispose_v and_o she_o by_o her_o hard_a usage_n make_v she_o fly_v away_o and_o this_o must_v needs_o be_v against_o abraham_n heart_n that_o hagar_n shall_v be_v so_o hardly_o use_v and_o constrain_v to_o fly_v away_o who_o he_o have_v get_v with_o child_n by_o his_o wife_n consent_n and_o no_o doubt_n have_v affection_n for_o she_o yet_o abraham_n condescend_v to_o his_o wife_n for_o abraham_n say_v unto_o sarah_n thy_o maid_n be_v in_o thy_o hand_n do_v to_o she_o as_o it_o please_v thou_o again_o when_o sarah_n have_v bring_v forth_o isaac_n and_o sarah_n do_v see_v ishmael_n the_o son_n of_o hagar_n mock_v of_o her_o son_n isaac_n she_o call_v to_o abraham_n her_o husband_n put_v away_o the_o bondwoman_n and_o her_o son_n for_o the_o son_n of_o the_o bondwoman_n shall_v not_o be_v heir_n with_o my_o son_n even_o with_o isaac_n gen._n 21.10_o 11._o this_o thing_n be_v very_o 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show_v her_o beauty_n to_o his_o guest_n as_o he_o desire_v hester_n 1.11_o 12._o she_o may_v have_v prevent_v his_o anger_n and_o continue_a queen_n to_o her_o death_n in_o all_o likelihood_n thus_o you_o see_v the_o pass_n by_o of_o occasion_n of_o anger_n and_o a_o love_a condescend_v to_o each_o other_o lawful_a desire_n be_v a_o excellent_a gold-link_a of_o love_n and_o mean_n to_o preserve_v love_n between_o husband_n and_o wife_n during_o life_n the_o seventeen_o direction_n love_n the_o seventeen_o direction_n or_o gold-link_a of_o love_n or_o gold-link_a of_o love_n now_o follow_v this_o be_v to_o exercise_v spiritual_a wisdom_n how_o and_o when_o to_o speak_v one_o to_o another_o of_o any_o thing_n that_o be_v not_o well_o do_v or_o say_v by_o either_o party_n or_o that_o they_o perceive_v be_v contrary_a to_o either_o of_o their_o mind_n or_o affection_n or_o not_o for_o their_o profit_n safety_n or_o honour_n a_o word_n fit_o speak_v in_o due_a season_n how_o good_a be_v it_o say_v king_n solomon_n prov._n 15.23_o and_o prov._n 25.11_o a_o word_n fit_o speak_v be_v like_a apple_n of_o gold_n in_o picture_n of_o silver_n and_o the_o kingly_a preacher_n tell_v we_o there_o be_v a_o time_n for_o all_o thing_n eccles_n 3.1_o for_o that_o which_o be_v speak_v may_v be_v well_o take_v at_o one_o time_n which_o will_v not_o be_v so_o well_o resent_v at_o another_o time_n for_o example_n example_n example_n when_o churlish_a covetous_a nabal_n have_v use_v david_n young_a man_n unkind_o and_o bring_v himself_o and_o family_n in_o great_a danger_n we_o see_v abigail_n meet_v david_n with_o a_o present_a and_o pacifi_v david_n and_o prevent_v his_o shed_n of_o blood_n as_o you_o may_v read_v 1_o sam._n 25.26_o and_o return_v home_o she_o find_v her_o husband_n keep_v a_o feast_n like_o a_o king_n and_o merry_a with_o wine_n for_o he_o be_v very_o drunken_a verse_n 36._o wherefore_o she_o tell_v he_o nothing_o less_o or_o more_o until_o the_o morning_n but_o it_o come_v to_o pass_v in_o the_o morning_n when_o the_o wine_n be_v go_v out_o of_o nabal_n than_o she_o tell_v he_o these_o thing_n and_o then_o he_o be_v sensible_a of_o his_o folly_n to_o the_o full_a 1_o sam._n 25.37_o 25.37_o 1_o sam._n 25.37_o thus_o when_o a_o husband_n or_o wife_n be_v in_o any_o distemper_n drunken_a with_o wine_n or_o strong_a drink_n or_o with_o any_o passion_n or_o discontent_n it_o be_v wisdom_n to_o