the Vestal Fire it may never be Extinguished and to that purpose take care to guard it from all such things as naturally tend to put it out and these Extinguishers are perverseness of Humour frowardness sullen and Morose behaviour c. which by taking off from the delight â—nd complacency of Conversation will by degrees wear off the kindness Jealousy above all others is most destructive to Conjugal Love of which we have largely treated under the proper Letter of Alphabet and therefore shall say the less of it here though sometimes we find it to be an unhappy and an unruly Passion and although some term it the Child of Love yet we must â—erm it a Viper because its birth is the certain destruction of its Parent Wives therefore must be nicely careful in giving their Husbanâ—s no occasion of Jealousie nor â—e Jealous your selves if they love their Peace and happiness for the entertaining of Jealous Fancy is admitting the most Treacheâ—ous and most disturbing Inmate in the World and she who lets it in opens her Breast to a Fury and certainly 't is one of the most Enchanting Frensies immagiâ—immagiâ—able it keeps the Party always in a restless and Importunate search of that which â—s dreaded abhorring at the same time to find what is so earnestly sought and there is no difference in the Misery when there is a real cause and only an immagined one and a Wise if she can so bridle her self if she knows her Husbands out-wandring shall sooner reclaim him by dissimulation of the matter or very calm notices rather than by Fury and Contention though we must too sadly confess more Women drive their Husbands from home by their Clamours and Outcries against them of this kind that are staid at home by mildness anâ— perswasion and are reclaimed by their Wives Patience and Meekness yet where Men have not wholly put off their humanity there is compassion to a meek Sufferer so that Patience in this case is as much the Interest as Duty of a Wise. There in another instance of a several Tryal and that we find to be when a Virtuous Wife lies under the causeless Jealousie of her Husbanâ— This must be a great Calamity to a Vertuous Woman who as she accounts nothing so dear as her honour and Loyalty so she immagins no Infelicity can equal the Aspersing of them especially when it comes from him who should be more solicitous to protect her sâ—otlels Innocency and clear her Reputation from the Calumnies cast upon it by others however her caution and circumspection Prayers to God to turn his Heart from Evil Thoughts and Wonderful Vertues will in the end reclaim and make him when he sees with the Eyes of his Reason the Scales of his blinded Passion being fallen off he will with shame and confusion confess his Error and Folly and by the returning Spring-Tide let you see even in his Jealousy how much he valued as fearing any one should deprive him off or at least fully o're so fair a Jewel and by the high flowing of a constant Passion not only make you amenâ—s in Love but by taking shame to himself and blushing at his past indiscretion chear up your Reputation and make it shine brighter than bâ—fore for an Innocent being falsely appeached put to a sharp Tryal and coming off with his Innocency is pittyed and Esteemed when one of the like candour standing by is not taken notice of Wives owe to their Husbands in the next place Fidelity for having espoused his Interests she is obliged to be true to them to keep all his Secrets to inform him of all Dangers that threaten him and for his good in a mild and gentle manner admonish him of his faults that is the most genuine Act of Friendship therefore more abundantly the Wife who is placed in the most nearest and Intimate degree of that relation must not be wanting in it She is his bosom Friend his second self and as she tenders her own happiness so she must his putting gently in mind both of his duty and his Aberations and as long as she can be patiently heard it is a fault in her to omit it and indeed in doing it she is kind to her self for there is nothing that does so much secure the happiness of a Wife as the Virtue and Piety of the Husband yet though this ought to be her chiefest care as being her Principal Interest she is not however to neglect any of those inferior to it but contribute to his utmost advantage in all his concerns When these are well considered there remains more behind for a Virtuous Wife to observe towards her Husband As to what relates then to his Bed she must be severely scrupulous keeping even her Thoughts and Immaginations from wandering much less she must not hold a parley or Treaty contrary to her plighted Faith and Loyalty to her Husband for wantonness-is one of the foulest Blotts that constrain any of the fair Sex but it is more odious infinitely in the Marriage state there being then an Accumulation of crimes Perjury added to uncleanness the Infamy of their Family builded upon their own â—â—d throws all into Confusion and disorder like a Mine sprung under a stately Fabrick laying it in an instant all in Rubbish and Ruins of dishonour