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husband_n which_o be_v not_o as_o i_o can_v instance_n in_o one_o that_o look_v upon_o the_o sigh_n and_o groan_n of_o her_o husband_n and_o the_o rise_n and_o fall_v of_o his_o voice_n in_o prayer_n to_o be_v hypocrisy_n affectation_n and_o self-conceitedness_n when_o for_o aught_o she_o know_v they_o may_v be_v the_o effect_n and_o evidence_n of_o fervency_n in_o spirit_n as_o in_o rom._n 8.26_o we_o know_v not_o what_o we_o shall_v pray_v for_o but_o the_o spirit_n itself_o make_v intercession_n for_o we_o with_o groan_n which_o can_v be_v utter_v that_o be_v the_o spirit_n help_v we_o to_o make_v we_o earnest_a and_o fervent_a in_o prayer_n which_o be_v evidence_v by_o groan_n beyond_o what_o can_v be_v evidence_v by_o the_o bare_a expression_n of_o the_o mouth_n yea_o groan_n do_v evidence_n a_o ardent_a desire_n of_o mind_n even_o when_o we_o be_v not_o able_a to_o speak_v and_o indeed_o that_o prayer_n which_o be_v breathe_v in_o &_o out_o by_o the_o spirit_n of_o god_n can_v 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prove_v they_o so_o by_o scripture_n it_o be_v better_a by_o much_o to_o be_v silent_a than_o to_o cry_v out_o against_o that_o which_o we_o can_v prove_v to_o be_v sin_n by_o god_n word_n no_o good_a be_v do_v by_o reprove_v a_o deed_n except_o by_o scripture_n the_o doer_n can_v be_v convince_v of_o sin_n 5._o be_v careful_a that_o under_o pretence_n of_o reprove_v your_o husband_n you_o do_v not_o utter_v any_o expression_n that_o tend_v to_o the_o undervalue_v and_o contempt_n of_o your_o husband_n person_n part_n or_o education_n for_o reproachful_a &_o disgraceful_a word_n give_v to_o a_o husband_n will_v cause_v conjugal_a affection_n to_o decay_v very_o much_o if_o you_o reproach_v your_o husband_n when_o you_o pretend_v to_o reprove_v their_o sin_n you_o will_v break_v their_o head_n instead_o of_o their_o heart_n and_o make_v they_o fly_v in_o your_o face_n instead_o of_o fall_v down_o at_o god_n foot_n some_o be_v apt_a to_o manifest_v their_o dislike_n of_o be_v relate_v 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god_n providence_n do_v not_o suit_v thy_o humour_n if_o his_o anger_n be_v dreadful_a when_o kindle_v but_o a_o little_a what_o be_v it_o then_o when_o kindle_v very_o much_o here_o be_v the_o sad_a effect_n of_o thy_o be_v angry_a with_o thy_o husband_n or_o wife_n thou_o than_o vent_a thy_o froward_a humour_n upon_o god_n and_o begin_v to_o quarrel_v with_o god_n for_o order_v such_o a_o relation_n for_o thou_o and_o begin_v to_o abate_v thy_o respect_n to_o god_n and_o care_v not_o to_o exercise_v thyself_o in_o those_o exercise_n wherein_o thou_o may_v enjoy_v god_n company_n do_v not_o then_o feed_v thy_o angry_a passion_n whereby_o thy_o heart_n be_v so_o much_o estrange_v from_o god_n and_o whereby_o you_o thrust_v god_n from_o your_o heart_n oh_o how_o shall_v thou_o loathe_v thy_o violent_a passion_n and_o contention_n when_o thou_o consider_v how_o they_o deaden_a thy_o affection_n to_o god_n may_v not_o god_n just_o thrust_v thou_o from_o his_o presence_n when_o by_o thy_o 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it_o make_v thou_o oppose_v the_o word_n of_o god_n which_o command_v thou_o in_o all_o thing_n to_o acknowledge_v thy_o husband_n superiority_n by_o be_v obedient_a to_o he_o in_o all_o thing_n in_o the_o lord_n that_o be_v in_o all_o thing_n that_o be_v not_o positive_o sinful_a if_o thou_o be_v humble_a and_o meek_a thou_o will_v not_o be_v of_o such_o a_o captious_a contentious_a and_o wrangle_a disposition_n but_o overlook_a those_o fail_n that_o provoke_v proud_a spirit_n thus_o it_o be_v evident_a how_o anger_n have_v a_o tendency_n to_o extinguish_v the_o love_n of_o god_n for_o the_o love_n of_o god_n will_v not_o kindle_v and_o flame_n in_o a_o unquiet_a breast_n it_o make_v man_n