it is evident from the word of God that all such as live and die ignorant of God having attained to years of discretion shall be destroyed for ever without having any mercy shewed to them 2 Thes 1.7 8 9. The Lord Jesus shall be revealed from Heaven with his mighty Angels in flaming fire taking vengeance on them that know not God and obey not the Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ who shall be punished with everlasting destruction from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of his power Isa 27.11 It is a people of no understanding therefore he that made them will have no mercy on them and he that formed them will shew them no favour Hos 4.6 My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge Now if the Lord will condemn our Children and Servants for their ignorance and their ignorance proceed from our neglect of instructing them are not we the cause of their condemnation Such as have the Rule and Government of Families are in the nature and condition of Watchmen as well as those that bear Rule in the Church and must give an account for those souls that are committed to their charge Heb. 13.17 Obey them that have the Rule over you and submit your selves for they watch for your souls as they that must give an account And as for those that are placed in the condition of Watchmen if any persons over whom God hath made them Watchmen be lost through their neglect to instruct them in their duty or to reclaim them from their sins the Blood of those that perish shall be required at the Watchmans hands Ezek. 3.17 18. Son of man I have made thee a Watchman unto the House of Israel therefore hear the word at my Mouth and give them warning from Me when I say to the wicked Thou shalt surely die and thou givest him not warning nor speakest to warn the wicked from his wicked way to save his life the same wicked man shall die in his iniquity but his blood will I require at thine hand What Inditement is brought in against the Jews Jer. 2.34 In thy Skirts is found the Blood of the Souls of the poor Innocents I have not found it by secret search but upon all these The like may be said of many Masters of Families In their Skirts will be found the Blood of the Souls of their Children and Servants In their Skirts That is it will plainly and evidently appear unto all men at the day of Judgment that they are guilty of the Blood of the Souls of their Children and Servants for want of instructing and training them up in the fear of God VVe cannot possibly be clear from the blood of those that are committed to our charge if either through wilfulness or through sloth and negligence we forbear to instruct them in those things that are necessary to their Salvation but if we do our duty and they perish in their sins their Blood shall be upon their own head Act. 20.26 27. I take you to record this day that I am pure from the blood of all men for I have not shunned to declare unto you all the Counsel of God Did Parents and Masters of Families seriously consider what it is to have their Children and Servants die eternally and that through their neglecting to teach and train them up in the fear of God did they also consider what it is to have the blood of Souls laid to their charge it would stir them up to be diligent in instructing their Families unless they be such as have lost all regard to their own and their Families welfare To press home this consideration with the greater efficacy I shall suggest to you three or four things more under this head As 1. The death of a Child goes near a Parents heart Hagar could not endure to see her Child die and therefore when she thought he would die she gets a great way off from him and sat down and wept Gen. 21.16 She said Let me not see the death of the Child and she sat over against him and lift up her voice and wept VVhen tydings came to David of Absolom's death he was exceedingly troubled at it 2 Sam. 18.33 And the King was much moved and went up to the chamber ever the gate and wept and as he went thus he said O my Son Absolom my Son my Son Absolom would God I had died for thee O Absolom my Son my Son VVhen Jacob did but suppose that Joseph was dead though he had eleven Sons living his sorrow was so great that he refused to be comforted Gen. 37.34 35. Jacob rent his cloaths and put sackcloth upon his loyns and mourned for his Son many days and all his Sons and all his Daughters rose up to comfort him but he refused to be comforted and he said For I will go down into the Grave unto my Son mourning Thus his Father wept for him If it be so grievous to Parents to see their Children deprived of their natural life how should it pierce their hearts to have them deprived of eternal Life If they are so grieved at the death of their Bodies how should they lay to heart the death of their Souls How should it wound them to have their Children cast into the lake that burneth with fire and Brimstone which is the second death where they shall be always burning and yet never be consumed they shall be always dying and yet never be dead yea how should it affect them when they consider that they themselves have through their negligence been the cause of their Childrens dying the second death 2. It would pierce a flinty heart to see Children dying in their Parents Arms for want of Bread VVhen Jeremiah saw little Children in the time of Famine some dying in the streets others breathing out their souls in their Mothers Bosoms for want of Bread to sustain their Lives it made him weep till his eyes and his heart failed him with grief Lam. 2.11 12. Mine eyes do fail with tears my bowels are troubled my Liver is poured upon the earth for the destruction of the Daughter of my People because the Children and the Sucklings swoon in the streets of the City they say to their Mothers Where is Corn and Wine When they swooned as the wounded in the Streets of the City when their Soul was poured out into their Mothers Bosom This is a sorrowful sight but it is far more dreadful to see Children perishing to all eternity in their Parents Houses for want of their communicating to them the Bread of Life than to see them die by Famine 3. It is an unspeakable loss for a man to lose one Soul Though he do not lose his Children and Servants Souls though he lose not one Soul besides his own the gain of the whole world will not make up this loss as appears from the fore-quoted Scripture Mar. 8.36 What shall it profit a man if he shall gain the whole world and