and disgrace the Children are branded to Poâ—â—erity and many Generations to come can hardly justle it into oblivion We come in the next place to speak something of Obedience This Ladies in so free and generous a Country as ours may sound a little harsh in your Eâ—râ— yet it is no more than you promised in your Marriage Obligation and we hope you are too brave and just as to break your Words when solemnly passed in so sacred a Place and indeed there goes more than your word to bind it for God hiâ—self has commanded it you lost the Charter of Equality in Paradice so that a contending for it or at least superiority is an attempt to reverse the fundamental Law which is very near as antient as the World consider then that to affect Dominion that has been so long given away and the gift often since confirmed to Man is to little purpose unless to shipwrack the peace and Pleasures of your Lives how happy might many Women have lived who have brought Misery and affliction upon themselves had not their restless Spirits pushed them on for Mastery 'T is better then to let it rest where it ought which is agreable to Gods Word to Nature and Reason and so to live in a calm than by strugling for that which if possible to attain may be hurtful to you for you must always be upon your watch and guard to secure it lest In Roads are made or surprizes happen divesting you of your power and rendring you more miserable than before by a more seâ—vile Subjection so that certainly it is not only the Virtue but also the Wisdom of Wives to do that upon respect and Duty to their
time of the Emperor Octavian another Dolphin in the same manner took love to a Child upon the Sea coast near to Pusoll and that every time this Child called Simon they say this Fish will run at that name it came presently to the Sea brink and the Child mounted upon the back of it and the Child was carried into the Sea as little away as he would and brought back again safe He saith also that this Child dying by accident of Sickness and the Dolphin coming divers times to the accustomed place not finding the Child there died also In Argis the Child Olenus was affected by a Goose So likewise Lycidas the Philosopher who whould never depart from him nor be driven out of his Company but was his continual associate in publick and private in the Bath in the Night in the Day without any Intermission Plin. lib. 10. cap. 22. Glauce the Harper was beloved of a Ram a Youth of Sparta by a Daw. Nicander apud Caelium witnesseth That one Selandus Butler to the King of Bithynia was belov'd of a Cock whom they called Centaurus A Cock doted likewise on a young Lad whose name was Amphilochus by Nation an Olenian Why may we not then as well give credit that Semiramis was affected by a Horse and Pasiphae by a Bull When Pliny tells us that in Leucadia a young Damosel was so belov'd of a Peacock that the enamoured Bird never left her in life and accompany'd her in death For seeing the Virgin dead she never would receive Food from any hand but so pin'd away and died also In the City of Sestos a young Eagle taken in a Nest was carefully brought up by a Virgin The Bird being come to full growth would every day take her flight abroad and all such Foul as she could catch bring home and lay them in the Lap of her Mistress And this she used daily as it were to recompence her for her fostering and bringing up At length this Virgin dying and her Body being carried to the Funeral Fire the Eagle still attended which was no sooner expos'd unto the flames but the Bird likewise cast her self with a voluntary flight amidst the new kindled Pile and to her Mistresses Hearse gave her self a most grateful Sacrifice Beauty in General its Alluring to Liking and Love They who do adore or contemn Beauty do ascribe too much or too little to the Image of God it is undoubtedly one of the rarest Gifts which Heaven hath afforded unto Earth According to the Opinion of Plato It is a humane Splendor lovely in its own Nature and which hath the force to ravish the Spirit with the Eyes This worthy Quality is worthy of Respect wheresoever there be Eyes or Reason it hath no Enemies but the Blind and Unsensible all the World yielding Homage to those to whom Nature hath given the preheminence over others Those Ladies who imagine that the Number of their Servants do add something to their Beauty and thereby seem to take much satisfaction in their submissions and services do give a great advantage to their Enemies and shew they may be won at an easie rate whilst there needs more for them to become Masters of their desires than Praises and Respects But the fairest of Women may find an excellent Remedy against Vanity it being at sixteen Years of Age they could represent unto themselves the defects and Inconveniences of old Age. Nevertheless it is worth the Observation that Cato had Beauty in so high an Estimation as that he was heard to say publickly It was no less a Crime to offend Beauty than to rob a Temple Sulpitia amongst the Roman Ladies had such beautiful Eyes that the Men of those