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will_v the_o matrimonial_a embracement_n to_o be_v chaste_a the_o bed_n to_o be_v undefiled_a and_o their_o progeny_n unspotted_a &_o it_o be_v after_o the_o mind_n of_o s._n paul_n 27._o ephes_n 5.25.26_o 27._o a_o sign_n of_o the_o great_a mystery_n wherewith_o christ_n do_v indissoluble_o unite_v himself_o unto_o his_o church_n therefore_o thou_o ought_v so_o much_o as_o shall_v lie_v in_o thou_o to_o lift_v up_o thy_o mind_n and_o to_o remember_v how_o great_a and_o worthy_a a_o image_n thou_o do_v represent_v and_o that_o thy_o wife_n shall_v be_v unto_o thou_o as_o the_o church_n and_o thou_o unto_o she_o as_o christ_n therefore_o thou_o shall_v show_v thyself_o unto_o she_o as_o christ_n show_v himself_o unto_o his_o church_n the_o love_n of_o christ_n unto_o his_o church_n be_v incredible_a and_o thy_o love_n also_o to_o thy_o wife_n ought_v to_o be_v most_o effectual_a society_n and_o to_o live_v together_o be_v the_o most_o sure_a and_o strong_a knot_n to_o knit_v &_o join_v 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mild_o to_o suffer_v she_o to_o the_o end_n that_o she_o wax_v not_o worse_o but_o some_o husband_n be_v of_o so_o sour_a a_o nature_n and_o so_o unpleasant_a in_o their_o behaviour_n that_o they_o can_v hardly_o be_v love_v no_o not_o of_o their_o wife_n their_o countenance_n be_v so_o lower_a their_o company_n so_o currish_a that_o they_o seem_v angry_a even_o when_o they_o be_v best_a please_v they_o can_v not_o speak_v fair_a scarce_o will_v they_o laugh_v when_o their_o wife_n laugh_v upon_o they_o a_o man_n will_v say_v they_o be_v bear_v in_o a_o angry_a hour_n endure_v husband_n must_v provide_v thing_n necessary_a for_o the_o house_n a_o man_n house_n will_v continue_v by_o provision_n before_o hand_n and_o by_o order_n in_o his_o expense_n rom._n 12.17_o 1._o tim._n 5.8_o but_o where_o disorder_n be_v in_o a_o house_n it_o can_v endure_v this_o be_v also_o a_o duty_n not_o to_o be_v forget_v namely_o that_o husband_n be_v diligent_a and_o careful_a to_o make_v provision_n 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she_o out_o of_o which_o fountain_n spring_v this_o duty_n that_o he_o must_v bear_v with_o her_o infirmity_n and_o not_o by_o and_o by_o to_o enter_v into_o bitterness_n and_o wrath_n colos_n 3.7_o 1._o pet._n 3.7_o 3.16_o to_o the_o same_o end_n s._n peter_n exhort_v husband_n to_o behave_v themselves_o discreet_o and_o with_o knowledge_n and_o wisdom_n towards_o their_o wife_n her_o require_v of_o they_o 2_o thing_n first_o that_o they_o never_o say_v nor_o do_v any_o thing_n that_o may_v just_o offend_v their_o wife_n as_o some_o there_o be_v who_o be_v prodigal_a great_a spender_n or_o idle_a and_o slack_a in_o their_o business_n do_v cause_n their_o wife_n and_o child_n to_o languish_v in_o poverty_n other_o who_o haunt_v tavern_n alehouse_n and_o game_n do_v consume_v and_o waste_v that_o which_o shall_v maintain_v their_o family_n other_o who_o come_v home_n drink_v do_v beat_v and_o vex_v their_o wife_n and_o as_o it_o be_v drive_v they_o into_o despair_n other_o who_o by_o 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his_o comfort_n &_o joy_n and_o in_o as_o much_o as_o prayer_n be_v a_o excellent_a service_n that_o god_n require_v of_o we_o and_o the_o