convert your Children yet your work shall have a glorious reward from God Isa 49.4 5. He smelleth a sweet savour in your labours and accepteth graciously both your person and your work although your Children perished under those instructions which you gave them out of the Word of God 2 Cor. 2.15 III. Your Prayers are not lost although they did not prevail for the conversion and salvation of your Childrens souls for they shall be returned into your own bosom When God doth not answer those Prayers we make for others by giving them the blessings we beg on their account he answers them by returning some blessing upon our own souls Psal 35.13 But as for me when they were sick my cloathing was Sack-cloath I humbled my soul with fasting and my Prayer returned into my own bosom SECT 6. How God is faithful to his Promise I will be thy God and the God of thy Seed and yet condemneth the wicked Children of godly Parents Plea 5 I Am much troubled to reconcile Gods providence in casting away my seed with his promise where he hath said I will be thy God and the God of thy Seed Sometimes I am ready to question Gods faithfulness sometimes I am ready to think that I my self am not in Covenant with God Answ I. In all such cases where you are not able to reconcile Gods Providences with his Promises you must stedfastly believe that God is faithful and righteous although you cannot apprehend how such or such a Providence should be consistent with his faithfulness or with his righteousness Thus Jeremiah did firmly believe that God was righteous although he stumbled much at the prosperity of wicked men Jer. 12.1 Righteous art thou O Lord when I plead with thee yet let me talk with thee of thy judgments Wherefore doth the way of the wicked prosper Wherefore are all they happy that deal very treacherously The Psalmist met with some Providences that seemed cross to Gods faithfulness Psal 77.8 Doth his Promise fail for overmore Psal 89.39 49. Thou hast made void the Covenant of thy Servant Lord where are thy former loving kindnesses which thou swearest unto David in thy truth Yet he did believe every word of God to be true Psal 119.138 160. Thy Testimones that thou hast commanded are righteous and very faithful Thy Word is true from the beginning and every one of thy righteous judgments endureth for ever And there is good reason we should do thus because we poor finite Creatures are not able to comprehend the works of the infinite and incomprehensible God Divers of his Works as well as his Essence are incomprehensible Job 37.5 God thundreth marvelously with his voice great things doth he which we cannot comprehend II. It is good for you to view once and again the grounds upon which you conclude God hath taken your souls into his Covenant because it is a business of great moment wherein you cannot make too sure work and the heart of man is full of deceit yet withal know this that it is not a sufficient cause for you to conclude That God is not your God and hath not taken you into this Covenant because you have had Children that died in their sins for Isaac was in Covenant with God Lev. 26.42 Then will I remember my Covenant with Jacob and also my Covenant with Isaac And yet Esau Isaacs Son lived and died a prophane man Heb. 12.16 17. Lest there be any Fornicator or prophane person as Esau who for one morsel of meat sold his birth-right for ye know how that afterward when he would have inherited the blessing he was rejected and found no place for repentance though he sought it carefully with tears III. God fulfils his Promise in being the God of your Seed if he take any of your Seed into Covenant with himself although he should not bestow his grace upon all of them IV. If we should interpret that Promise made to Abraham I will be thy God and the God of thy Seed by Gal. 3.16 29. And understand by the Seed of Abraham to which God promiseth to be a God 1. Jesus Christ Now to Abraham and his Seed were the Promises made he saith not unto seeds as of many but as of one and to thy Seed which is Christ 2. Such as are Christs being given to him by the Father and are in due time all drawn to him If ye be Christs then are ye Abrahams Seed and heirs according to Promise This will take off the difficulty mentioned in the Plea about reconciling Gods Providence in casting off your Seed with his Promise where he saith I will be thy God and the God of thy Seed For God never casts off any of that Seed which he hath given to his Son John 6.37 All that the Father giveth me shall come to me and him that cometh to me I will in no wise cast out Ver. 39. And this is the Fathers will which sent me that of all which he hath given me I should lose nothing but should raise it up again at the last day John 17.2 As thou hast given him power over all flesh that he should give eternal life to as many as thou hast given him V. If we understand that Promise I will be thy God and the God of thy Seed of Abrahams and every godly mans natural Seed and interpret the Promise conditionally provided that thy Seed walk in the steps of thy Faith Rom. 4.12 and walk before me with perfect and upright hearts as I required thee to do when I promised to make my Covenant between me and thee Gen. 17.1 2. This also will reconcile Gods Providence with his Promise and vindicate his faithfulness in condemning the Children of godly Parents who live and die in their sins For it is their unfaithfulness in not fulfilling the Conditions of the Promise that was the cause of their condemnation Had they followed their Parents Faith and godly Coversations God would have been their God as well as the God of their Parents and have given them the same blessings he gave their Parents David was a man in Covenant with God 2 Sam. 23.15 Now these be the last words of David he hath made with me an everlasting Covenant yet he did not expect his seed should be saved if they lived and died in their sins No he told his Son Solomon plainly before his death that if he expected the blessings of the Covenant he must seek and serve God with a perfect heart but if he forsook God though he were Davids Son God would cast him off for ever 1 Chron. 28.29 And thou Solomon my Son know thou the God of thy Father and serve him with a perfect heart and with a willing mind for the Lord searcheth all hearts and understandeth all the imaginations of the thoughts if thou seek him he will be found of thee but if thou forsake him he will cast thee off for ever FINIS