Days could not behold her without a will to adore her It is recorded that the Neck and Bosom of Theodeta the Athenian was so pleasing that Socrates himself did fall in Love with them they are Draughts and Charms which are not to be sought by Artificiousness nor possessed by Vanity Nature affords them to some Ladies on purpose to please the Eye and to raise the Mind unto the Love of him who is the Fountain of all Human Perfection Galen doth make mention of Phryne who whenever she appeared she Eclipsed the Lustre of all the Ladies of the Assembly and filled them with Revenge and Shame at the last they invented a Sport amongst themselves which every one was to Command by turn when it came to her turn to be Commandress she told them that she would lay but an easie Charge upon them which was that every one of them should wash their Face and their Hands which when they had done for they were bound unto obedience they might easily discover the the true Beauties from the Counterfeit and there was hardly any one that could be known by their former Countenances their Faces were become quite others than they were This pastime if it were put in practice in our times would no doubt be as ungrateful to many of our Ladies I do the rather make mention of this rare Beauty because that it was for her that those famous Judges called the Areopagites did lose the Name and Reputation of Judges not to be Corrupted because not believing her to be innocent yet when they beheld her they could not judge her to be faulty Hipperides the Orator pleaded in vain against her for as soon as she made her appearrance her presence served â— an Apology and she needed not but only to appear to defend herself The Beautiful ever gain their suit and â— Justice doth but open her Eyes to behold them how poorly soever it is sollicited their cause cannot go ill So that you see Beauty is a pleasing Object in the eye improved by the apprehension of Fancy and conveyed to the heart by the Optick part If the Owner that enjoys it know it It begets in her a dis-esteem and contempt of inferiour features None can serve an Eccâ— but Narcissus What a scornful eye she casts upon common persons or a Plebeiâ—â— presence She could find in her heart to be angry with the wind for dealing so roughly with her Veil or hoising up her skirts and scourge those Aeolian scouts for being 〈◊〉 saucy She wonders that Venus should be for a Goddess recorded and she never remembred This that passionate Amorist well discovered in this Canto Beauteous was She but to coy Glorious in her tyres antoâ—es But too way-ward for the Boy Who in action Spher'd 〈◊〉 joyes Love-tales she could deigâ—â— to hear And relate them Week by Week But to kiss when you come near Lips was turned into the Cheek Beauty that is too precise Though it should attractive be Darting beamelins from her eyes 'T were no Adamant to me Nor did that incensed Gentleman shew less passion upon the like regret from a disdainful Lady whose long practise in Painting and delicate Tooth together had so corrupted her breath as Cocytus could not have a worser
pound and a half the whites and shells of thirty Eggs the young branches of a Fig-tree cut in small shivers incorporate them well and distill them in a Glass Alimbick over a gentle five Then to the Water you draw off add Sugar-Candy Borace and Camphire each an ounce Olibanum two ounces bruise them small and then distill them over again preserving the Water upon this Second Distillation as a rare Secret and improver or Imbellisher of Beauty Again take Lithargy of Gold and Silver each a dram put them into stronge white Wine Vinegar add Camphire and Allum of each half a Scrupleas much of Musk and Ambergreece to scent the Composition boyl them in a small quantity of Vinegar silter and keep it then boyl a little Roch-Allum in spring water and keep it apart from the other but when you use them mingle them together Thus Venus in her brightest form you 'll vie Or all those Female Starâ— that guild the Sky Who for their Beauties there were 〈◊〉 and shine But you out dazled now 〈◊〉 must refine To see their long 〈◊〉 leave 〈…〉 Faustina was cured of dishonest Love And of divers other Remedies against that Passion That the affection and prison of the Mind which is ordinarily called Love is a strong Passion and of great effect in the Soul let us ask of such Men which by Experience have known it and of such whom Examples are notorious namely of very excellent Personages that have suffer'd their Wills to have been transported even so far that some of them have died Jules Capitolin amongst other Examples recites that which happen'd to Faustina Daughter to Amoninus and Wife to the Emperor Marcus Aurelius who fell in Love with a Master of Fence or Gladiator in such sort that for the desire which she had of his Company she was in danger of Death she did so consume away Which being understood by Marcas Aurelius he presently call'd together a great company of Astrologians and Doctors to have counsel and find remedy thereupon At last it was concluded That the Fencer