and_o woman_n fret_v against_o god_n and_o murmur_v at_o his_o providence_n and_o make_v they_o discontent_v with_o that_o state_n and_o relation_n he_o have_v put_v they_o into_o and_o that_o it_o abate_v people_n love_n to_o themselves_o and_o make_v they_o desperate_a in_o their_o way_n make_v 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may_v contain_v thy_o anger_n for_o a_o long_a time_n enter_v into_o a_o resolve_n in_o the_o strength_n of_o divine_a assistance_n that_o whatever_o occasion_n may_v be_v offer_v thou_o yet_o thou_o will_v refrain_v to_o manifest_v thy_o wrath_n and_o displeasure_n and_o so_o by_o little_a and_o little_o thou_o shall_v attain_v a_o habit_n of_o patience_n and_o meekness_n 5._o in_o those_o that_o be_v guilty_a of_o much_o furious_a passion_n their_o anger_n do_v cause_n abundance_n of_o sin_n as_o in_o prov._n 29.22_o a_o angry_a man_n stir_v up_o strife_n and_o a_o furious_a man_n abound_v in_o transgression_n anger_n be_v the_o door_n and_o gate_n of_o vice_n and_o therefore_o the_o psalmist_n say_v psal_n 37.8_o cease_v from_o anger_n leave_v off_o wrath_n fret_v not_o thyself_o to_o do_v evil_a as_o if_o he_o will_v imply_v that_o to_o abound_v in_o anger_n be_v to_o abound_v in_o sin_n and_o it_o can_v be_v but_o a_o person_n must_v be_v guilty_a of_o much_o sin_n that_o live_v in_o fret_a passion_n and_o inward_a unrest_n more_o sin_n be_v commit_v by_o a_o person_n in_o a_o fit_a of_o passion_n in_o one_o quarter_n of_o a_o hour_n than_o a_o meek-spirited_n man_n commit_v in_o a_o quarter_n of_o a_o year_n moses_n in_o his_o zeal_n for_o god_n break_v the_o two_o table_n of_o stone_n whereon_o the_o law_n be_v write_v and_o sometime_o passionate_a and_o angry_a people_n in_o their_o wicked_a heat_n of_o spirit_n break_v all_o the_o ten_o commandment_n and_o in_o most_o fit_n of_o passion_n they_o break_v in_o piece_n most_o of_o the_o commandment_n of_o the_o second_o table_n people_n vile_a wicked_a and_o sinful_a lust_n when_o they_o be_v please_v stir_v not_o but_o when_o once_o the_o heat_n of_o anger_n do_v arise_v that_o warm_v these_o lust_n they_o then_o like_o snake_n warm_v with_o the_o sun_n hiss_v and_o spit_v upon_o those_o that_o be_v about_o they_o when_o there_o be_v a_o land-flood_n that_o the_o brook_n get_v over_o the_o bank_n and_o 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eruption_n run_v away_o without_o a_o rule_n and_o end_n in_o folly_n and_o inconveniency_n prov._n 14.17_o he_o that_o be_v soon_o angry_a deal_v foolish_o by_o frequent_a fit_n of_o passion_n anger_n be_v concoct_v into_o malice_n which_o do_v evidence_n a_o very_a wicked_a disposition_n and_o be_v find_v only_o in_o the_o most_o deprave_a nature_n james_n say_v cap._n 1.20_o the_o wrath_n of_o man_n work_v not_o the_o righteousness_n of_o god_n intimate_v that_o it_o be_v so_o far_o from_o work_v righteousness_n that_o it_o work_v all_o manner_n of_o evil_n there_o be_v in_o a_o person_n anger_n somewhat_o of_o rage_n and_o violence_n which_o vehement_o excit_v the_o person_n to_o act_v and_o take_v away_o the_o rule_n according_a to_o which_o he_o or_o she_o ought_v to_o act_v so_o anger_n cause_v people_n conscience_n to_o be_v stany_v with_o the_o impurity_n of_o their_o life_n 1._o violent_a passion_n cause_v man_n and_o woman_n even_o to_o fly_v in_o the_o very_a face_n of_o 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their_o passion_n against_o their_o near_a relation_n to_o act_v froward_o against_o god_n o_o thou_o husband_n or_o wife_n thou_o be_v angry_a with_o thy_o husband_n or_o with_o thy_o wife_n and_o will_v thou_o manifest_v thy_o frowardness_n against_o god_n and_o because_o thy_o husband_n provoke_v thou_o will_v thou_o provoke_v god_n because_o he_o injure_v or_o wrong_v thou_o will_v thou_o injure_v and_o wrong_v god_n what_o infinite_a unreasonableness_n