great worth and excellency there is in an immortal Soul The Soul of the poorest Child or Servant in your Families is more worth than all the substance in your houses than all the Riches you have gotten or can get as long as you live yea than the whole world Mark 8.36 What shall it profit a man if he shall gain the whole world and lose his own Soul And therefore you should spend more thoughts and pains about saving your Children and Servants Souls than you would do to gain the whole world if there were a probability that by your care and industry you might get into your possession all the good things that are in the world There is such an excellency in the Soul that when any one sinner is brought to repentance whereby his Soul is put into a state of Salvation all the Angels of Heaven rejoyce at this glad Tidings Luk. 15.10 There is joy in the presence of the Angels of God over one sinner that repenteth 2. By converting your Children and Servants you shall recover their souls from the power of the Devil Before their conversion he rules and carries them captive to this and the other sin as he pleaseth Ephes 2.2 2 Tim. 2.26 But when they are converted they are freed and delivered from the power of Satan The Conversion of a sinner is the opening of his eyes and turning him from darkness to light and from the power of Satan unto God Act. 26.18 It is Gods delivering of a sinner from the power of darkness and translating him into the Kingdom of his dear Son Col. 1.13 If your Children were under Turkish Slavery would you spare any pains or cost to redeem them from the hands of the Turks It is far worse to have them under the power of Satan than under the power of the Turks Suppose the Devil had gotten possession of your Childrens Bodies and should torture them as he did the woman of Canaan's Daughter who cried out to Christ Mat. 15.22 Have mercy upon me O Lord my Daughter is grievously vexed with a Devil or should rend and tear them as he did that young man whose Father made his moan to Christ after this manner My Son hath a dumb Spirit and wheresoever he taketh him he teareth him and he fometh and gnasheth with his teeth and he pineth away and oft times it hath cast him into the fire and into the waters to destroy him Mark 19.17 18 22. would not this cause you to mourn and fast and pray and to use all means possible to get your Childrens Bodies delivered from the tyranny of Satan And would you not be restless until you had obtained their deliverance To have your childrens Souls under the power of the Devil and to have them drawn sometimes into one foul sin and then into another is far worse and more dangerous then to have their Bodies at his command and yet this is their case as long as they remain unconverted their Souls are under the power of sin and Satan How should this cause you to strive with God in prayer night and day and labour with your utmost diligence in the use of all means to get their Souls converted to God 3. By converting your Children and Servants you shall prevent their dying in their sins and save them from the wrath of God and the torments of Hell Jam. 5.19 20. Brethren if any of you do err from the truth and one convert him let him know that he which converteth the sinner from the error of his way shall save a Soul from death and shall hide a multitude of sins What a great what a good work is this to save a soul from death Shall we think any pains too much to save immortal Souls from eternal Death If you saw any of your Children ready to fall into a fiery Furnace which would consume them to Ashes in a moment you would suddenly lay hold on them and prevent if it were possible their falling into the furnace of fire Hell is called A Furnace of Fire Mat. 13.42 As long as your Children live in ignorance and in an unconverted condition they are in danger every day to fall into this furnace of fire And doth it not concern you then to prevent with all possible speed their falling into everlasting burnings 4. Consider what great pains Jesus Christ took to save and convert Souls The great end of his coming into the world and taking our Nature upon him was to save Souls Luk. 19.10 The Son of man is come to seek and save that which was lost When he was upon the earth he was so diligent in teaching and instructing the people that he did not omit his work one day Luk. 19.47 He taught daily in the Temple He was so diligent to teach and instruct the people that he could not find spare time to eat his Bread which cansed some of his friends to think and say he was beside himself Mark 3.20 He was not only very diligent in preaching but was content to lay down his life to save our souls Shall not this example of Christ provoke you to give all diligence to save both your own and the souls of all that are committed to your Charge 5. God will give a greater degree of Glory to those that are instrumental to convert and save souls than to other Saints For whereas they shall shine only as the Firmament they that convert others shall shine as the Stars in the Firmament Dan. 12.3 They that be wise shall shine as the brightness of the Firmament and they that turn many to Righteousness as the Stars for ever and ever 6. You cannot approve your selves to be Righteous Persons either to God or Men if you do not regard what becomes of your childrens and servants souls A righteous man regardeth the life of his beast Prov. 12.10 If this be true how can they account themselves righteous persons who have no regard what becomes of the souls of their Children If a Beast go astray though it be not our own but our Neighbours yea our Enemies we must by no means neglect to bring it back Exod. 23.4 If thou meet thine Enemies Ox or his Ass going astray thou shalt surely bring it back to him again If we are bound so straightly to bring back an Ox or an Ass of our Enemies when he goes astray then what obligations lie upon us to bring home to God our own Children and our houshold Servants when we see them going astray from the Lord SECT 2. Such as neglect Family-Instruction are guilty of their Children and Servants Blood How great an Evil it is to be guilty of the Blood of Souls Motive 2 SUch Parents and Masters of Families as neglect to train up their Children and Servants in the fear of the Lord and in the knowledge of his word are the instrumental causes of their Damnation and their Children and Servants Blood will be laid to their charge and be required at their hands For