should be kill'd and that they should unknown to her give Faustina his Blood to drink and that after she had drank it the Emperor her Husband should lie with her This Remedy wrought marvellously for it put this Affection so far from her that she never afterwards thought of him And the History saith of this Copulation that the Emperor had then with her was begotten Antoninus Commodus which became so bloody and Cruel that he resembled more the Fencer whose Blood his Mother had drank a the Conception of him than Marcus Aurelius whose Son he was which Commodus was always found amongst the Gladiators as Eutropius Wâ—â—nesses in the Life of the same Commodus The 〈◊〉 and Arabick Physicians place this Disease of Love amongst the grievous Infirmities of the Body of Man and thereupon prescribe divers Remedies Câ—dâ—mus Milesien as Sâ—ydâ—â— â—â—ports in his Collections writes a whole Book treating of 〈◊〉 particular Remedies which Physicians give for this Disease one is That to him that is passionate in Love one 〈◊〉 put into his hands great Affairs importuning his Credit and his Profit that his Spirit being occupied in divers matters it may draw away his Imagination from that which troubles him And they say further that they should 〈◊〉 him to be merry and conversant with other Women Against this heat Pliny saith it is good to take the Dust upon which a Mule hath tumbled and cast it upon the Lover and all to be powder him or else of the Sweat of a chased Mule as Cardanus affirms in his Book of Subtilties The Physicians also teach how to know what Person is loved of him that is sick in Love and it is by the same Rule that Eristratus Physician to King Seleucus knew the love that Antiochus bare to the Queen Stratonicus his Stepmother for he being extream sick and would rather die than discover the cause of his Sickness proceeding from Love which he bare to his Father's Wife She came into the Chamber just then when the Physician was feeling the Patients Pulse which beat so strong when he saw the Queen come into the Chamber that Eristratus knew that he was in Love with her and that was the cause of his Sickness wherefore he found the way to make the King acquainted with it by such a means as would be too tedious to recite Which being experimented by the Father and seeing his Son in danger if he did not prevent it thought it good tho contrary to the Intention of the Son which chose rather Death than to be healed by his Father's Loss to deprive himself of his Queen and give her to his sick Son And so indeed the Age and the Beauty of the Lady and likewise Marriage was more proper for the Son than for the Father And by this means Antiochus lived well and gallantly many Years with his well-beloved Stratoniâ—â—â— The History is very neatly recited by Plutarch in the Life of Demetrius And thus you see why Physicians say that you must feel the Pulse of those that are in Love and repeat to them divers names of Persons and if you name the right the Pulse will beat thick and strong and by that you shall know whom they Love By divers other signs one may know when any is in Love and with whom which I leave to speak of now Friendship Friendship well chosen and placed is a great felicity of Life but we ought in this respect to move very cautiously and be certain we are not mistaken before we unbosom our Thoughts or make too strict a Union We see in Politicks Leagues offensive and defensive do not always hold and being abruptly broken prove more mischievous than any thing before they were contracted because there is a more eager desire of Revenge and ground of Injury started and so when a close knit Friendship slips the knot or is violently broken in sunder by the force of some mischievous Engine set on work to that end Anger and Hatred ensues all the Secrets on either side how unbecoming or prejudicial so ever are let fly abroad to become the Entertainment and Laughter of the World redounding perhaps not only to the Injury of your self but of others whose Secrets have upon Confidence of your Virtue been intrusted with you and by you again upon the like Confidence communicated to the Party you entrusted with your own who upon breaking with you persidiously discloses them Therefore keep to your self a Reservedness and try all manner of ways the strength and constancy of Fidelity before you trust too far for if you lay out your Friendship at first too lavishly like things of other natures it will be so much the sooner wasted suffer it by no means to be of too speedy a growth considering that those Plants which floot up over quickly are not of long duration comparable with those that grow flower and by degrees Choice of this kind ought