be_v this_o what_o boldness_n and_o presumption_n be_v this_o there_o be_v so_o much_o evil_n in_o it_o as_o be_v impossible_a for_o any_o to_o utter_v it_o be_v so_o abominable_a 2._o when_o man_n man_n or_o woman_n be_v in_o fit_n of_o anger_n one_o with_o another_o when_o the_o wife_n fall_v out_o with_o the_o husband_n the_o fear_n of_o the_o great_a and_o dreadful_a majesty_n of_o god_n the_o infinite_a god_n and_o the_o dreadfulness_n of_o the_o fear_n of_o god_n be_v all_o go_v and_o she_o be_v bold_a upon_o sin_n she_o 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in_o verse_n 24._o neither_o say_v they_o in_o their_o heart_n let_v we_o now_o fear_v the_o lord_n our_o god_n and_o in_o verse_n 29._o shall_v i_o not_o visit_v for_o these_o thing_n say_v the_o lord_n shall_v not_o my_o soul_n be_v avenge_v on_o such_o a_o nation_n as_o this_o o_o then_o be_v sensible_a what_o great_a provoke_a sin_n anger_n and_o contention_n do_v occasion_n 6._o husband_n and_o wife_n by_o the_o frequency_n of_o their_o angry_a passionate_a fit_n make_v themselves_o all_o their_o life_n contemptible_a to_o other_o some_o husband_n and_o wife_n think_v to_o be_v terrible_a to_o other_o in_o their_o passion_n but_o they_o discover_v so_o much_o folly_n as_o that_o they_o make_v those_o that_o they_o be_v angry_a with_o to_o despise_v they_o they_o may_v think_v to_o gain_v the_o more_o authority_n and_o make_v other_o stand_v more_o in_o awe_n of_o they_o by_o their_o be_v angry_a with_o they_o but_o they_o see_v so_o much_o rashness_n and_o distemper_n in_o their_o passion_n that_o nothing_o deprive_v they_o of_o their_o authority_n &_o respect_n more_o than_o this_o constant_a passion_n of_o anger_n when_o small_a matter_n put_v they_o into_o a_o fiery_a sit_v indeed_o if_o person_n do_v but_o observe_v their_o shameful_a carriage_n when_o they_o be_v in_o passion_n after_o they_o be_v come_v to_o their_o right_a mind_n and_o in_o a_o calm_a frame_n of_o spirit_n do_v but_o consider_v how_o much_o they_o be_v disdain_v and_o contemn_v for_o it_o it_o will_v make_v they_o ashamed_a of_o their_o anger_n however_o many_o be_v angry_a because_o they_o will_v not_o be_v despise_v but_o keep_v other_o in_o subjection_n to_o they_o yet_o nothing_o in_o truth_n do_v work_v base_a esteem_n and_o disregard_n in_o the_o mind_n of_o those_o that_o
the_o devil_n and_o not_o a_o child_n of_o god_n and_o in_o thy_o rage_n and_o fury_n do_v resemble_v the_o devil_n who_o g_o es_fw-ge about_o like_o a_o roar_a lion_n seek_v who_o he_o may_v devour_v 4._o person_n by_o their_o sinful_a anger_n their_o contentious_a wrangle_n and_o frowardness_n of_o spirit_n do_v subject_n themselves_o to_o the_o wrath_n of_o god_n and_o bring_v his_o curse_n upon_o they_o yea_o their_o anger_n bring_v upon_o they_o even_o in_o this_o life_n the_o dreadful_a effect_n of_o god_n anger_n o_o thou_o angry_a husband_n or_o angry_a wife_n if_o thou_o do_v not_o repent_v thou_o of_o thy_o sinful_a anger_n frowardness_n hastiness_n and_o touchiness_n of_o spirit_n upon_o every_o trivial_a occasion_n god_n will_v deal_v with_o thou_o in_o his_o anger_n as_o thou_o will_v deal_v with_o thy_o husband_n or_o wife_n in_o thy_o anger_n for_o as_o we_o forgive_v other_o so_o do_v god_n forgive_v we_o if_o therefore_o thou_o retain_v thy_o anger_n towards_o thy_o husband_n god_n will_v retain_v his_o anger_n towards_o thou_o the_o lord_n act_v the_o part_n of_o a_o umpire_n to_o make_v up_o breach_n heal_v difference_n and_o make_v reconciliation_n between_o relation_n but_o if_o either_o of_o they_o be_v so_o stiff_a and_o contentious_a that_o he_o or_o she_o will_v not_o be_v reconcile_v what_o do_v that_o party_n else_o but_o by_o froward_a behaviour_n and_o obstinate_a stiffness_n refuse_v the_o lord_n arbitrement_n and_o determination_n make_v god_n his_o enemy_n eliphaz_n tell_v job_n