Titus unto whereby he might hope to effect this but to instruct them in the faith of Christ and rebuke them sharply Tit. 1.12 13. The Cretians are always Lyars evil Beasts slow Bellies This witness is true wherefore rebuke them sharply that they may be sound in the faith If you ask How shall we manage this duty of Reproof so as to reform those persons whom we reprove I answer 1. Reprove not but upon just cause and let that cause be for something you know and can prove to be a sin against God Thus God deals with us when he rebukes us 't is for sin Psal 39.11 When thou with rebukes dost correct man for iniquity John 16.8 When he is come he will reprove the world of sin If we commit sin though it be secretly God will not let it pass without a reproof Job 13.10 He will surely reprove you if you do secretly accept persons If your Children or Servants be guilty of lying swearing back-biting or any other sin by no means forbear to rebuke them for their sins Lev. 19.17 Thou shalt not hate thy Brother in thine heart thou shalt in any wise rebuke thy Neighbour and not suffer sin upon him You must also know and be sure that the person whom you reprove is guilty of that sin for which you reprove him And therefore you must not reprove upon every slight and groundless report Isa 11.3 He shall not reprove after the hearing of the Ears But you must inquire whether the thing that you hear be certain and whether it be altogether so bad as is reported God teacheth us this by his own example Gen. 18.20 21. And the Lord said Because the Cry of Sodom and Gomerrah is great and because their sin is very grievous I will go down now and see whether they have done altogether according to the Cry of it which is come unto me and if not I will know And he gives us a charge to be very wary how we proceed in judging others till we have made full and certain enquiry into the matter of Fact Deut. 13.12 14. If thou shalt hear say in one of thy Cities Then thou shalt inquire and make search and ask diligently and behold if it be truth and the thing certain that such abomination is wrought among you 2. The Lord doth not always chide as the Psalmist tells us Psal 103.9 He will not always chide but takes his set times for rebuking of us such as he in his wisdom judgeth most meet Exod. 32.34 In like manner we must not be always chiding our Children and Servants lest we either break or sink their spirits or else make them careless or regardless of our reproofs but it will be our prudence when we meet with that which provoketh us to anger and deserveth reproof to defer it to a convenient season and when we reprove to do it effectually and to purpose Prov. 19.11 The discretion of a man deferreth his anger 3. When you reprove your Servants or Children instruct and shew them the evil of those things for which you reprove them And put them in remembrance of some Scripture that doth set out most fully and convincingly the evil and danger of that sin for which you reprove them And if they have no such Scriptures in their remembrance it will be good to cause them to take their Bibles and turn to such Scriptures as are most pertinent to fasten upon their hearts that word of reproof which you shall give them The Apostle exhorts Timothy to joyn Doctrine with Reproof 2 Tim. 4.2 Reprove Rebuke with Doctrine When Christ reproved the Saduces for holding there was no Resurrection of the Dead he proves to them out of the Scriptures that they were in a great Error Matth. 22.29 31 32. Divers instances we have of the like nature in his reproving the Scribes and Pharisees wherein he joyns the quotation of the Scriptures with his Reproofs 4. If you see no fruit no amendment produced by those Reproofs which you give your Family you must not sit down discouraged but reprove again and again and exercise much patience and long-suffering in the performance of this duty 2 Tim. 4.2 Reprove rebuke exhort with all long-suffering and Doctrine What God said to Moses Exod. 4.8 And it shall come to pass if they will not believe thee neither hearken to the voice of the first sign that they will believe the voice of the latter sign The like may I say here If they turn not at the first Reproof it may be they will at the second if not at the second it may be the third will prevail but if it should not you must not cease to do your duty though God should deny success but must be often dealing with them and set before them the great danger of going on in sin after they have been often reproved concerning which we meet with many awakening passages in Scripture as Prov. 29.1 He that being often reproved hardneth his neck shall suddenly be destroyed and that without remedy Prov. 15.10 He that hateth reproof shall die See also Prov. 1.25 to verse 33. Heb. 6.7 8. Jer. 6.8 5. Do not reprove them in a fury or when you are in a passion For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God Jam. 1.20 We are all ready to pray with David Psal 38.1 O Lord rebuke me not in thy wrath neither chasten me in thy displeasure If we would not have our Lord and Father rebuke us in his wrath shall we rebuke our Children and Servants in our wrath Let this be far from us We should put on a spirit of Meekness when we set upon this work of Reproof Two Considerations may cause us to exercise a spirit of Meekness when we are to deal with Offenders First When we consider what we our selves have been by nature we are as bad as others Tit. 3.2 3. Shewing all meekness unto all men for we our selves also were sometimes foolish disobedient deceived serving divers lusts and pleasures living in malice and envy hateful and hating one another Secondly When we consider what we may be if we fall into temptation Gal. 6.1 Brethren if a man be over-taken in a fault ye which are spiritual restore such a one in the spirit of meekness considering thy self lest thou also be tempted Our Spirits may be meek and yet our Reproofs may be sharp if either the nature of the Offence or Offender require sharp reprehensions If we would have our Reproofs sharp such as may enter and pierce deep into their hearts the way is not to use bitter Invectives and rayling Expressions but rather 1. To convince them plainly and clearly of their sin for which we reprove them Thus Peter dealt with the Jews he gives them clear and certain demonstrations that that Person whom they had put to death was the promised Messiah and that pricked them to the heart Acts 2.36 37. Let all the House of Israel know assuredly that God hath
