apostle_n prescribe_v humility_n as_o a_o antidote_n against_o strife_n and_o contention_n and_o a_o sovereign_n mean_a for_o attain_v unto_o and_o entertain_v of_o union_n and_o peace_n but_o where_o pride_n be_v predominant_a man_n and_o woman_n walk_v so_o as_o that_o they_o care_v not_o to_o give_v content_a to_o any_o body_n but_o themselves_o in_o the_o family_n they_o must_v have_v all_o the_o content_n and_o no_o body_n else_o be_v please_v certain_o a_o humble_a spirit_n be_v much_o free_a from_o angry_a passion_n than_o any_o other_o because_o as_o a_o humble_a person_n be_v not_o willing_a to_o give_v offence_n to_o any_o so_o be_v not_o ready_a to_o take_v offence_n from_o other_o for_o it_o be_v pride_n of_o spirit_n to_o be_v ready_a to_o take_v offence_n from_o other_o upon_o every_o trifle_n and_o by_o this_o mean_n person_n prove_v to_o be_v very_o burdensome_a to_o other_o the_o ground_n of_o a_o proud_a person_n take_v offence_n be_v this_o because_o they_o think_v that_o every_o body_n must_v say_v as_o they_o say_v and_o do_v as_o they_o do_v else_o they_o cry_v out_o that_o they_o be_v always_o oppose_v and_o because_o they_o think_v their_o own_o judgement_n best_o and_o such_o a_o thing_n be_v better_a therefore_o other_o must_v do_v it_o and_o if_o they_o do_v not_o than_o they_o be_v lofty_a than_o they_o be_v proud_a and_o stout_a and_o break_v out_o into_o unseemly_a speech_n be_v inflame_v with_o passion_n evidence_v that_o they_o be_v under_o the_o tyranny_n of_o their_o pride_n so_o that_o there_o be_v no_o prevent_v of_o anger_n &_o contention_n between_o husband_n &_o wife_n without_o the_o mortification_n of_o their_o pride_n 4._o another_o direction_n to_o prevent_v sinful_a anger_n and_o hot_a contest_v between_o husband_n and_o wife_n be_v that_o thou_o do_v consider_v that_o god_n be_v merciful_a and_o gracious_a slow_a to_o anger_n and_o abundant_a in_o kindness_n exod._n 34.6_o and_o as_o he_o be_v not_o easy_o provoke_v to_o anger_n so_o be_v provoke_v his_o anger_n last_v not_o long_a for_o he_o will_v not_o always_o chide_v nor_o keep_v his_o anger_n for_o ever_o psal_n 103._o 8_o 9_o the_o lord_n with_o much_o lenity_n suffer_v the_o vessel_n ordain_v to_o destruction_n how_o long_o do_v he_o suffer_v the_o old_a world_n how_o loath_a be_v he_o to_o strikeâ—_n if_o in_o and_o hundred_o &_o twenty_o year_n he_o can_v have_v reclaim_v they_o he_o will_v have_v forbear_v they_o 1_o pet._n 3.20_o the_o measure_n of_o his_o grace_n and_o mercy_n towards_o we_o be_v daily_o boundless_a and_o exceed_v all_o measure_n he_o forgive_v we_o every_o moment_n much_o more_o than_o we_o can_v possible_o be_v wrong_v of_o man_n yea_o he_o forgive_v that_o person_n that_o injure_v we_o much_o more_o than_o we_o can_v forgive_v he_o o_o then_o if_o thou_o will_v evidence_n thyself_o to_o be_v a_o child_n of_o god_n must_v thou_o not_o labour_v to_o express_v his_o virtue_n this_o be_v that_o the_o apostle_n exhort_v 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husband_n or_o o_o wife_n stand_v in_o need_n of_o forgiveness_n and_o will_v thou_o not_o forgive_v thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n shall_v god_n forgive_v thou_o infinite_a sin_n and_o will_v thou_o not_o pass_v by_o one_o offence_n do_v thâ—n_o stand_v in_o deed_n of_o a_o sea_n of_o mercy_n for_o the_o wash_n away_o thy_o many_o foul_a offence_n and_o will_v thou_o not_o let_v one_o drop_v fall_n upon_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n to_o forbear_v or_o forgive_v in_o trifle_a wrong_n certain_o if_o husband_n and_o