cap._n 5.2_o wrath_n kill_v the_o foolish_a man_n that_o may_v be_v take_v two_o way_n very_o true_a the_o wrath_n of_o god_n kill_v or_o destroy_v the_o wrathful_a rash_a and_o inconsiderate_a man_n that_o have_v no_o true_a government_n of_o himself_o for_o anger_n rest_v in_o the_o bosom_n of_o fool_n eccles_n 7.9_o or_o the_o angry_a man_n kill_v himself_o his_o own_o wrath_n be_v as_o a_o knife_n to_o his_o throat_n and_o as_o a_o sword_n in_o his_o own_o bowel_n wrath_n proper_o be_v anger_n inveterate_a wrath_n be_v a_o long_a anger_n when_o a_o man_n or_o woman_n be_v set_v upon_o it_o when_o the_o spirit_n be_v steep_v or_o soak_v in_o anger_n than_o it_o be_v wrath_n but_o in_o this_o place_n i_o conceive_v it_o note_n a_o fervent_a heat_n and_o distemper_n of_o spirit_n present_o break_v forth_o or_o a_o extreme_a vexation_n fret_v or_o disquiet_v within_o as_o in_o psal_n 112.10_o the_o wicked_a shall_v see_v it_o and_o be_v grieve_v that_o be_v he_o shall_v have_v secret_a indignation_n in_o himself_o to_o see_v matter_n go_v so_o he_o shall_v gnash_v with_o his_o tooth_n and_o melt_v away_o gnash_v of_o the_o tooth_n be_v cause_v by_o the_o vex_v of_o the_o heart_n and_o therefore_o say_v he_o shall_v melt_v away_o which_o note_v a_o extreme_a heat_n within_o so_o that_o a_o person_n wrath_n make_v he_o or_o she_o melt_v away_o as_o we_o say_v of_o a_o person_n furious_o vex_v it_o melos_fw-la his_fw-la or_o her_z grease_n with_o chafe_v this_o be_v a_o effect_n of_o divine_a displeasure_n whereby_o god_n in_o judgement_n do_v suffer_v people_n wrath_n to_o be_v so_o vexatious_a to_o they_o that_o it_o make_v their_o life_n a_o continual_a death_n to_o they_o and_o at_o last_o so_o weary_a and_o waste_v their_o spirit_n that_o they_o die_v for_o very_a grief_n and_o except_o the_o lord_n be_v merciful_a to_o they_o and_o the_o death_n of_o christ_n heal_v the_o wound_n that_o their_o anger_n and_o impatiency_n have_v make_v they_o will_v murder_v their_o own_o soul_n for_o ever_o frowardness_n and_o anger_n be_v a_o person_n sin_n and_o torment_n for_o people_n tear_v themselves_o in_o their_o anger_n job_n 18.4_o the_o more_o fretful_a people_n be_v the_o more_o miserable_a do_v they_o make_v themselves_o those_o that_o be_v of_o wrathful_a spirit_n will_v certain_o feel_v some_o degree_n of_o the_o wrath_n of_o god_n either_o in_o this_o life_n or_o in_o the_o life_n to_o come_v that_o must_v needs_o be_v hurtful_a yea_o mortal_a to_o man_n that_o carry_v in_o it_o a_o resistance_n to_o the_o immortal_a god_n some_o anger_n be_v not_o only_a grief_n for_o the_o opposition_n that_o person_n meet_v with_o but_o a_o kind_n of_o stomack_v at_o god_n who_o permit_v they_o to_o be_v oppose_v or_o cross_v and_o though_o they_o do_v not_o confess_v it_o to_o be_v so_o yet_o the_o spirit_n of_o god_n know_v it_o to_o be_v so_o now_o know_v that_o the_o wrath_n of_o man_n against_o man_n be_v a_o sin_n which_o god_n will_v punish_v with_o further_a wrath_n god_n will_v pour_v out_o wrath_n upon_o wrathful_a person_n and_o it_o appear_v that_o the_o wrath_n of_o man_n stir_v up_o god_fw-we to_o punish_v man_n if_o we_o observe_v what_o the_o apostle_n say_v in_o gal._n 5.15_o if_o you_o bite_v and_o devour_v one_o another_o what_o be_v this_o bite_n and_o devour_v that_o be_v every_o act_n which_o be_v opposite_a to_o that_o love_n which_o god_n command_v we_o to_o exercise_v towards_o our_o neighbour_n or_o our_o near_a and_o dear_a relation_n be_v a_o bite_n and_o devour_v we_o bite_v and_o devour_v one_o another_o when_o we_o be_v unkind_a wrathful_a and_o vexatious_a one_o to_o another_o see_v what_o follow_v as_o the_o effect_n of_o their_o passionate_a and_o froward_a carriage_n one_o to_o another_o take_v heed_n you_o be_v not_o consume_v one_o of_o another_o take_v heed_n lest_o by_o walk_v so_o unlike_o christian_n and_o so_o