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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A75929	A Christian family builded by God, directing all governours of families how to act. 1. Gods timber and framing. 2. Gods foundation and upper building. 3. Gods finishing. 4. Gods furnishing. The sum whereof is shewed after the epistle. By Robert Abbott, Pastour of the Church of God at Austines, near Pauls gate in Watling-street in London.	Abbot, Robert, 1588?-1662?	1653 (1653)	Wing A68; Thomason E1233_2; ESTC R6379	56,335	120

Doctrine is propounded If we would have blessed Families we must get them builded by God Sect. 1. The Application where fall 2 quares 2 1 What Gods building in a Family is 1 Both for matter Sect. 2. And for rule and square 1 The word of God Not carnal policy Sect. 3. 2 2 How we may procure it By having 2 1 God's Timber Single persons Sect. 4. which must be framed as they are 1 Old men Sect. 5. Old women Sect. 6. Young men and young women Sect. 7. 2 3 2 God's building which must have 1 A foundation Marriage in the Lord. In which we must goe along with God 1 In the Antecedents 1 A right choise By right marks S. 8 2 In the concomitants 1 The gift of the Parents The blessing of the Minister The mutual rejoycing of the friends S. 9. 2 3 In the consequents 1 Cohabitation and Communion Sect. 10. 2 2 3 2 An upper building which stands in 3 relations betwixt 1 Wife Sect. 11. Husband Sect. 12. Children Sect. 13. Parents Sect. 14. Servants Sect. 15. Masters Sect. 16. 2 3 4 5 6 3 God's finishing by an orderly government Sect. 17. which must be executed 1 By a good Father of a Family Sect. 18. By a good Mother of a Family Sect. 19. 2 God's furnishing of a Family 1 By getting goods which is either 1 By lending Sect. 20. By borrowing Sect. 21. By selling Sect. 22. By buying Sect. 23. By letting Sect. 24. By hiring Sect. 25. 2 3 4 5 6 By giving goods Sect. 26. 2 4 A FAMILY BUILT BY GOD Or a Meditation to direct Housholders how to rise from the Foundation to the height of a blessed Family Psalm 127. 1. Except the Lord build the house they labour in vain that build it or are builders of it in it THere are fifteen Psalmes which are called Psalmes of Degrees and this is one They follow next to the hundred and nineteenth and are of excellent use upon severall occasions There were diverse staires up into the Temple and the Priests and Levites did stand higher then the rest upon some of them for the better edification of the people when they sung them and they say these Psalmes had their names from thence The scope of this Psalm is to confirm this general proposition That without Gods blessings the diligent endeavours of men are blasted This the Psalmist demonstrates by a Distribution Verse 1 by an Opposition by a Promise and by an Example He distributes all the labours of men into publike and private in both which he shews that there is no good success without Gods blessing He opposeth the carefullest worker who without this blessing of God is cursed He promiseth sweet contentment to them that work with the blessing of God Verse 2 They shall have sleep and rest as Gods beloved Verse 3 He Instanceth in children who are the nursery plants both of Church Common-wealth and Family yet cannot be obtained with any labour without Gods blessing therefore above all things we must wait upon Gods blessing to build the house first by Gods people were first in a Family next in a Church and next in a Common-wealth therefore first he mentions the building of an house Quest You will ask whether God be become a Carpenter Answ I must say No but it is Gods goodness by these things we know to bring us to the knowledge of what we know not For as the word House is taken figuratively for all things that constitute and maintain the honour and comfort of a family as wife children servants goods of all sorts within dores and without So to build signifies whatsoever contributes to raise up and enlarge a Family by honest and good means as an helpfull wife hopefull children faithfull servants and well gotten goods and inheritances Thus Exod. 1. 21. 1 Chron. 17. 12. 2 Sam. 7. 11. God is said to make the Aegyptian midwives houses and to build David an house over and over again SECT 1 Doctrine HEre then is the Doctrine which if God please I shall open and apply unto you that If we would have blessed Families we must get them builded by God Husband wife children servants must not be like rotten posts and as straw hay stubble upon a good foundation but must be builded by God and the whole state and house must be finished and furnished by God Nabal was the head of a Family but a drunken Epicure and so not builded by God Jezabel was a main rib of the Family but a painted and persecuting harlot and so not builded by God Cain Esau Adoniah Absolon were Couplings in the Family but a murtherer profane rebellious and so not builded by God Zihah was a tyle or rafter in the Family of Mephibosheth but a faithlesse cheating servant and so not builded by God Dives his house was furnished with great store of wealth but if he might go gay and fare daintily he regarded not the afflictions of Lazarus and so not builded by God Vse Therefore be you good Christians perswaded to make God the Surveyour Framer Joyner sole workman in your Families or else no comforting blessing comes The speech of Christ reacheth to every thing without me ye can do nothing Experience teacheth John 15. 5. thus much concerning Families Abraham was built by God and mark what God saith Gen. 18. 19. I know that my servant Abraham will teach his Family Joshuah was built by God and mark what he saith I and my house will serve the Josh 24. 15. Lord. Naomi was built by God and mark her Ruth 1. 16. 3. 1. Hest 4. 16. Gen. 24. faithfull care of Ruth Hester was built by God and mark her speech I and my maids will fast likewise Eleazar was built by God and mark his godly care in his masters service And if a whole Family be thus built what a joint serving of God is there Husbands and wives are faithfull servants are carefull children are obedient goods are blessed and then we may say as Paul Greet the Church Rom. 16. 5. that is in thy house Most complain and they have too just cause that husbands are drunkards and tyrants wives are stubborn children are disorderly servants are unfaithfull More complain that there is little charity much contention many brawles flouds of drunkenness vollies of oathes The reason of all is because they are not built by God What shall I say then suffer your selves to be builded by God He will pull down the old ruinous building of sinne He will hew you with his own axe his Word He will lay you upon that good foundation Christ He will make you grow up into an holy building in the Lord and then the Lord builds the house and your labour will not be in vain SECT 2. BUt to settle this upon you your consciences will enquire after two things 1. What Gods building in a Family is 2. How you may procure it 1. Gods building is a well ordered Family