wife_n will_v but_o serious_o consider_v these_o thing_n it_o will_v make_v all_o quarrelling_n and_o contention_n between_o they_o to_o cease_v o_o what_o little_a cause_n have_v thou_o then_o to_o manifest_v a_o furious_a spirit_n against_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n for_o every_o trifle_n see_v god_n do_v not_o deal_v furious_o with_o thou_o for_o great_a offence_n o_o that_o these_o consideration_n may_v prevent_v husband_n and_o wife_n rage_v against_o and_o fall_v out_o one_o with_o another_o for_o the_o time_n to_o come_v 5._o if_o thou_o will_v keep_v thy_o spirit_n quiet_a and_o free_a from_o furious_a passion_n when_o any_o thing_n be_v do_v by_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n that_o be_v contrary_a to_o thy_o mind_n and_o do_v much_o displease_v look_v up_o to_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n and_o acknowledge_v the_o providence_n of_o god_n without_o which_o not_o the_o least_o grief_n or_o injury_n can_v befall_v thou_o for_o even_o the_o least_o be_v a_o portion_n of_o that_o cup_n which_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n reach_v out_o to_o thou_o to_o drink_v of_o job_n look_v not_o at_o the_o sabean_o and_o thief_n that_o take_v away_o his_o good_n but_o at_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n the_o lord_n have_v take_v away_o bless_a be_v his_o name_n job_n 1.21_o 22._o he_o be_v satisfy_v that_o god_n will_v that_o in_o righteousness_n and_o justice_n which_o they_o act_v with_o so_o much_o cruelty_n and_o injustice_n david_n look_v up_o to_o god_n when_o shimei_n curse_v he_o quiet_v his_o spirit_n and_o restrain_v his_o anger_n so_o in_o psal_n 39.9_o i_o be_v dumb_a and_o open_v not_o my_o mouth_n o_o lord_n because_o thou_o do_v it_o he_o do_v neither_o manifest_a forwardness_n nor_o discontent_n because_o he_o take_v notice_n of_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n joseph_n do_v not_o vent_v his_o passion_n against_o his_o brother_n for_o sell_v he_o to_o the_o ishmeelite_n but_o keep_v himself_o in_o a_o calm_a frame_n of_o spirit_n by_o consider_v this_o it_o be_v god_n that_o send_v i_o hither_o a_o godly_a man_n can_v be_v angry_a at_o the_o do_v or_o speak_v of_o that_o which_o please_v god_n to_o order_v the_o speak_n or_o do_v of_o because_o he_o know_v he_o be_v bind_v to_o submit_v to_o the_o will_n of_o god_n and_o thy_o only_a observe_v of_o the_o person_n that_o do_v in_o any_o way_n displease_v thou_o and_o not_o consider_v that_o god_n have_v a_o hand_n in_o all_o thing_n that_o befall_v thou_o be_v the_o cause_n that_o thou_o be_v so_o often_o transport_v with_o furious_a passion_n a_o observation_n that_o god_n have_v a_o hand_n in_o all_o thing_n that_o befall_v thou_o be_v as_o water_v to_o quench_v the_o inflammation_n of_o thy_o angry_a passion_n this_o persuasion_n that_o god_n see_v cause_n for_o all_o the_o wrong_n that_o thou_o do_v suffer_v be_v many_o way_n forceable_a to_o move_v thou_o unto_o patience_n for_o 1._o if_o thou_o do_v look_v to_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n in_o those_o thing_n that_o distaste_n thou_o it_o will_v constrain_v thou_o to_o confess_v that_o all_o thy_o chastisement_n be_v just_a far_o less_o than_o thy_o sin_n have_v deserve_v for_o indeed_o all_o the_o opposition_n that_o thou_o have_v from_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n be_v in_o some_o measure_n a_o rebuke_n of_o god_n against_o some_o miscarriage_n of_o thou_o and_o god_n in_o permit_v thou_o to_o be_v exercise_v with_o such_o thing_n as_o do_v very_o