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with_o consume_a fire_n a_o fire_n kindle_v only_o to_o consume_v be_v dreadful_a as_o in_o isa_n 10.17_o the_o light_n of_o israel_n shall_v be_v for_o a_o fire_n and_o his_o holy_a one_o for_o a_o flame_n and_o it_o shall_v burn_v and_o devour_v his_o thorn_n and_o his_o briar_n in_o one_o day_n that_o be_v the_o fury_n of_o the_o lord_n shall_v appear_v against_o those_o that_o like_a briar_n and_o thorn_n in_o their_o anger_n and_o contention_n do_v prick_v and_o scratch_v one_o another_o though_o in_o a_o strict_a sense_n it_o relate_v unto_o god_n consume_v the_o assyrian_n who_o plague_v the_o jew_n shall_v not_o then_o the_o terrible_a wrath_n of_o god_n that_o thy_o furious_a spirit_n bring_v upon_o thou_o scare_v thou_o from_o cherish_v thy_o passionate_a and_o froward_a humour_n if_o thou_o retain_v thy_o anger_n against_o thy_o husband_n or_o against_o thy_o wife_n god_n will_v settle_v his_o wrath_n upon_o thou_o o_o think_v upon_o this_o o_o husband_n or_o o_o wife_n 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against_o the_o person_n offend_v endeavour_n to_o make_v faulty_a person_n ashamed_a but_o not_o a_o shame_n that_o husband_n that_o do_v in_o his_o anger_n and_o furiousness_n of_o spirit_n call_v his_o wife_n where_o do_v indeed_o evidence_n a_o contempt_n and_o hatred_n of_o her_o person_n and_o that_o wife_n that_o do_v call_v her_o husband_n rogue_n knave_n and_o cheat_a fellow_n or_o other_o opprobrious_a term_n do_v real_o hate_v her_o husband_n and_o be_v principal_o in_o fault_n when_o a_o difference_n do_v arise_v between_o they_o also_o that_o person_n that_o do_v obstinate_o refuse_v to_o give_v due_a conjugal_a respect_n to_o the_o other_o do_v evidence_n a_o contempt_n of_o the_o other_o person_n and_o be_v guilty_a of_o its_o own_o anger_n and_o of_o the_o strife_n that_o be_v stir_v up_o between_o they_o 2._o that_o party_n that_o keep_v in_o memory_n and_o repeat_v over_o old_a thing_n that_o have_v be_v the_o occasion_n of_o contention_n a_o long_a time_n before_o 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full_o evidence_n his_o or_o her_o own_o faultiness_n 3._o that_o party_n that_o do_v in_o anger_n upbraid_v the_o other_o with_o natural_a infirmity_n or_o with_o such_o fail_n as_o he_o or_o she_o be_v through_o the_o power_n of_o temptation_n overtake_v in_o by_o a_o surprise_n and_o do_v it_o in_o a_o vexatious_a way_n to_o cast_v a_o slur_n or_o disgrace_n upon_o the_o other_o be_v chief_o faulty_a in_o raise_v discord_n between_o they_o and_o be_v guilty_a of_o sinful_a anger_n be_v the_o duty_n of_o husband_n and_o wife_n to_o forbear_v every_o thing_n that_o may_v cause_v any_o breach_n between_o they_o 4._o that_o wife_n that_o do_v divulge_v her_o husband_n miscarriage_n to_o any_o three_o person_n and_o talk_v in_o company_n what_o evil_a he_o have_v do_v be_v real_o and_o principal_o the_o kindler_n of_o her_o own_o causeless_a anger_n and_o the_o only_a occasion_n of_o discord_n between_o she_o and_o her_o husband_n for_o that_o husband_n that_o do_v manifest_a anger_n against_o his_o wife_n before_o other_o or_o that_o wife_n that_o be_v discover_v her_o fiery_a disgust_n of_o spirit_n against_o her_o husband_n when_o other_o be_v present_a that_o she_o care_v not_o at_o what_o time_n she_o vent_v herself_o though_o it_o be_v at_o such_o a_o time_n that_o she_o be_v like_a to_o do_v no_o good_a with_o it_o this_o thy_o violence_n of_o passion_n do_v