unanswerable_a to_o the_o law_n of_o gospel-love_n you_o provoke_v god_n to_o kindle_v such_o a_o fire_n among_o you_o and_o in_o you_o as_o may_v prove_v a_o utter_a consumption_n when_o husband_n and_o wife_n be_v not_o careful_a to_o walk_v together_o in_o love_n as_o christ_n have_v love_v we_o god_n sometime_o as_o a_o evidence_n of_o his_o wrath_n and_o displeasure_n give_v they_o up_o to_o a_o spirit_n of_o contention_n and_o their_o breach_n be_v like_o the_o sea_n which_o can_v be_v heal_v their_o cruel_a and_o 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yourselves_o than_o other_o you_o will_v not_o boast_v of_o what_o you_o have_v but_o be_v humble_v for_o what_o you_o want_v if_o you_o do_v not_o ever-value_n yourselves_o for_o some_o seem_a worth_n or_o excellency_n that_o you_o apprehend_v to_o be_v in_o you_o you_o will_v not_o so_o much_o storm_n at_o every_o thing_n that_o oppose_v you_o 2._o press_v much_o after_o a_o clear_a knowledge_n and_o full_a discovery_n of_o god_n the_o more_o you_o do_v converse_v with_o god_n the_o more_o humble_a you_o will_v be_v and_o the_o more_o will_v the_o pride_n of_o your_o heart_n be_v mortify_v if_o you_o consider_v god_n infinite_a glorious_a perfection_n and_o the_o immensity_n and_o infinite_a greatness_n of_o god_n what_o a_o distance_n there_o be_v between_o god_n and_o you_o it_o must_v needs_o make_v you_o have_v a_o mean_a esteem_n of_o yourselves_o when_o you_o compare_v yourselves_o with_o god_n you_o be_v nothing_o yea_o less_o than_o nothing_o do_v you_o see_v more_o of_o the_o power_n more_o of_o the_o sovereignty_n more_o of_o the_o holiness_n of_o god_n in_o himself_o and_o more_o of_o his_o goodness_n to_o you_o you_o will_v have_v no_o heart_n to_o exalt_v yourself_o but_o rather_o abhor_v yourselves_o the_o prophet_n isaiah_n cap._n 6.5_o cry_v out_o he_o be_v undo_v because_o such_o a_o pollute_a creature_n as_o he_o be_v have_v see_v the_o king_n the_o lord_n of_o host_n his_o bodily_a eye_n have_v see_v the_o sign_n of_o his_o presence_n and_o the_o eye_n of_o his_o soul_n be_v so_o overpressed_a with_o the_o present_a weight_n of_o his_o glory_n that_o in_o this_o his_o frail_a condition_n he_o can_v not_o bear_v it_o but_o cry_v out_o he_o be_v undo_v as_o he_o have_v never_o see_v so_o much_o of_o god_n before_o so_o he_o be_v never_o so_o deep_o humble_v before_o he_o never_o cry_v out_o before_o i_o be_o undo_v which_o word_n
apostle_n prescribe_v humility_n as_o a_o antidote_n against_o strife_n and_o contention_n and_o a_o sovereign_n mean_a for_o attain_v unto_o and_o entertain_v of_o union_n and_o peace_n but_o where_o pride_n be_v predominant_a man_n and_o woman_n walk_v so_o as_o that_o they_o care_v not_o to_o give_v content_a to_o any_o body_n but_o themselves_o in_o the_o family_n they_o must_v have_v all_o the_o content_n and_o no_o body_n else_o be_v please_v certain_o a_o humble_a spirit_n be_v much_o free_a from_o angry_a passion_n than_o any_o other_o because_o as_o a_o humble_a person_n be_v not_o willing_a to_o give_v offence_n to_o any_o so_o be_v not_o ready_a to_o take_v offence_n from_o other_o for_o it_o be_v pride_n of_o spirit_n to_o be_v ready_a to_o take_v offence_n from_o other_o upon_o every_o trifle_n and_o by_o this_o mean_n person_n prove_v to_o be_v very_o burdensome_a to_o other_o the_o ground_n of_o a_o proud_a person_n take_v offence_n be_v this_o because_o they_o think_v that_o every_o body_n must_v say_v as_o they_o say_v and_o do_v as_o they_o do_v else_o they_o cry_v out_o that_o they_o be_v always_o oppose_v and_o because_o they_o think_v their_o own_o judgement_n best_o and_o such_o a_o thing_n be_v better_a therefore_o other_o must_v do_v it_o and_o if_o they_o do_v not_o than_o they_o be_v lofty_a than_o they_o be_v proud_a and_o stout_a and_o break_v out_o into_o unseemly_a speech_n be_v inflame_v with_o