much_o distaste_n thy_o spirit_n do_v do_v 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very_o full_a confession_n and_o behave_v yourselves_o with_o very_o great_a submission_n or_o they_o will_v never_o pardon_v the_o offence_n you_o have_v do_v they_o but_o if_o they_o have_v wrong_v other_o they_o be_v hardly_o bring_v to_o confess_v that_o they_o have_v wrong_v they_o and_o more_o hardly_o bring_v to_o be_v so_o humble_a as_o to_o desire_v a_o reconciliation_n thus_o it_o be_v with_o angry_a person_n while_o anger_n last_v no_o persuade_v they_o to_o pass_v by_o a_o wrong_n but_o if_o ever_o they_o do_v forgive_v it_o must_v be_v upon_o the_o humble_a submission_n that_o may_v be_v but_o never_o acknowledge_v any_o wrong_n that_o they_o do_v whatever_o abuse_n they_o do_v offer_v to_o another_o be_v justify_v as_o well_o do_v such_o do_v think_v that_o they_o can_v do_v nothing_o amiss_o and_o thus_o you_o see_v how_o pride_n passion_n and_o frowardness_n do_v go_v together_o that_o a_o contentious_a person_n be_v a_o proud_a person_n and_o can_v put_v up_o injury_n and_o foul_a word_n he_o that_o be_v of_o a_o proud_a spirit_n stir_v up_o strife_n prov._n 28.25_o what_o be_v people_n wrath_n what_o be_v their_o scorn_n their_o rail_n and_o endeavour_v to_o vilify_v those_o that_o have_v offend_v they_o but_o the_o some_o and_o vomit_v of_o their_o pride_n it_o be_v so_o contentious_a a_o sin_n that_o it_o make_v man_n and_o woman_n firebrand_n in_o the_o society_n where_o they_o live_v there_o be_v no_o quiet_a live_n with_o they_o long_o than_o they_o have_v their_o own_o say_n will_n and_o way_n they_o must_v bear_v the_o sway_n and_o not_o be_v cross_v and_o when_o all_o be_v do_v there_o be_v no_o please_v they_o for_o the_o miss_n of_o a_o word_n or_o a_o look_n or_o a_o compliment_n will_v catch_v on_o their_o heart_n and_o raise_v their_o fury_n as_o a_o little_a spark_n on_o gunpowder_n will_v make_v it_o flame_n so_o the_o least_o conceit_n of_o a_o disrespect_n offer_v do_v disturb_v their_o peace_n break_v their_o sleep_n and_o cast_v 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think_v that_o they_o can_v justify_v every_o thing_n that_o they_o do_v so_o that_o whatever_o be_v do_v by_o another_o that_o suit_n not_o with_o their_o proud_a humour_n put_v they_o into_o a_o fiery_a passion_n present_o for_o proud_a spirit_n make_v their_o will_n to_o be_v the_o rule_n of_o their_o action_n and_o they_o will_v have_v it_o to_o be_v a_o rule_n of_o all_o other_o man_n action_n too_o and_o such_o when_o their_o will_n be_v oppose_v can_v but_o be_v froward_a and_o high_o displease_v also_o proud_a person_n think_v nothing_o too_o mean_a for_o other_o to_o do_v and_o so_o will_v fain_o put_v their_o equal_n yea_o their_o superior_n to_o do_v such_o thing_n as_o they_o scorn_v to_o touch_v and_o if_o they_o be_v not_o comply_v with_o present_o they_o be_v in_o a_o flame_n of_o passion_n and_o be_v froward_a and_o contentious_a present_o and_o thus_o you_o see_v how_o pride_n do_v bring_v forth_o anger_n frowardness_n and_o contention_n iu._n foolish_a niceness_n breed_v choler_n for_o if_o you_o come_v into_o the_o house_n of_o one_o who_o be_v nice_a and_o curious_a you_o shall_v easy_o perceive_v how_o soon_o she_o be_v incite_v to_o great_a anger_n upon_o a_o little_a cause_n i_o instance_n in_o the_o female_a sex_n because_o they_o be_v more_o influence_v by_o niceness_n and_o curiosity_n than_o man_n and_o therefore_o by_o it_o they_o be_v most_o provoke_v to_o fret_a discontent_n if_o the_o deck_v and_o adorn_v order_v and_o