is declared in the next words The Law of his God is in his heart none of his steps shall slide Fifthly Bring them in love with the word of God love to the Word will root and ground the Truths of God in their hearts Ephes 3.17 Rooted and grounded in love Love to the word of God will root it so deeply and firmly in their hearts that no troubles will cause them to depart from the word of God but they will stick and cleave to it unto their dying day Cant. 8.6 7. Love is strong as death many Waters cannot quench Love neither can the Floods drown it If you ask How shall we bring our Children and Servants to love the Word of God I answer 1. Shew them the purity excellency and amiableness that is in the word of God Psal 119.140 Thy Word is very pure therefore thy Servant loveth it 2. Stir them up to practise the word of God that will cause them to love it Psal 119.167 My Soul hath kept thy Testimonies and I love them exceedingly 3. Shew them what a dangerous thing it is not to love the word God is wont to send down sore Judgments upon them that do not receive his Truth in the love of it 2 Thes 2.10.11 12. Because they received not the love of the Truth that they might be saved and for this cause God shall send them strong delusions that they should believe a lye that they all might be damned who believed not the Truth but had pleasure in unrighteousness 4. Exhort them to put away and hate their sins and then they will love and delight in the word of God Psal 119.163 I hate and abhor lying but thy Law do I love 5. Counsel them to feed daily upon Gods word by Meditation and Faith for this will cause them to taste the sweetness of it Jer. 5.16 Thy words were found and I did eat them and thy word was unto me the joy and rejoycing of my Heart Psal 104.34 My meditation of him shall be sweet And when they taste the sweetness of Gods word they will love it above all things in the world Psal 119.103 128. How sweet are thy words unto my taste Yea sweeter than Honey to my month therefore I love thy Commandments above Gold yea above fine Gold SECT 12. How to draw our Families to close with Christ How to ortifie them against the offence of the Cross Direct 12 ENdeavour as much as in you lieth to draw them to JESUS CHRIST that they may receive and close with him upon the terms of the Gospel Whatever Instructions you give your Families if you leave them Christless you leave them in a miserable perishing condition 1 John 5.12 He that hath not the Son of God hath not Life But if you can prevail with them to come to and to close with JESUS CHRIST they shall become the Children of God and shall assuredly obtain everlasting Life John 1.12 As many as received him to them gave he power to become the Sons of God even to them that believe on his Name 1 John 5.12 He that hath the Son hath Life John 6.47 Verily verily I say unto you He that believeth on me hath everlasting Life If you ask What shall we do that we may draw our Children and Servants to come to and close with JESUS CHRIST I answer First Shew them their miserable lost and undone condition without Christ The misery of Man without Christ is set out by the Apostle Ephes 2.12 That at that time ye were without Christ being Aliens from the Commonwealth of Israel and Strangers from the Covenants of Promise having no Hope and without God in the world In this Text the misery of such as are without Christ is set forth several ways 1. They are Aliens from the Commonwealth of Israel that is they are none of the People of God 2. They are Strangers from the Covenants of Promise that is they have no part or portion in any of the promises either of the first or second Covenant the Covenant of Works or the Covenant of Grace 3. They are without hope They have no hope of mercy either in this world or in the world to come They may have much presumption and much carnal security but they have no hope 4. They are without God that is without the love and favour of God without the grace of God without any communion with and enjoyment of God There is much also said in few words towards the setting forth of the misery of a man that is without Christ in that fore-mentioned Scripture 1 John 5.12 He that hath not the Son of God hath not Life He hath not the Life of Grace here but is dead in his sins he hath not the Life of Glory hereafter but is debarred of all hope of entring into the Kingdom of Heaven for ever The conviction of their misery and perishing condition without Christ will draw them to seek after Christ Luke 15.17 18. I perish with hunger I will arise and go to my Father Mat. 8.25 His Disciples came to him saying Lord save us we perish Inform them also that salvation from their miserable perishing condition is to be had in Christ and no where else but in Christ Acts 4.12 Neither is there salvation in any other for there is none other Name under Heaven given among men whereby they may be saved When the people of Israel saw that salvation was to be had in the Lord and no where else this caused them to come to him Jer. 3.22 23. Behold we come unto thee for thou art the Lord our God truly in vain is salvation hoped for from the hills and from the multitude of mountains truly in the Lord our God is the salvation of Israel Secondly Acquaint them with the amiableness and excellency of the Lord Jesus Christ with what benefits they shall receive from him if they embrace him as namely that all their sins shall be pardoned Act. 10.43 and their Souls shall be taken into Covenant with God Isa 55.3 and they shall be blessed with all spiritual blessings Eph. 1.3 and that they shall have all the blessings of Heaven for ever John 3.16 When the Spouse had set forth Christs excellencies that he was the chiefest of ten thousand altogether lovely c. Cant. 5.10 16. They that before saw no beauty or comeliness in him why they should desire him vers 9. What is thy Beloved more than another Beloved c. fell in love with Christ and began to enquire where they might find him and how they might come to enjoy him Chap. 6.1 Whether is thy Beloved gone O thou fairest among women whether is thy beloved turned aside that we may seek him with thee Thirdly Cause them to understand that God is very willing to bestow his Son and Jesus Christ is very willing to bestow himself upon all those that feel their need of him and are willing to receive him as is evident from such Scriptures as