evidence_n that_o thou_o be_v the_o alone_a cause_n of_o thy_o own_o anger_n because_o such_o near_a relation_n be_v bind_v not_o to_o divulge_v the_o dishonourable_a fail_n of_o each_o other_o the_o reputation_n of_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n must_v be_v as_o dear_a to_o thou_o as_o thy_o own_o it_o be_v a_o sinful_a and_o unfaithful_a practice_n of_o many_o both_o husband_n and_o wife_n who_o among_o their_o companion_n and_o also_o among_o their_o servant_n be_v open_v the_o fault_n and_o infirmity_n of_o each_o other_o which_o they_o be_v bind_v in_o tenderness_n to_o cover_v as_o if_o they_o 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it_o may_v be_v thy_o husband_n in_o his_o haste_n do_v once_o unadvised_o speak_v something_o to_o thy_o dishonour_n but_o thou_o make_v it_o a_o frequent_a practice_n upon_o every_o slight_a occasion_n of_o thy_o disgust_n thy_o husband_n may_v have_v desist_v such_o a_o practice_n but_o thou_o continue_v it_o and_o in_o excuse_n of_o the_o continuance_n of_o thy_o sinful_a practice_n in_o reproach_v thy_o husband_n thou_o do_v upbraid_v he_o with_o that_o single_a act_n of_o speak_v something_o that_o be_v not_o honourable_a to_o thou_o which_o perhaps_o by_o thy_o untoward_a carriage_n thou_o may_v give_v he_o great_a provocation_n to_o do_v so_o that_o notwithstanding_o all_o that_o thou_o can_v plead_v for_o thyself_o thou_o be_v the_o alone_a cause_n of_o thy_o own_o anger_n and_o of_o all_o the_o strife_n that_o happen_v between_o thyself_o and_o husband_n 5._o that_o party_n be_v true_o guilty_a of_o sinful_a anger_n that_o take_v distaste_n at_o every_o frivolous_a matter_n 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the_o power_n more_o of_o the_o sovereignty_n more_o of_o the_o holiness_n of_o god_n in_o himself_o and_o more_o of_o his_o goodness_n to_o you_o you_o will_v have_v no_o heart_n to_o exalt_v yourself_o but_o rather_o abhor_v yourselves_o the_o prophet_n isaiah_n cap._n 6.5_o cry_v out_o he_o be_v undo_v because_o such_o a_o pollute_a creature_n as_o he_o be_v have_v see_v the_o king_n the_o lord_n of_o host_n his_o bodily_a eye_n have_v see_v the_o sign_n of_o his_o presence_n and_o the_o eye_n of_o his_o soul_n be_v so_o overpressed_a with_o the_o present_a weight_n of_o his_o glory_n that_o in_o this_o his_o frail_a condition_n he_o can_v not_o bear_v it_o but_o cry_v out_o he_o be_v undo_v as_o he_o have_v never_o see_v so_o much_o of_o god_n before_o so_o he_o be_v never_o so_o deep_o humble_v before_o he_o never_o cry_v out_o before_o i_o be_o undo_v which_o word_n
apostle_n prescribe_v humility_n as_o a_o antidote_n against_o strife_n and_o contention_n and_o a_o sovereign_n mean_a for_o attain_v unto_o and_o entertain_v of_o union_n and_o peace_n but_o where_o pride_n be_v predominant_a man_n and_o woman_n walk_v so_o as_o that_o they_o care_v not_o to_o give_v content_a to_o any_o body_n but_o themselves_o in_o the_o family_n they_o must_v have_v all_o the_o content_n and_o no_o body_n else_o be_v please_v certain_o a_o humble_a spirit_n be_v much_o free_a from_o angry_a passion_n than_o any_o other_o because_o as_o a_o humble_a person_n be_v not_o willing_a to_o give_v offence_n to_o any_o so_o be_v not_o ready_a to_o take_v offence_n from_o other_o for_o it_o be_v pride_n of_o spirit_n to_o be_v ready_a to_o take_v offence_n from_o other_o upon_o every_o trifle_n and_o by_o this_o mean_n person_n prove_v to_o be_v very_o burdensome_a to_o other_o the_o ground_n of_o a_o