cleanse_v of_o their_o house_n be_v not_o full_o answerable_a to_o their_o mind_n if_o a_o spot_n or_o wrinkle_n be_v upon_o their_o garment_n they_o be_v enrage_v with_o anger_n that_o the_o house_n will_v scarce_o hold_v they_o or_o at_o least_o not_o contain_v their_o clamorous_a voice_n those_o curious_a folk_n be_v not_o only_o offend_v with_o injury_n but_o also_o with_o shadow_n and_o appearance_n such_o can_v carp_v at_o gesture_n of_o the_o body_n that_o they_o do_v not_o like_a and_o fret_v at_o the_o word_n of_o their_o husband_n because_o they_o do_v not_o think_v they_o respectful_a enough_o to_o they_o they_o judge_v their_o language_n rustic_a and_o their_o carriage_n clownish_a so_o be_v in_o no_o way_n genteel_a enough_o to_o please_v their_o humour_n and_o upon_o this_o account_n fall_v into_o such_o a_o rage_n of_o passion_n as_o if_o they_o have_v receive_v some_o mortal_a wound_n they_o be_v so_o pry_v and_o quick-sighted_a that_o they_o will_v espy_v some_o thing_n amiss_o by_o which_o they_o will_v alarm_n the_o whole_a family_n and_o break_v their_o husband_n and_o their_o own_o peace_n if_o a_o fail_a be_v ever_o so_o little_a they_o can_v overlook_v it_o and_o be_v more_o enrage_v that_o some_o small_a family-concern_a be_v neglect_v then_o that_o their_o family-worship_n be_v omit_v whereby_o they_o can_v strain_v at_o gnat_n and_o swallow_v camel_n mat._n 23.24_o they_o can_v storm_v at_o small_a offence_n commit_v against_o themselves_o and_o take_v no_o notice_n 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the_o devil_n and_o not_o a_o child_n of_o god_n and_o in_o thy_o rage_n and_o fury_n do_v resemble_v the_o devil_n who_o g_o es_fw-ge about_o like_o a_o roar_a lion_n seek_v who_o he_o may_v devour_v 4._o person_n by_o their_o sinful_a anger_n their_o contentious_a wrangle_n and_o frowardness_n of_o spirit_n do_v subject_n themselves_o to_o the_o wrath_n of_o god_n and_o bring_v his_o curse_n upon_o they_o yea_o their_o anger_n bring_v upon_o they_o even_o in_o this_o life_n the_o dreadful_a effect_n of_o god_n anger_n o_o thou_o angry_a husband_n or_o angry_a wife_n if_o thou_o do_v not_o repent_v thou_o of_o thy_o sinful_a anger_n frowardness_n hastiness_n and_o touchiness_n of_o spirit_n upon_o every_o trivial_a occasion_n god_n will_v deal_v with_o thou_o in_o his_o anger_n as_o thou_o will_v deal_v with_o thy_o husband_n or_o wife_n in_o thy_o anger_n for_o as_o we_o forgive_v other_o so_o do_v god_n forgive_v we_o if_o therefore_o thou_o retain_v thy_o anger_n towards_o thy_o husband_n god_n will_v retain_v his_o anger_n towards_o thou_o the_o lord_n act_v the_o part_n of_o a_o umpire_n to_o make_v up_o breach_n heal_v difference_n and_o make_v reconciliation_n between_o relation_n but_o if_o either_o of_o they_o be_v so_o stiff_a and_o contentious_a that_o he_o or_o she_o will_v not_o be_v reconcile_v what_o do_v that_o party_n else_o but_o by_o froward_a behaviour_n and_o obstinate_a stiffness_n refuse_v the_o lord_n arbitrement_n and_o determination_n make_v god_n his_o enemy_n eliphaz_n tell_v job_n cap._n 5.2_o wrath_n kill_v the_o foolish_a man_n that_o may_v be_v take_v two_o way_n very_o true_a the_o wrath_n of_o god_n kill_v or_o destroy_v the_o wrathful_a rash_a and_o inconsiderate_a man_n that_o have_v no_o true_a government_n of_o himself_o for_o anger_n rest_v in_o the_o bosom_n of_o fool_n eccles_n 7.9_o or_o the_o angry_a man_n kill_v himself_o his_o own_o wrath_n be_v as_o a_o knife_n to_o his_o throat_n and_o as_o a_o sword_n in_o his_o 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