ready_a mean_n to_o purchase_v his_o blessing_n let_v the_o husband_n discreet_o bear_v with_o his_o wife_n lest_o otherwise_o through_o their_o strife_n and_o contention_n their_o prayer_n as_o s._n peter_n say_v may_v be_v let_v and_o interrupt_v 1._o pet._n 3.7_o yet_o must_v we_o not_o say_v but_o the_o husband_n both_o may_v and_o aught_o to_o tell_v his_o wife_n of_o her_o infirmimity_n that_o she_o may_v amend_v but_o here_o we_o be_v to_o enter_v into_o consideration_n of_o sundry_a point_n first_o he_o be_v especial_o to_o reprove_v her_o offence_n against_o god_n as_o when_o rachel_n say_v unto_o jacob_n 30.1_o gen._n 30.1_o give_v i_o child_n or_o else_o i_o die_v he_o reprove_v she_o of_o importunity_n say_v be_o i_o in_o god_n stead_n who_o have_v withhold_v from_o thou_o the_o fruit_n of_o thy_o womb_n also_o when_o job_n wife_n say_v to_o her_o husband_n do_v thou_o abide_v in_o thy_o integrity_n 2.9_o job._n 2.9_o curse_v god_n and_o die_v he_o wise_o reprove_v such_o a_o wicked_a speech_n say_v thou_o speak_v as_o a_o unwise_a woman_n what_o shall_v we_o receive_v good_a at_o the_o hand_n of_o god_n and_o not_o receive_v evil_a second_o that_o it_o be_v with_o gentleness_n and_o testimony_n of_o good_a will_n as_o helcana_fw-la deal_v with_o his_o wife_n hanna_n 1._o 1_o sam._n 1._o when_o she_o mourn_v because_o she_o have_v no_o child_n and_o indeed_o it_o be_v meet_v that_o the_o husband_n shall_v reprove_v his_o wife_n love_o rather_o by_o persuasion_n then_o by_o force_n for_o as_o in_o a_o great_a stormy_a wind_n a_o man_n lap_v his_o cloak_n about_o he_o and_o hold_v it_o fast_o for_o fear_v of_o lose_v but_o when_o the_o wind_n be_v down_o and_o the_o weather_n calm_a he_o let_v it_o hang_v easy_o so_o when_o husband_n will_v as_o it_o be_v perforce_o wrest_v away_o their_o wife_n infirmity_n many_o of_o they_o will_v obstinate_o resist_v yet_o contrariwise_o by_o sweet_a word_n and_o love_a exhortation_n they_o may_v be_v win_v voluntary_o to_o forsake_v they_o three_o the_o husband_n must_v seek_v diligent_o to_o remove_v the_o occasion_n and_o stone_n whereat_o his_o wife_n stumble_v and_o take_v occasion_n of_o grief_n so_o when_o sarah_n be_v move_v against_o abraham_n 16._o gen._n 16._o because_o of_o agar_n and_o object_v unto_o he_o albeit_o wrongful_o that_o he_o be_v the_o cause_n that_o she_o contemn_v she_o bear_v with_o his_o wife_n he_o remove_v the_o cause_n of_o the_o contention_n in_o suffer_v she_o to_o turn_v agar_n out_o of_o door_n he_o must_v also_o take_v heed_n that_o he_o himself_o be_v not_o taint_v with_o the_o same_o vice_n which_o he_o reprove_v in_o his_o wife_n lest_o she_o stop_v his_o mouth_n with_o the_o reproach_n of_o the_o same_o fault_n but_o rather_o by_o give_v her_o example_n by_o the_o contrary_a virtue_n let_v she_o be_v induce_v and_o lead_v to_o follow_v he_o in_o reprove_v the_o wife_n the_o husband_n must_v always_o use_v such_o discretion_n that_o she_o be_v not_o bring_v into_o contempt_n and_o therefore_o it_o shall_v never_o be_v do_v in_o the_o presence_n of_o more_o than_o themselves_o for_o as_o it_o be_v mere_a folly_n for_o a_o husband_n to_o praise_v and_o commend_v his_o wife_n in_o company_n so_o be_v it_o as_o dangerous_a to_o check_v and_o reprove_v she_o before_o witness_n for_o indeed_o thereof_o