prickles on it or any thing that may hurt a man and is opposed to the pricking Briar and grieving Thorn Ezek. 28.24 26. The Vine is fruitful which is that which the Psalmist mentions She shall be as a fruitful Vine and further he adds By the sides of thine House To shew that she shall resemble the noblest and choicest Vine Men do not use to plant wild Vines by the sides of their Houses such as bring forth sowr Grapes but the best and choicest Vines that they can get such as yield sweet and pleasant fruit The Lord hath promised also to bless our Children with his Grace and good Spirit He hath promised to be a God to our Seed Gen. 17.7 I will establish my Covenant between me and thee and thy Seed after thee in their Generations for an everlasting Covenant to be a God unto thee and to thy Seed after thee And to give them his holy Spirit Isa 44.3 I will pour water upon him that is thirsty and floods upon the dry ground I will pour my Spirit upon thy Seed and my Blessing upon thine Off-spring He hath promised to circumcise their hearts to love him in sincerity and truth Deut. 30.6 The Lord thy God will circumcise thine heart and the heart of thy Seed to love the Lord thy God with all thine heart and all thy Soul that thou mayest live He hath promised that our Children shall be like Olive plants Psal 128.3 Thy Children like Olive Plants round about thy Table By which we may understand as Mollerus observes upon this Text that Children shall be Comforts and Ornaments to their Parents for Oil is used to signifie joy and gladness Psal 45.7 and was used by the Jews by way of Ornament and Beauty Psal 104.15 Luke 7.46 And also that they shall be furnished with the Gifts and Graces of Gods Spirit which are compared to Ovl Matth. 25.3 4 8. And that they shall be useful Instruments to do service for God in â—heir Generation either in the Church or State Zach. 4.12 13 14. And be of a quiet peaceable disposition for the Olive is used as an Emblem of Peace Gen. 8.11 And that they shall be of an heavenly disposition resembling the holy Cherubims When Solomon made Cherubims within the Oracle he made them of the Olive-Tree 1 King 6.23 Lastly By this Metaphor may be signified their constant progress and perseverance in Grace and Holiness all their days the Olive continuing full of green Leaves all the year long Psal 52.8 The Lord hath promised also to give his Grace and good Spirit unto our Servants Joel 2.28 29. I will pour out my Spirit upon all Flesh and also upon the Servants and upon the Handmaids in those days will I pour out my Spirit 3. God hath promised to bless his Peoples Families with peace and to prevent Jars and Discords which are a great hindrance to the good of a Family and that he will help them to govern their Families in a holy manner Job 5.24 Thou shalt know that thy Tabernacle shall be in peace and thou shalt visit thy Habitation and shalt not sin 4. God hath promised to give his People flourishing Families by which we are not only or chiefly to understand their flourishing in respect of outward prosperity but rather their flourishing in respect of the abundance of heavenly and spiritual Blessings wherewith the Lord will bless them Prov. 14.11 The House of the Wicked shall be overthrown but the Tabernacle of the Vpright shall flourish 5. The Lord hath promised to bless his People in every work of their hands and to prosper them therein and so consequently in this work of Family-Instruction Deut. 15.20 The Lord thy God shall bless thee in all thy works and in all that thou puttest thine hand unto Isa 65.22 23. Mine Elect shall long enjoy the work of their hands They shall not labour in vain nor bring forth for trouble for they are the Seed of the blessed of the Lord and their Off-spring with them Thus we see there are variety of Promises for us to act our faith upon in reference to our Families But it may be some will be ready to say I see all things in my Family running cross to these Promises My Children are not Olive-Plants but rather like Bryars and Thorns I can see no fruit of my Labours either upon my Children or Servants Instead of knowing that my Tabernacle shall be in peace I find Jars and Discords arising daily Instead of flourishing I find withering and decaying I find luke-warmness and deadness growing upon my Family and therefore I finding all things running contrary to these Promises I know not how to rest upon God for blessing converting sanctifying and saving of the Members of my Family 1. If you find God with-holding Family blessings and that he doth not accomplish Family-promises enquire into the cause why God deals thus with you and to that end let me put to you these following Queries 1. Do you not harbour some unmortified sins in your hearts Is there not some evil in the managing of your Callings or in your Conversations which causeth God to with-hold these good things from you Jer. 5.25 Your iniquities have turned away these things your sins have with-holden good things from you 2. Are you careful and diligent to obey the Voice of the Lord If not that may be the reason why you do not enjoy these promised mercies Zach. 6.15 And this shall come to pass if ye will diligently obey the voice of the Lord your God 3. Do you get up betimes that you may have opportunity to pray with and pray for your Family do you pray hard and cry mightily to God for them Do you labour to purifie your selves as God is pure Do you walk uprightly If you would do thus God would soon make your Families flourish Job 8.5 6. If thou wouldest seek unto God betimes and make thy supplications unto the Almighty if thou wert pure and upright surely now he would awake for thee and make the habitation of thy Righteousness prosperous 4. Are you diligent in teaching your Families Do you set your hearts your whole hearts to this work You ought to do it if you would prosper in it 2 Chron. 31.21 In every work that he began in the service of the House of God and in the Law and in the Commandment to seek his God he did it with all his heart and prospered 5. Are you not deficient in the duty of Meditation If so possibly that may be the reason why God blasts your Labours for the promise of success is made to such as meditate on Gods word Josh 1.8 This Book of the Law shall not depart out of thy mouth but thou shalt meditate therein day and night that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous and then thou shalt have good success 6. Do you apply these promises to your selves and