passion_n evidence_v that_o they_o be_v under_o the_o tyranny_n of_o their_o pride_n so_o that_o there_o be_v no_o prevent_v of_o anger_n &_o contention_n between_o husband_n &_o wife_n without_o the_o mortification_n of_o their_o pride_n 4._o another_o direction_n to_o prevent_v sinful_a anger_n and_o hot_a contest_v between_o husband_n and_o wife_n be_v that_o thou_o do_v consider_v that_o god_n be_v merciful_a and_o gracious_a slow_a to_o anger_n and_o abundant_a in_o kindness_n exod._n 34.6_o and_o as_o he_o be_v not_o easy_o provoke_v to_o anger_n so_o be_v provoke_v his_o anger_n last_v not_o long_a for_o he_o will_v not_o always_o chide_v nor_o keep_v his_o anger_n for_o ever_o psal_n 103._o 8_o 9_o the_o lord_n with_o much_o lenity_n suffer_v the_o vessel_n ordain_v to_o destruction_n how_o long_o do_v he_o suffer_v the_o old_a world_n how_o loath_a be_v he_o to_o strikeâ—_n if_o in_o and_o hundred_o &_o twenty_o year_n he_o can_v have_v reclaim_v they_o he_o will_v have_v forbear_v they_o 1_o pet._n 3.20_o the_o measure_n of_o his_o grace_n and_o mercy_n towards_o we_o be_v daily_o boundless_a and_o exceed_v all_o measure_n he_o forgive_v we_o every_o moment_n much_o more_o than_o we_o can_v possible_o be_v wrong_v of_o man_n yea_o he_o forgive_v that_o person_n that_o injure_v we_o much_o more_o than_o we_o can_v forgive_v he_o o_o then_o if_o thou_o will_v evidence_n thyself_o to_o be_v a_o child_n of_o god_n must_v thou_o not_o labour_v to_o express_v his_o virtue_n this_o be_v that_o the_o apostle_n exhort_v col._n 3.12_o 13._o put_v on_o therefore_o as_o the_o elect_a of_o god_n holy_a and_o belove_a bowel_n of_o mercy_n kindness_n humbleness_n of_o mind_n meekness_n long-suffering_a forbear_v one_o another_o if_o any_o man_n have_v a_o quarrel_n against_o any_o even_o as_o christ_n forgive_v you_o even_o so_o do_v you_o he_o recommend_v the_o practice_n of_o meekness_n and_o long-suffering_a which_o consist_v in_o bear_v with_o and_o pardon_v of_o even_o real_a injury_n do_v by_o other_o and_o persuade_v to_o it_o from_o christ_n example_n in_o pardon_v we_o the_o example_n of_o god_n and_o christ_n be_v a_o most_o convince_a pattern_n for_o exciting_a we_o to_o pardon_v and_o forgive_v on_o another_o if_o we_o consider_v either_o the_o greatness_n of_o those_o wrong_n which_o he_o pardon_v isa_n 1.18_o or_o our_o baseness_n who_o do_v injure_v he_o isa_n 40.17_o 22._o or_o his_o omnipotency_n to_o right_v himself_o of_o the_o wrong_n do_v unto_o he_o mat._n 10.28_o do_v thou_o o_o husband_n or_o o_o wife_n stand_v in_o need_n of_o forgiveness_n and_o will_v thou_o not_o forgive_v thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n shall_v god_n forgive_v thou_o infinite_a sin_n and_o will_v thou_o not_o pass_v by_o one_o offence_n do_v thâ—n_o stand_v in_o deed_n of_o a_o sea_n of_o mercy_n for_o the_o wash_n away_o thy_o many_o foul_a offence_n and_o will_v thou_o not_o let_v one_o drop_v fall_n upon_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n to_o forbear_v or_o forgive_v in_o trifle_a wrong_n certain_o if_o husband_n and_o wife_n will_v but_o serious_o consider_v these_o thing_n it_o will_v make_v all_o quarrelling_n and_o contention_n between_o they_o to_o cease_v o_o what_o little_a cause_n have_v thou_o then_o to_o manifest_v a_o furious_a spirit_n against_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n for_o every_o trifle_n see_v god_n do_v not_o deal_v furious_o with_o thou_o for_o great_a offence_n o_o that_o these_o consideration_n may_v prevent_v husband_n and_o wife_n rage_v against_o and_o fall_v out_o one_o with_o another_o for_o the_o time_n to_o come_v 5._o if_o thou_o will_v keep_v thy_o spirit_n quiet_a and_o free_a from_o furious_a passion_n when_o any_o thing_n be_v do_v by_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n that_o be_v contrary_a to_o thy_o mind_n and_o do_v