proud_a person_n take_v offence_n be_v this_o because_o they_o think_v that_o every_o body_n must_v say_v as_o they_o say_v and_o do_v as_o they_o do_v else_o they_o cry_v out_o that_o they_o be_v always_o oppose_v and_o because_o they_o think_v their_o own_o judgement_n best_o and_o such_o a_o thing_n be_v better_a therefore_o other_o must_v do_v it_o and_o if_o they_o do_v not_o than_o they_o be_v lofty_a than_o they_o be_v proud_a and_o stout_a and_o break_v out_o into_o unseemly_a speech_n be_v inflame_v with_o passion_n evidence_v that_o they_o be_v under_o the_o tyranny_n of_o their_o pride_n so_o that_o there_o be_v no_o prevent_v of_o anger_n &_o contention_n between_o husband_n &_o wife_n without_o the_o mortification_n of_o their_o pride_n 4._o another_o direction_n to_o prevent_v sinful_a anger_n and_o hot_a contest_v between_o husband_n and_o wife_n be_v that_o thou_o do_v consider_v that_o god_n be_v merciful_a and_o gracious_a slow_a to_o anger_n and_o abundant_a in_o kindness_n exod._n 34.6_o and_o as_o he_o be_v not_o easy_o provoke_v to_o anger_n so_o be_v provoke_v his_o anger_n last_v not_o long_a for_o he_o will_v not_o always_o chide_v nor_o keep_v his_o anger_n for_o ever_o psal_n 103._o 8_o 9_o the_o lord_n with_o much_o lenity_n suffer_v the_o vessel_n ordain_v to_o destruction_n how_o long_o do_v he_o suffer_v the_o old_a world_n how_o loath_a be_v he_o to_o strikeâ—_n if_o in_o and_o hundred_o &_o twenty_o year_n he_o can_v have_v reclaim_v they_o he_o will_v have_v forbear_v they_o 1_o pet._n 3.20_o the_o measure_n of_o his_o grace_n and_o mercy_n towards_o we_o be_v daily_o boundless_a and_o exceed_v all_o measure_n he_o forgive_v we_o every_o moment_n much_o more_o than_o we_o can_v possible_o be_v wrong_v of_o man_n yea_o he_o forgive_v that_o person_n that_o injure_v we_o much_o more_o than_o we_o can_v forgive_v he_o o_o then_o if_o thou_o will_v evidence_n thyself_o to_o be_v a_o child_n of_o god_n must_v thou_o not_o labour_v to_o express_v his_o virtue_n this_o be_v that_o the_o apostle_n exhort_v col._n 3.12_o 13._o put_v on_o therefore_o as_o the_o elect_a of_o god_n holy_a and_o belove_a bowel_n of_o mercy_n kindness_n humbleness_n of_o mind_n meekness_n long-suffering_a forbear_v one_o another_o if_o any_o man_n have_v a_o quarrel_n against_o any_o even_o as_o christ_n forgive_v you_o even_o so_o do_v you_o he_o recommend_v the_o practice_n of_o meekness_n and_o long-suffering_a which_o consist_v in_o bear_v with_o and_o pardon_v of_o even_o real_a injury_n do_v by_o other_o and_o persuade_v to_o it_o from_o christ_n example_n in_o pardon_v we_o the_o example_n of_o god_n and_o christ_n be_v a_o most_o convince_a pattern_n for_o exciting_a we_o to_o pardon_v and_o forgive_v on_o another_o if_o we_o consider_v either_o the_o greatness_n of_o those_o wrong_n which_o he_o pardon_v isa_n 1.18_o or_o our_o baseness_n who_o do_v injure_v he_o isa_n 40.17_o 22._o or_o his_o omnipotency_n to_o right_v himself_o of_o the_o wrong_n do_v unto_o he_o mat._n 10.28_o do_v thou_o o_o husband_n or_o o_o wife_n stand_v in_o need_n of_o forgiveness_n and_o will_v thou_o not_o forgive_v thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n shall_v god_n forgive_v thou_o infinite_a sin_n and_o will_v thou_o not_o pass_v by_o one_o offence_n do_v thâ—n_o stand_v in_o deed_n of_o a_o sea_n of_o mercy_n for_o the_o wash_n away_o thy_o many_o foul_a offence_n and_o will_v thou_o not_o let_v one_o drop_v fall_n upon_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n