it_o come_v that_o woman_n not_o be_v able_a to_o bear_v that_o disgrace_n will_v reply_v and_o so_o provoke_v strife_n and_o dissension_n in_o open_a presence_n which_o will_v redound_v to_o great_a reproach_n &_o offence_n and_o therefore_o as_o the_o husband_n must_v not_o flatter_v his_o wife_n so_o he_o must_v not_o reprove_v she_o before_o stranger_n a_o wise_a husband_n and_o one_o that_o seek_v to_o live_v in_o quiet_a with_o his_o wife_n must_v observe_v these_o three_o rule_n often_o to_o admonish_v seldom_o to_o reprove_v and_o never_o to_o smite_v she_o let_v the_o husband_n also_o remember_v that_o the_o infirmity_n of_o his_o wife_n must_v be_v either_o take_v away_o or_o bear_v withal_o so_o that_o he_o that_o can_v take_v they_o quite_o away_o make_v his_o wife_n far_o more_o commodious_a and_o fit_a for_o his_o purpose_n and_o he_o that_o can_v bear_v with_o they_o make_v himself_o better_a and_o more_o virtuous_a the_o husband_n be_v also_o to_o understand_v that_o as_o god_n create_v the_o woman_n not_o of_o the_o head_n and_o so_o equal_a in_o authority_n with_o her_o husband_n so_o also_o he_o create_v she_o not_o of_o adam_n foot_n that_o she_o shall_v be_v tread_v down_o and_o despise_v but_o he_o take_v she_o out_o of_o the_o rib_n that_o she_o may_v
as_o god_n confound_v the_o wise_a by_o the_o foolish_a and_o the_o strong_a by_o the_o weak_a so_o he_o teach_v the_o wise_a by_o the_o foolish_a and_o help_v the_o strong_a by_o the_o weak_a therefore_o peter_n say_v 3.1_o 1._o pet._n 3.1_o husband_n be_v win_v by_o the_o conversation_n of_o their_o wife_n as_o if_o he_o shall_v say_v sometime_o the_o weak_a vessel_n be_v the_o strong_a vessel_n and_o abraham_n may_v take_v counsel_n of_o sarah_n as_o naaman_n be_v advise_v by_o his_o servant_n the_o shunamit_v counsel_n make_v her_o husband_n receive_v a_o prophet_n into_o his_o house_n 7.3_o 2._o king_n 5.3_o &_o 4.9_o hest_n 7.3_o and_o hester_n counsel_v make_v her_o husband_n spare_v the_o church_n of_o the_o jew_n so_o some_o have_v be_v better_a help_n to_o their_o husband_n than_o their_o husband_n have_v be_v to_o they_o 10.19_o deut._n 32.21_o rom._n 10.19_o for_o it_o please_v god_n to_o provoke_v the_o wise_a with_o the_o foolish_a as_o he_o do_v the_o jew_n with_o the_o gentile_n beside_o a_o helper_n 16.23_o prou._n 5.18_o 19_o 1._o sam._n 16.23_o she_o be_v call_v a_o comforter_n too_o and_o therefore_o the_o man_n be_v bid_v to_o rejoice_v in_o his_o wife_n which_o be_v as_o much_o to_o say_v that_o wife_n must_v be_v the_o rejoice_v of_o their_o husband_n even_o like_o david_n harp_n to_o comfort_n saul_n a_o good_a wife_n therefore_o be_v know_v when_o her_o word_n and_o deed_n and_o countenance_n be_v such_o as_o her_o husband_n love_v she_o must_v not_o examine_v whether_o he_o be_v wise_a or_o simple_a but_o that_o she_o be_v his_o wife_n and_o therefore_o they_o that_o be_v bind_v must_v obey_v as_o abigail_n love_v her_o husband_n 52.3_o 1._o sam._n 52.3_o though_o he_o be_v a_o fool_n churlish_a &_o evil_o condition_v for_o the_o wife_n be_v as_o much_o despise_v for_o take_v rule_n over_o her_o husband_n as_o he_o for_o yield_v it_o unto_o she_o therefore_o one_o say_v that_o a_o mankind_n woman_n be_v a_o monster_n that_o be_v half_o a_o 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