much_o displease_v look_v up_o to_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n and_o acknowledge_v the_o providence_n of_o god_n without_o which_o not_o the_o least_o grief_n or_o injury_n can_v befall_v thou_o for_o even_o the_o least_o be_v a_o portion_n of_o that_o cup_n which_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n reach_v out_o to_o thou_o to_o drink_v of_o job_n look_v not_o at_o the_o sabean_o and_o thief_n that_o take_v away_o his_o good_n but_o at_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n the_o lord_n have_v take_v away_o bless_a be_v his_o name_n job_n 1.21_o 22._o he_o be_v satisfy_v that_o god_n will_v that_o in_o righteousness_n and_o justice_n which_o they_o act_v with_o so_o much_o cruelty_n and_o injustice_n david_n look_v up_o to_o god_n when_o shimei_n curse_v he_o quiet_v his_o spirit_n and_o restrain_v his_o anger_n so_o in_o psal_n 39.9_o i_o be_v dumb_a and_o open_v not_o my_o mouth_n o_o lord_n because_o thou_o do_v it_o he_o do_v neither_o manifest_a forwardness_n nor_o discontent_n because_o he_o take_v notice_n of_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n joseph_n do_v not_o vent_v his_o passion_n against_o his_o brother_n for_o sell_v he_o to_o the_o ishmeelite_n but_o keep_v himself_o in_o a_o calm_a frame_n of_o spirit_n by_o consider_v this_o it_o be_v god_n that_o send_v i_o hither_o a_o godly_a man_n can_v be_v angry_a at_o the_o do_v or_o speak_v of_o that_o which_o please_v god_n to_o order_v the_o speak_n or_o do_v of_o because_o he_o know_v he_o be_v bind_v to_o submit_v to_o the_o will_n of_o god_n and_o thy_o only_a observe_v of_o the_o person_n that_o do_v in_o any_o way_n displease_v thou_o and_o not_o consider_v that_o god_n have_v a_o hand_n in_o all_o thing_n that_o befall_v thou_o be_v the_o cause_n that_o thou_o be_v so_o often_o transport_v with_o furious_a passion_n a_o observation_n that_o god_n have_v a_o hand_n in_o all_o thing_n that_o befall_v thou_o be_v as_o water_v to_o quench_v the_o inflammation_n of_o thy_o angry_a passion_n this_o persuasion_n that_o god_n see_v cause_n for_o all_o the_o wrong_n that_o thou_o do_v suffer_v be_v many_o way_n forceable_a to_o move_v thou_o unto_o patience_n for_o 1._o if_o thou_o do_v look_v to_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n in_o those_o thing_n that_o distaste_n thou_o it_o will_v constrain_v thou_o to_o confess_v that_o all_o thy_o chastisement_n be_v just_a far_o less_o than_o thy_o sin_n have_v deserve_v for_o indeed_o all_o the_o opposition_n that_o thou_o have_v from_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n be_v in_o some_o measure_n a_o rebuke_n of_o god_n against_o some_o miscarriage_n of_o thou_o and_o god_n in_o permit_v thou_o to_o be_v exercise_v with_o such_o thing_n as_o do_v very_o much_o distaste_n thy_o spirit_n do_v do_v thou_o no_o wrong_n because_o it_o be_v not_o commensurate_a to_o the_o merit_n of_o thy_o sin_n for_o indeed_o such_o cross_n and_o provocation_n as_o thou_o do_v meet_v with_o from_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n be_v but_o light_a to_o a_o gracious_a heart_n and_o if_o not_o so_o light_a to_o thou_o as_o to_o other_o yet_o but_o momentory_n but_o thy_o sin_n have_v deserve_v infinite_a and_o eternal_a punishment_n if_o therefore_o the_o lord_n use_v those_o earthly_a rod_n to_o correct_v thy_o sin_n thou_o shall_v rather_o admire_v his_o mercy_n than_o be_v angry_a at_o so_o gentle_a chastisement_n if_o thou_o do_v but_o consider_v that_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n be_v in_o every_o thing_n whereby_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n displease_v thou_o thou_o will_v