to_o forbear_v or_o forgive_v in_o trifle_a wrong_n certain_o if_o husband_n and_o wife_n will_v but_o serious_o consider_v these_o thing_n it_o will_v make_v all_o quarrelling_n and_o contention_n between_o they_o to_o cease_v o_o what_o little_a cause_n have_v thou_o then_o to_o manifest_v a_o furious_a spirit_n against_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n for_o every_o trifle_n see_v god_n do_v not_o deal_v furious_o with_o thou_o for_o great_a offence_n o_o that_o these_o consideration_n may_v prevent_v husband_n and_o wife_n rage_v against_o and_o fall_v out_o one_o with_o another_o for_o the_o time_n to_o come_v 5._o if_o thou_o will_v keep_v thy_o spirit_n quiet_a and_o free_a from_o furious_a passion_n when_o any_o thing_n be_v do_v by_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n that_o be_v contrary_a to_o thy_o mind_n and_o do_v much_o displease_v look_v up_o to_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n and_o acknowledge_v the_o providence_n of_o god_n without_o which_o not_o the_o least_o grief_n or_o injury_n can_v befall_v thou_o for_o even_o the_o least_o be_v a_o portion_n of_o that_o cup_n which_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n reach_v out_o to_o thou_o to_o drink_v of_o job_n look_v not_o at_o the_o sabean_o and_o thief_n that_o take_v away_o his_o good_n but_o at_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n the_o lord_n have_v take_v away_o bless_a be_v his_o name_n job_n 1.21_o 22._o he_o be_v satisfy_v that_o god_n will_v that_o in_o righteousness_n and_o justice_n which_o they_o act_v with_o so_o much_o cruelty_n and_o injustice_n david_n look_v up_o to_o god_n when_o shimei_n curse_v he_o quiet_v his_o spirit_n and_o restrain_v his_o anger_n so_o in_o psal_n 39.9_o i_o be_v dumb_a and_o open_v not_o my_o mouth_n o_o lord_n because_o thou_o do_v it_o he_o do_v neither_o manifest_a forwardness_n nor_o discontent_n because_o he_o take_v notice_n of_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n joseph_n do_v not_o vent_v his_o passion_n against_o his_o brother_n for_o sell_v he_o to_o the_o ishmeelite_n but_o keep_v himself_o in_o a_o calm_a frame_n of_o spirit_n by_o consider_v this_o it_o be_v god_n that_o send_v i_o hither_o a_o godly_a man_n can_v be_v angry_a at_o the_o do_v or_o speak_v of_o that_o which_o please_v god_n to_o order_v the_o speak_n or_o do_v of_o because_o he_o know_v he_o be_v bind_v to_o submit_v to_o the_o will_n of_o god_n and_o thy_o only_a observe_v of_o the_o person_n that_o do_v in_o any_o way_n displease_v thou_o and_o not_o consider_v that_o god_n have_v a_o hand_n in_o all_o thing_n that_o befall_v thou_o be_v the_o cause_n that_o thou_o be_v so_o often_o transport_v with_o furious_a passion_n a_o observation_n that_o god_n have_v a_o hand_n in_o all_o thing_n that_o befall_v thou_o be_v as_o water_v to_o quench_v the_o inflammation_n of_o thy_o angry_a passion_n this_o persuasion_n that_o god_n see_v cause_n for_o all_o the_o wrong_n that_o thou_o do_v suffer_v be_v many_o way_n forceable_a to_o move_v thou_o unto_o patience_n for_o 1._o if_o thou_o do_v look_v to_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n in_o those_o thing_n that_o distaste_n thou_o it_o will_v constrain_v thou_o to_o confess_v that_o all_o thy_o chastisement_n be_v just_a far_o less_o than_o thy_o sin_n have_v deserve_v for_o indeed_o all_o the_o opposition_n that_o thou_o have_v from_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n be_v in_o some_o