find no success on their Labours in teaching their Families Several Encouragements to such to continue this work of Family-Instruction Object 26 I Have taken great pains in teaching my Family but I see no success of my Labours I can't find that any of them are reformed and turned from their sins or have got any saving work of Grace upon their souls notwithstanding all the pains that I have taken with them And this discourageth me and makes me think sometimes to give over this work Answ 1. If there be no success of your Labours in your Family see if the cause be not in your selves Do you water your seed that you sow with your Prayers and Tears Do you wrastle with God for a blessing Are you fervent in prayer for the conversion and edification of such as are under your charge Do you shew a good example to your Family and walk convincingly before them and teach them by your conversation Do you go about this work in the Name of the Lord relying on his strength and depending on his assistance and looking for his presence with you Do you watch over their Conversations as well as teach them Do you reprove and correct your Children when they walk contrary to the word of God Do you instruct your Families diligently seriously frequently Or is this work done but seldom and in a slight manner Do you labour to know their state and to apply that which is suitable to them and profitable for them If the ground and cause why you have no better success be in your selves reform that which hinders your success and you shall soon find the blessing of God going along with your Labours 2. If the cause of your Families unprositableness lie in themselves 1. Shew them what a great sin and how dangerous it is to be unprofitable under the means of grace and turn them to such Scriptures as these Matth. 3.10 25.30 Luc. 13.6 7. Heb. 6.7 8. and press them home upon their consciences 2. Direct them what means they should use that they may profit better by your instructions what they are I have hinted already in Chap. iii. Direct 15. pag. 165. 3. There may be good success of your Labours though you perceive it not the Lord may have conveyed the seed of grace into their Souls by your Instruction though you discover it not and it may grow though you discern it not Mark 4.26 27. So is the Kingdom of God as if a man should cast seed into the ground and should sleep and rise night and day and the seed should spring and grow up and he knoweth not how God many times distils his Grace like dew in a silent insensible manner Hos 14.5 I will be as the dew unto Israel 4. Your want of success should be so far from causing you to desist from this work of Family-Instruction that it should stir you up to ply your work with greater diligence and cause you to abound in actings of faith upon those Promises where the Lord hath promised to bless and prosper his peoples labours I will mention three or four to this purpose Isa 65.22 23. Mine Elect shall long enjoy the work of their hands they shall not labour in vain nor bring forth for trouble Psal 1.3 Whatsoever he doth shall prosper 1 Tim. 4.13 16. Give attendance to reading to exhortation to doctrine Take heed to thy self unto thy Doctrine continue in them for in doing this thou shalt both save thy self and them that hear thee Deut. 15.10 The Lord thy God shall bless thee in all thy works and in all that thou puttest thine hand unto The less success and blessing you find attending your labours be the more earnest in pleading such Promises as these are and the more abundant in acting faith upon them 5. Though you can't see any fruit of your Labours either in the conversion or edification of any that are under your charge but do apprehend that your labour hath hitherto been in vain yet you must not desist from this good work of teaching and instructing your Families but continue therein as long as you live And that you may not sit down under discouragement and give over instructing your Families because you do not find success in your work Let me propose to you these following Considerations I. Consider that God often renews and repeats the same means and ways to bring about our Conversion though former means have not prevailed with us to lead us to repentance Job 33.29 30. Lo all these things worketh God oftentimes with man to bring back his Soul from the Pit to be inlightned with the light of the Living God takes great pains with one and the same man to bring back his Soul from the Pit He worketh He doth not only call or counsel and perswade but He worketh these things all these things that is He worketh by his Word v. 23. and by variety of Providences Mercies Afflictions c. menriety in the fore-going verses and not only once or twice but oftentimes And there is a note of attention prefixed to this that we may give the greater heed to it LO Now if God taketh great pains and worketh oftentimes by the same ways and means with one and the same man to bring back his Soul from the Pit shall we think much day by day to instruct our Families and to continue so doing that we may be instrumental to save their Souls though hitherto we have seen no success of our Labours II. Though you see no fruit of your labours for the present yet you may do before you die Gal. 6.9 Let us not be weary of well doing for in due season we shall reap if we faint not Yea though you should see none whilst you live yet after you are dead your Children may remember what you taught them whilst you lived and may thereby be brought to believe in Christ and repent of their sins After Christ was dead his Disciples were much helped in their faith by calling to remembrance what he had taught them in his life-time John 2.22 When therefore he was risen from the dead his Disciples remembred that he had said this unto them and they believed the Scriptures and the word which Jesus had spoken Though the Seed of the Word seem to lie dead in their hearts for the present yet possibly God may quicken it by some affliction Manasseh was Hezekiah's Son and so doubtless had good instructions from his Father but yet he proved very vitious till he came into affliction he shed much innocent blood he dealt with a familiar spirit and with wizards and used inchantments and witchcrafts he was a great Idolater and built Altars for all the host of Heaven c. But when the Lord brought him into affliction he humbled himself greatly before the God of his Fathers and was brought to Repentance 2 Chron. 33.11 12 13. It is probable that there is mention made of his humbling himself before the