see_v that_o the_o manner_n of_o the_o lord_n deal_v with_o thou_o be_v tender_a and_o compassionate_a psal_n 25.10_o all_o the_o way_n of_o the_o lord_n be_v mercy_n and_o truth_n to_o they_o that_o fear_v he_o and_o keep_v his_o testimony_n when_o thou_o deserve_v to_o be_v cut_v down_o root_n and_o branch_n and_o cast_v into_o unquenchable_a fire_n he_o do_v only_o lop_v and_o prune_v thou_o to_o make_v thou_o more_o fruitful_a therefore_o if_o the_o matter_n be_v well_o weight_v thou_o have_v more_o cause_n to_o be_v thankful_a than_o to_o be_v offend_v consider_v with_o thyself_o when_o any_o word_n be_v speak_v or_o any_o act_n do_v by_o thy_o husband_n or_o by_o thy_o wife_n that_o have_v a_o tendency_n to_o discompose_v thou_o and_o say_v it_o be_v the_o will_n of_o god_n to_o afflict_v i_o in_o my_o wife_n or_o in_o my_o husband_n o_o but_o this_o be_v not_o the_o full_a desert_n of_o my_o sin_n this_o be_v not_o hell_n i_o deserve_v severe_a deal_n from_o god_n than_o these_o and_o this_o will_v suppress_v thy_o anger_n that_o it_o break_v not_o out_o 3._o consider_v when_o thou_o do_v meet_v with_o any_o matter_n of_o provocation_n from_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n that_o god_n in_o his_o infinite_a wisdom_n will_v dispose_v of_o every_o thing_n for_o thy_o good_a if_o thou_o do_v love_v god_n rom._n 8.28_o why_o then_o shall_v thou_o vex_v thyself_o with_o anger_n see_v god_n will_v turn_v the_o injury_n wrong_n cross_n and_o slight_n of_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n into_o blessing_n therefore_o when_o any_o wrong_n be_v offer_v thou_o which_o thou_o can_v not_o by_o any_o just_a and_o lawful_a mean_n avoid_v do_v thou_o say_v with_o our_o saviour_n christ_n john_n 18.11_o shall_v i_o not_o drink_v of_o the_o cup_n that_o my_o father_n have_v provide_v for_o i_o shall_v i_o be_v angry_a with_o the_o cup_n because_o the_o physic_n be_v bitter_a or_o with_o the_o hand_n whereby_o it_o be_v convey_v to_o i_o my_o heavenly_a father_n correct_v i_o for_o my_o good_a and_o amendment_n i_o will_v not_o therefore_o be_v angry_a with_o who_o i_o be_o beat_v but_o rather_o look_v to_o the_o principal_a hand_n that_o lay_v the_o chastisement_n upon_o i_o and_o the_o happy_a fruit_n that_o bring_v with_o it_o and_o thus_o thâ—u_n may_v keep_v down_o the_o rise_n of_o thy_o anger_n when_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n do_v distaste_n thou_o 1._o if_o thou_o do_v observe_v the_o hand_n of_o god_n in_o any_o contradiction_n that_o thou_o have_v from_o thy_o husband_n or_o wife_n which_o may_v make_v thou_o angry_a thou_o will_v acknowledge_v that_o the_o present_a course_n that_o god_n take_v with_o thou_o to_o be_v best_a for_o that_o be_v always_o best_a which_o be_v order_v by_o god_n who_o be_v infinite_o good_a and_o in_o all_o his_o dispensation_n be_v communicate_v of_o some_o good_a one_o way_n or_o other_o to_o his_o creature_n as_o god_n be_v most_o wise_a so_o his_o prescription_n be_v most_o safe_a and_o healthful_a now_o 2._o there_o be_v good_a cause_n why_o thou_o shall_v cease_v to_o be_v angry_a for_o cross_n wrong_n and_o injury_n for_o otherwise_o thou_o will_v be_v angry_a with_o god_n dispose_v of_o his_o providence_n resist_v thy_o own_o profit_n and_o choose_v rather_o to_o please_v thy_o palate_n though_o to_o thy_o great_a torment_n afteward_n than_o to_o preserve_v thy_o health_n and_o peace_n o_o then_o say_v to_o thyself_o have_v god_n a_o hand_n in_o permit_v my_o wife_n to_o show_v i_o such_o disrespect_n or_o in_o permit_v my_o husband_n to_o be_v unkind_a to_o i_o be_v it_o then_o my_o fret_a or_o rage_v against_o my_o husband_n or_o my_o wife_n a_o evidence_n that_o i_o be_o displease_v with_o god_n for_o permit_v such_o a_o act_n when_o thou_o be_v vex_v that_o thou_o be_v relate_v to_o such_o a_o one_o as_o a_o husband_n thou_o be_v offend_v with_o god_n appointment_n and_o when_o thou_o do_v wish_v that_o thou_o have_v never_o be_v relate_v to_o he_o as_o thy_o husband_n 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