measure_n a_o rebuke_n of_o god_n against_o some_o miscarriage_n of_o thou_o and_o god_n in_o permit_v thou_o to_o be_v exercise_v with_o such_o thing_n as_o do_v very_o much_o distaste_n thy_o spirit_n do_v do_v thou_o no_o wrong_n because_o it_o be_v not_o commensurate_a to_o the_o merit_n of_o thy_o sin_n for_o indeed_o such_o cross_n and_o provocation_n as_o thou_o do_v meet_v with_o from_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n be_v but_o light_a to_o a_o gracious_a heart_n and_o if_o not_o so_o light_a to_o thou_o as_o to_o other_o yet_o but_o momentory_n but_o thy_o sin_n have_v deserve_v infinite_a and_o eternal_a punishment_n if_o therefore_o the_o lord_n use_v those_o earthly_a rod_n to_o correct_v thy_o sin_n thou_o shall_v rather_o admire_v his_o mercy_n than_o be_v angry_a at_o so_o gentle_a chastisement_n if_o thou_o do_v but_o consider_v that_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n be_v in_o every_o thing_n whereby_o thy_o husband_n or_o thy_o wife_n displease_v thou_o thou_o will_v
how_o terrible_a be_v the_o withdrawment_n of_o god_n when_o he_o withdraw_v in_o high_a displeasure_n and_o thou_o know_v not_o whether_o he_o will_v ever_o return_v again_o in_o mercy_n or_o not_o and_o it_o be_v say_v in_o 2_o sam._n 22.27_o and_o with_o the_o froward_a thou_o will_v show_v thyself_o unsavoury_a the_o hebrew_n have_v it_o with_o the_o perverse_a thou_o behave_v thyself_o as_o one_o turn_v about_o and_o that_o the_o very_a thought_n of_o god_n will_v be_v unsavoury_a and_o unpleasant_a thought_n to_o they_o angry_a froward_a person_n shall_v not_o have_v the_o least_o discovery_n or_o sense_n of_o god_n love_n while_o they_o be_v in_o their_o fit_n nor_o much_o at_o other_o time_n because_o a_o angry_a froward_a frame_n of_o spirit_n be_v a_o abomination_n to_o the_o lord_n prov._n 3.32_o &_o chap._n 8.13_o &_o 11.20_o '_o as_o frowardness_n cause_v strife_n between_o the_o near_a relation_n so_o it_o make_v contention_n between_o god_n and_o the_o soul_n the_o angry_a froward_a person_n oppose_v god_n and_o god_n oppose_v that_o person_n so_o that_o hence_o it_o appear_v that_o thou_o have_v abundant_a cause_n and_o reason_n to_o use_v all_o possible_a mean_n to_o restrain_v and_o suppress_v thy_o angry_a passion_n because_o they_o hinder_v thou_o from_o enjoy_v the_o divine_a presence_n and_o the_o hlessed_a discovery_n of_o divine_a favour_n 2._o thou_o shall_v take_v great_a care_n to_o restrain_v and_o suppress_v thy_o angry_a passion_n and_o hasty_a frowardness_n of_o spirit_n because_o as_o they_o prevail_v thy_o act_n be_v as_o contrary_a to_o true_a grace_n as_o any_o thing_n almost_o that_o thou_o can_v think_v of_o and_o true_o there_o may_v be_v a_o great_a deal_n of_o suspicion_n whether_o thou_o have_v true_a grace_n or_o no._n i_o conceive_v there_o may_v be_v some_o analogy_n between_o a_o nazarite_n and_o a_o gracious_a soul_n it_o be_v say_v in_o numb_a 6.2_o that_o the_o nazarite_n be_v to_o separate_v themselves_o unto_o the_o lord_n they_o be_v to_o be_v separate_v from_o the_o ordinary_a course_n of_o that_o they_o may_v more_o free_o and_o whole_o dedicate_v themselves_o to_o the_o service_n of_o god_n and_o to_o a_o more_o strict_a and_o pure_a course_n of_o serve_v god_n than_o other_o man_n use_v and_o indeed_o god_n confine_v they_o to_o strict_a rule_n they_o be_v to_o abstain_v from_o any_o thing_n that_o do_v belong_v to_o the_o vine_n hereby_o also_o signify_v a_o full_a and_o perfect_a renounce_v all_o