is a sufficient Cordial to Cure or Remove yet Sophocles tho' otherways a wise Man at an extream Age fell in Love with Archippe a brisk Young Girl even when his Heat and Moisture was decay'd so that we might believe that Jealousie could not be among such men but we find it will creep into their Bosoms notwithstanding their utmost endeavours to keep it out and has proved very Tragical but of these sort of Marriages you will find the ill-conveniencies more at large where we treat more particularly of Marriages Some on the other hand in their Matches are over-curiously Nice and Critical which has something strange and unusual in it Francis Siorza Duke of Millan was so Curious that though the Match was far carried on between him and the Duke of Mantua's Daughter he would not receive the Young Lady as his Bride before he had seen her Naked that he might be satisfied whether any blemishes or imperfections in Nature were covered under her Garments and it not only has been but is now a Custom in some Places that to avoid any discontent after Marriage the Parents of either side search the two parties to observe if there be no Impediment to the hindering Generation and after this search they are compelled to Marry if they refuse it In a part of the East Indies they have a Custom that the Bride shall put her hand thro' the hole of a Partition and take in the Bridegrooms hand where her Mother or some near Relation pricks his hand whilst he holds hers all over with a sharp Bodkin and if for all that if he hold her fast so that she squeak again it is a sign of lasting Love and Constancy as they term it but it through the pain it occasions he timerously lets go his hold then the contrary is expected and accordingly it most commonly occasions the breaking off the Match though never so near Consummation It is to be wished for weighty Reasons that Young People could well understand each others humours before they come to tye the lasting Knot Plutarch says one must eat a Bushel of Salt before he makes choice of a Friend that is it must not be done Rashly or Unadvisedly but upon Mature Deliberation so to prevent Jealousie and the Misfortunes that attend on it ought we to do in Cases of Marriage to weigh every thing that we scruple will not answer our Expectations and when the Parties who are to have their Lots are well assured of her or his for it may extend to either Sex Behaviour and Qualities c. they are not if they intend it a Happy Marriage to prefer Riches Birth or Beauty before good Education and good Conditions A merry Fellow says that Conquage styled the God of Cuckolds is to Accompany the Goddess Jealousie they by the appointment of Jupiter being always to follow the fairest So that Beauty is not always accounted the happiest Lot though very much coveted straight and comely Personage have many times crooked and deformed Conditions yet it is something hard if men should marry deformed and ill-shapen Wives on purpose to prevent Jealousie or go on purpose for that Reason to fetch one from the Temple of Cassandra which was once held to be a Sanctuary for homely Maids and yet when he has done all that he may be deceived as the Thracian was who having a deformed Dowdy to his Wife and catching her one Morning in Bed with a Fellow he cryed out O thou miserable wretch what necessity brought thee hither as he had Reason for the Cuckold-maker must needs have a good Stomack to breakfast on so course a Dish he who marries a Wife of a suspected Fame if she play false with him ought to lay his hand upon his Heart and rest contented by Reason his Bargain is no worie than he had Reason to expect it would be but when all 's done if you would not be Plagued with Jealousie marry a Virtuous Wife tho' but tollerably handsom and behave your self toward her as a good Loving Husband ought Jealousie by those it possesses being acknowledged to be a strange disorder and an extravagant Evil they would lessen their own Folly and Madness by laying the fault upon the Coelestial Bodies thro' whose influence say they it is inevitable to some Persons and there are not wanting some who pretend to Astrology who lull them in this opinion to compass their own ends in causing divers to resort to them for no other design than to gull them of their Money when indeed the wisest of them all cannot tell how often their own Venus's are in Conjunction with the Mercurial and Martial Sparks of the Town in the lowest Orb should they reduce the Essence of their Art into a Nut-shell the better to be informed Indeed hot Countreys that are most Subject to Lust give greatest Causes of Jealousie but what can we say when it is known for the most part to be incident to those that have no cause at all to be Jealous we are not ignorant that the greatest Cuckolds are the most Contented Quiet and Peaceable Men the most kind and endearing to their Wives this indeed they urge though lamely in Vindication of the Starry influences which say they predominate over some more than others but leaving these wide or rather wild Notions we now come nearer to the Point and conclude it to be an unreasonable Madness that Men and Women bring upon themselves by giving too much Scope to their Passions and indulging the Temptations that the grand Enemy of Mankind lays to destroy their Peace and the quiet repose of their Minds as well knowing such disorders will hinder them from entertaining good Thoughts Meditations Prayers