he calls you off from mourning for your children whom he hath rejected to make sure of your own and your surviving Relations Salvations VII Turn your indignation which is apt to arise in your hearts against God because he hath cast away your Childrens Souls into indignation against sin which was the cause why God cast away their Souls Hate all sin in your selves and hate all sin in others with a perfect hatred and never be reconciled to it as long as you live for the mischief that it hath done to you and your Children Seek by way of holy revenge the utter destruction of all sin Root it out of your hearts and of your Families and do what you can to hinder it from growing any more SECT 3. The Plea of such as are troubled because they conveyed Original sin to their Children answered Plea 2 MY Children that died in their sins and are now gone down into everlasting burning received their corrupt natures from me I was instrumental to convey unto them their Original Sin and their Original Sin caused their Actual Sins which caused their Damnation and this troubles me so exceedingly that I know not what to do I am ready to curse the day in which I entred into a married condition I might have kept my self single and then my wicked Children had never been born and sometimes I am ready to curse my Parents who conveyed a sinful nature unto me Answ 1. It is true that Parents do convey sinful natures to their Children Psal 51.5 Behold I was shapen in iniquity and in sin did my mother conceive me 2. Though it be thus Children must not blame their Parents for the blemishes they receive from their birth Isa 45.10 VVoe unto him that saith unto his Father what begettest thou or to the woman what hast thou brought forth Deut. 27.16 Cursed be he that setteth light by his Father or Mother and all the People shall say Amen Neither should we blame our selves for entring into a married state of life For Marriage is honourable in all Heb. 13.4 The Lord Jesus honoured it with his Presence and working one of his first Miracles at a Marriage Feast Joh. 2.1 2 11. Though Parents convey sinful natures to their Children yet Marriage is no sin 1 Cor. 7.28 But and if thou marry thou hast not sinned and if a Virgin marry she hath not sinned 3. Your being instrumental to convey corrupt natures to your Children should make you look more throughly into the odious nature of Original Sin and to loath your selves and to be deeply humbled for it but it should not make you to repine that you were instruments of bringing Children into the World for Children are counted blessings of God and the man is called happy that is full of them Psal 127.3.6 So Children are an Heritage of the Lord. And the fruit of the womb is his reward Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them 4. The Lord did provide a remedy against your Childrens sinful natures which they derived from you He hath sent forth his Son to save us from our sins and to make us partakerr of the Divine Nature His bloud is compared to a fountain which cleanseth from all sorts of sins it procureth the pardon of Original as well as Actual Sin Zech. 13.1 In that day there shall be a fountain opened for the house of David and to the Inhabitants of Jerusalem for sin and for uncleanness 1 Joh. 1.7 The bloud of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin He was sent by God not only to pardon our sins but to give us grace to turn from our sins Acts 3.26 Vnto you first God having raised up his Son Jesus sent him to bless you in turning away every one of you from his iniquities And God made a free offer of his Son Jesus Christ with all his saving benefits to your Children Rev. 22.17 It was their refusal of the remedy provided in and by Christ which was the cause of their condemnation John 3.19 Their neglect of the great Salvation of the Gospel brought upon them eternal destruction Heb. 2.3 How shall we escape if we neglect so great salvation 5. As God provided a Seviour for them so you if you did not neglect your duty were careful to train them up in the knowledge of this Saviour and to acquaint them with all the counsel of God what he would have them believe and what he would have them do in order to their salvation and did exhort them to wait upon God in all his Ordinances when you saw them do any evil you reproved them and warned them of the danger of their evil ways If thus you have discharged your duty towards them in warning them to turn from their evil ways and declaring to them the will and counsel of God concerning their salvation which may be reduced to these two heads That they should repent and turn from their sins unto God and believe in his Son Jesus Christ you are clear from their bloud although they died in their sins Ezek. 3.19 If thou warn the wicked and he turn not from his wickedness nor from his wicked way he shall die in his iniquity but thou hast delivered thy soul Acts 20.20 21 26 27. I kept back nothing that was profitable unto you Testifying both to the Jews and also to the Greeks repentance towards God and faith towards our Lord Jesus Christ Wherefore I take you to record this day that I am pure from the bloud of all men for I have not shunned to declare unto you all the counsel of God SECT 4. The case of those who are troubled because their Childrens bloud will be required at their hands considered Plea 3 MY Childrens Souls are lost through my negligence and carelesness if I had discharged my duty towards them it would have been some relief to me but I have been wanting in my duty towards them And now what can I expect but that God should require their bloud at my hands and this is such a trouble to me that my Children through my negligence should be cast into everlasting burnings and that their bloud should be required at my hands that I know not what to do I cannot rest either night or day by reason of my sin in destroying my Childrens souls and the misery which hereby I have brought upon mine own soul Answ 1. This is a great sin and ought to be much lamented that you should be guilty of the loss of your Childrens souls And it is a wonderful thing that many Parents make so light of it it is an argument that they are under a spirit of slumber and judicial hardness of heart How great an evil it is for Parents to be guilty of the bloud of their childrens souls and how they ought to be affected with it I have shewn before Chap. 2. Sect. 2. But though this be a great sin a sin to be lamented as long as you live yet