forbear_v speak_v and_o to_o observe_v a_o sit_v time_n and_o in_o a_o love_a manner_n to_o declare_v mild_o and_o peaceable_o what_o be_v a_o fail_v on_o either_o part_n and_o that_o with_o meekness_n of_o spirit_n for_o a_o soft_a answer_n turn_v away_o wrath_n but_o grievous_a word_n stir_v up_o anger_n as_o we_o note_v before_o prov._n 15.10_o the_o apostle_n st._n james_n his_o direction_n be_v good_a james_n 1.19_o 20._o be_v swift_a to_o hear_v slow_a to_o speak_v slow_a to_o wrath_n for_o the_o wrath_n of_o man_n work_v not_o the_o righteousness_n of_o god_n thus_o spiritual_a policy_n yea_o even_o civil_a wisdom_n be_v one_o special_a help_n to_o quench_v the_o fire_n of_o jar_n and_o unnecessary_a fall_n out_o and_o to_o preserve_v conjugal_a love_n between_o husband_n and_o wife_n during_o their_o life_n a_o eighteen_o direction_n love_n the_o eighteen_o direction_n or_o gold-link_a of_o love_n or_o gold-link_a of_o love_n in_o this_o golden_a chain_n of_o love_n be_v to_o be_v of_o a_o well-pleasing_a quiet_a spirit_n towards_o each_o other_o not_o seek_v quarrel_n but_o rather_o seek_v to_o please_v one_o another_o in_o love_n in_o the_o lord_n this_o duty_n st._n paul_n intimate_v 1_o cor._n 7.33_o 34._o the_o marry_a man_n care_v for_o the_o thing_n of_o this_o world_n how_o he_o may_v please_v his_o wife_n and_o the_o marry_a woman_n how_o she_o may_v please_v her_o husband_n the_o apostle_n hold_v this_o out_o i_o humble_o conceive_v not_o only_o as_o a_o practice_n but_o as_o a_o christian_a duty_n also_o to_o be_v careful_a both_o husband_n and_o wife_n to_o please_v one_o another_o in_o all_o thing_n lawful_a and_o convenient_a in_o the_o lord_n for_o rom._n 15.1_o 2_o 3._o he_o give_v this_o rule_n for_o christian_n in_o general_a that_o the_o strong_a aught_o to_o bear_v the_o infirmity_n of_o the_o weak_a and_o not_o to_o please_v ourselves_o but_o let_v every_o one_o please_v his_o neighbour_n to_o edification_n now_o if_o this_o be_v the_o duty_n of_o all_o christian_n to_o please_v one_o another_o for_o their_o good_a then_o much_o more_o of_o husband_n and_o wife_n to_o be_v well-pleasing_a to_o each_o other_o not_o to_o be_v contentious_a or_o quarrelsome_a or_o cross_v for_o trifle_n or_o small_a matter_n but_o to_o be_v wise_a and_o seek_v to_o please_v and_o give_v content_a to_o each_o other_o according_a to_o their_o duty_n and_o place_n this_o be_v heavenly_a wisdom_n say_v st._n james_n which_o be_v from_o above_o and_o be_v first_o pure_a then_o peaceable_a gentle_a and_o easy_a to_o be_v entreat_v full_a of_o mercy_n and_o good_a fruit_n without_o partiality_n and_o without_o hypocrisy_n james_n 3.17_o 18._o and_o this_o wisdom_n ought_v to_o be_v between_o husband_n and_o wife_n to_o be_v peaceable_a not_o troublesome_a to_o each_o other_o for_o as_o the_o wise_a man_n speak_v he_o that_o trouble_v his_o own_o house_n shall_v inherit_v the_o wind_n and_o the_o fool_n shall_v be_v servant_n to_o the_o wise_a in_o heart_n prov._n 11.29_o and_o prov._n 19.13_o 11._o a_o foolish_a son_n be_v the_o calamity_n of_o his_o father_n and_o the_o contention_n of_o a_o wife_n be_v a_o continual_a drop_n it_o will_v rot_v a_o house_n in_o time_n and_o again_o house_n and_o riches_n be_v the_o inheritance_n of_o father_n but_o a_o prudent_a wife_n be_v from_o the_o lord_n prov._n 19.14_o