with his state he may humbly deny Yea and so far must they obey as stands with the honour of the Family Gen. 2. God saith Forsake thy father and thy mother and cleave to thy wife How forsake them Not forsake the duty of honouring them or the dutie of helping them but the dutie of Cohabitation when they have a wife of their own and the duties of administring their houshold affairs when they have Families of their own to provide for 3. They owe thankfulnesse to their Parents which must be held forth in three duties First in relieving their Parents that they may recompense them as Paul phraseth it Parents helped them when they could not 1 Tim. 5. 4. help themselves so must they deal by their Parents that are helplesse Thus did Christ David and Ioseph Let all children look seriously upon these examples to follow them John 19. 26 1 Sam. 22. 3 Gen. 47. 12 or else remember that memorable story of Luther A good Father had put over his state to his sons in Germany reserving onely to himself a power by turns to come and take his diet at their Tables One of his sons being at dinner and having a goose before him spied his father coming and set th● ●oose underneath the table till his father was gone again Then takes he up the goose which God had wonderfully turned into a great toad which leaped into his face and notwithstanding all his striving it could not be removed till it had stifled him to make him an example of all unthankfull children Secondly In praying for them If for all that are in authoritie why not for them first Thirdly In burying them therefore it is now grown into a word Parentare to bury Parents and the solemnities are called Parentals Thus did Iacob Esau and Ioseph Oh that all children would be carefull to know these things in Gods building and do them I know what many children plead for themselves Object Saith one my Parents are childish and divers Sol. So wert thou and they were glad to please thee night and day Obiect Saith another my wife will not be content Sol. Oh in other things thou canst rule her in this thou wilt not to save thy purse Object Saith a third I am not able to do for them Sol. Indeed above this God requires not yet know that Parents will beg for children why not children for Parents Object Saith a fourth I had no great matter from my Parents Sol. For shame say not so they were a cause of thy Being by Generation of thy Living by Education and of thy Learning by Information by themselves or by others Say no more but children up and be doing or else remember Absalom who being unnatural to his Parents was hanged betwixt heaven and earth as unworthy of either or both If this or the like should be thy case Farewel life farewel heaven SECT 14. NExt I come to Parents and they must not Eph. 6. 4. provoke their children to wrath but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. First they must not provoke them to wrath Surely this is not by suffering them to have their wills For a child set at liberty Prov. 29 15 makes the mother ashamed Neither is it by rebuking them when they do amisse for not to do this undoes many a child as you see in Adoniah Neither is it by correcting them when rebukes will do no good for he that 1 Kings 1. 5 6. Prov. 13. 24. spares the rod hates his son Neither it is by keeping them under subjection for this they must do out of love to God and their souls or sinne will grow What is it then It is a shewing too much rigour and severitie towards them As first when they deny to them what by law of Nature belongs to them according to state as meat drink cloth and breeding For if any man provide not for his own he is 1 Tim. 5. 8. worse in that then an Infidel Secondly when they burthen them with unjust commands Saul command Jonathan to 1 Sam. 20. 31. 34. fetch David out of a mischievous heart against him and so vexed Ionathan that he kept from his meat Thirdly When they vex them with reproachful words for what they cannot help as when Saul called his sonne The sonne of a 1 Sam. 20. 30. perverse rebellious woman The fault was Sauls own and not his sons if he married such a woman Fourthly when they rage them with undeserved blowes Saul took up a javelin to throw at Ionathan and saith the Text He 1 Sam. 20. 33 34. rose from the table in fierce wrath If Parents thus provoke their children to wrath they Col. 3. 21. will be discouraged either by dejectednesse or by fearfulnesse or by desperate stubbornnesse 2. They must bring up their children in Nurture and this is a framing of them like 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 men and women It includeth four things 1. Learning 2. Mann●rs 3. Labour 4. Correction 1. They must bring their children up in learning Paul was brought up at the feet of Acts 22. 3. Gamaliel and you know the care of Pharaohs Exod. 2. Dan. 1. daughter for Moses and of Nebuchadnezzar for Daniel how much more must Christians that know better The blessed Virgin though she were poore would not be guiltie therefore Luke 4. 16. John 8. 6. we reade of her son Iesus his reading and of his writing Object I know some have said I shall leave my children enough what needs learning But there is the more need for that Sol. The greater the ship is the greater is the fraight the greater the fraight the more skilfull had the Pilot need to be Object But the poore man will say alas I cannot bring him up to learning Sol. Truely the more is the pittie yet I wish them to consider sadly two things whether they do not spend two pence or three pence in a week worse and whether learning be not a better portion then wealth 2. They must bring them up in manners Riches without manners is but a Pearl in a swines snout Therefore here lies Parents next care If an Heathen when he saw a youth carrie himself unmannerly beat his Cur sic instituis Master saying Why doe you instruct him so much more are Parents to bee blamed Quest If you ask wherein doe manners stand Answ I answer 1. In Silence 2. In Speech 3. In Gesture 1. They must learn them to keep silence in two cases First In giving their betters leave to speak before them Elihu waited till the antients Job 32. 4. had done Secondly in not interrupting others while they are speaking for he that is hastie in his matters there is more hope of a fool then of Prov. 29. 20 him 2. In speech they must learn them to use fair speeches as that yong man to Christ good master and Luke to that high Christian most