worldly_a pleasure_n or_o any_o thing_n tend_v thoreunto_o intimate_v that_o they_o be_v not_o only_o to_o abstain_v from_o all_o evil_a but_o all_o appearance_n of_o evil_a 1_o thes_n 5.22_o all_o the_o outward_a ceremony_n enjoin_v they_o be_v but_o type_n of_o inward_a holiness_n i_o take_v notice_n of_o one_o thing_n enjoin_v they_o which_o be_v most_o especial_o to_o my_o purpose_n which_o be_v that_o they_o shall_v drink_v no_o vinegar_n of_o wine_n or_o any_o other_o strong_a liquor_n that_o be_v to_o signify_v that_o they_o must_v not_o be_v of_o vinegar_n spirit_n of_o sour_a and_o eager_a spirit_n but_o of_o of_o quiet_a spirit_n of_o love_v and_o meek_a spirit_n now_o all_o the_o saint_n of_o god_n they_o be_v nazarites_n as_o christ_n be_v a_o nazarite_n so_o all_o that_o be_v christ_n be_v nazarite_n separate_v from_o other_o to_o be_v the_o lord_n people_n the_o lord_n separate_v the_o godly_a man_n for_o himself_o as_o in_o psal_n 4.3_o but_o know_v that_o the_o lord_n have_v set_v apart_o he_o that_o be_v godly_a for_o himself_o and_o they_o must_v not_o be_v of_o harsh_a and_o hot_a spirit_n but_o shall_v be_v adorn_v with_o this_o lovely_a amiable_a grace_n of_o meekness_n so_o that_o a_o hasty_a froward_a and_o passionate_a spirit_n be_v direct_o opposite_a to_o a_o meek_a patient_a and_o quieâ—_n spirit_n and_o if_o there_o be_v any_o grace_n in_o a_o furious_a person_n it_o be_v rake_v up_o under_o a_o great_a deal_n of_o ash_n of_o corruption_n that_o it_o be_v not_o easy_o discern_v now_o the_o opposition_n that_o anger_n and_o frowardness_n bear_v to_o grace_n appear_v 1._o if_o thou_o do_v consider_v what_o it_o be_v that_o grace_n do_v in_o the_o heart_n when_o it_o first_o come_v the_o first_o thing_n be_v to_o show_v unto_o the_o soul_n it_o be_v own_o vileness_n it_o be_v own_o wretchedness_n and_o baseness_n by_o sin_n and_o the_o danger_n that_o it_o be_v in_o through_o sin_n now_o a_o froward_a passionate_a heart_n be_v very_o contrary_a to_o the_o sight_n of_o its_o own_o baseness_n and_o vileness_n for_o thou_o can_v not_o see_v thyself_o to_o be_v a_o base_a vile_a sinful_a worm_n and_o yet_o bear_v nothing_o that_o be_v against_o thou_o but_o present_o thy_o heart_n be_v in_o a_o flame_n if_o any_o thing_n do_v cross_v thou_o for_o thou_o can_v not_o be_v so_o angry_a if_o thou_o do_v not_o think_v thyself_o too_o great_a and_o too_o good_a to_o be_v cross_v 2._o when_o grace_n come_v into_o the_o heart_n it_o bring_v the_o heart_n into_o subjection_n unto_o god_n and_o unto_o another_o rule_n than_o it_o walk_v by_o before_o that_o be_v a_o principal_a work_n of_o grace_n to_o subdue_v the_o heart_n of_o a_o sinner_n unto_o god_n the_o heart_n of_o sinner_n be_v natural_o stout_a and_o rebellious_a against_o god_n and_o go_v on_o in_o a_o stubborn_a way_n till_o grace_n come_v and_o lay_v they_o under_o but_o a_o froward_a and_o passionate_a heart_n will_v be_v indeed_o above_o god_n and_o any_o of_o his_o rule_n it_o can_v keep_v itself_o under_o and_o lie_v in_o subjection_n unto_o rule_n and_o hence_o be_v the_o reason_n that_o froward_a and_o passionate_a people_n use_v to_o have_v such_o expression_n i_o will_v nay_o but_o i_o will_v and_o i_o care_v not_o their_o heart_n be_v subdue_v to_o the_o authority_n of_o god_n but_o the_o heart_n that_o be_v subdue_v to_o the_o lord_n bring_v it_o but_o a_o scripture_n and_o it_o yield_v present_o but_o a_o froward_a spirit_n be_v not_o so_o how_o 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