c. and truly any thing that may further them in the way to their Eternal Happiness and indeed we cannot Conjecture otherwise than that the Devil is the source and Fountain of such bitter Streams and those that are possessed with it if their Reason or Serious Thoughts would give leave to make a true Judgment would agree Some hold that Women are more prone to it than Men by Reason of the weakness of their Sex and by a Modern Poet it is thus further described Pale Jealousie brat of insatiate Love Of Heart-sick Thoughts which Melancholly breed A Hell tormenting fear no Faith can move By discontent with deadly Poison fed With beedless Youth and Error vainly led To rout the Pleasures of a Marriage-bed A Mortal Plague a Virtue-drowning flood A Hellish fire that drinks our vital Blood Strange it is to observe with any Seriouness that an old Man marrying a Young Woman immediately grows Jealous suspecting his Wives Virtue this makes him rave and grow Mad without a Cause he fancies his Antlers shaddow his Brows and hinder the light of the Sun from shining on his Face as it was wont If she chances to cast her Eye on any one more comely than himself he concludes that an Assignation is made by the Language of
no more Octavia she was Daughter to Octavius and the Emperor Augustus's Sister she was first Married to Marcellus and then Mark Anthony she had divers Children that came to be great Men and was admired by the Romans for her Virtue and Prudence so that her Brother Dedicated a Temple and Porticoes to her in Rome as we find it Recorded by Dion Octavia Daughter to Claudius and Messalina was Wife to Nero the Emperor of Rome who without any apparent Cause Divorced her and having Poisoned her Brother Britanicus he caused her to be put to Death Oenoe a Beautiful Nymph that resorted Mount Ida where when Paris was Shepherd she fell in love with him but he coming afterwards to know that he was Son to King Priam of Troy slighted her for Hellen of Greece yet she continued her Love towards him and bewailed her self in the Mountain for being so Deserted but when Paris was slain by the Greeks and his dead Body sent to her to be buried thinking thereby to comfort her her love was so extream that as soon as she saw it she fell upon it and Died of Grief Orgiva or Orgina Wife of Charles the third King of France and Daughter to King Edward the first before the Conquest of the Normans a very learned and virtuous Lady Orbona a Goddess of the Ancients held to take care of Orphans and Children in Distress she was Worshiped by the Romans that they might not be afflicted in their Widowhood or in the loss of their Children her name is derived from the word Orbus denoting any one that has lost Father or Children c. Her Altar was near to that of the Lares in the City of Rome Ordeal an old Saxon way of trying of Women that were suspected to be unchast yet no proof against them they laid nine hot bars of Iron about a yard asunder and the party suspected being blindfolded was to pass over them the which if she did without touching any of them she was accounted Innocent but if otherways then guilty and Sentenced by the Laws which in those times were Death in case of Adultery Orithia Queen of the Amazons who was Queen after Marpesia and did wonders in â—eats of Arms in all Battles she fought especially against the Greeks who invaded her Territories to her succeeded Penthesila who with her Female Troop signalized her noble Bravery at the Siege of Troy Orithya Daughter Ezichtheus an Athenian King said to â—e Ravished by one of the Gods of the Wind and by him conceive Lethis and Calais Obedient Wives If their Husbands be pleasant they rejoyce in his pleasure If he suffer in any evertuâ—â— which he neither expected nor his actions deserved they bear a part in his Lachrymâ— Husbands to such Wives are made happy in their choice and have good cause never to wish a change Por they may consort with those they affected without fearing of being call'd to an Evening account If their days expence should chance to be too immoderate they need fear no fingers but their own to dive into their Pockets or to make privy search for more than can be found These need not fear to receive discipline for their laist nights error Or to wear their night-Caps after the oâ—â— fashion with both their Ears through them These can play the merry Mates with their Wives and never laugh till their hearts ake If they come home late tho sooner were better they are entertain'd with a chearful Welcome They find no Pouts in their Dish nor amongst all their necessary utensils one Chasing-dish Out of this precious Mine was surely that good Burgomasters Wife cut out who ever met her Husband at the Portel with a gentle word in her Mouth a sweet smile on her lip a merry look on her cherry cheeke a pair of slippers in one hand and in the other a rubber not at cuffs but a Towel to rub him after his Travel whereas the old beldam Tbestylis would have exchang'd that rubber with an halter if she might have had her will rather than be bound to such a Task And to such a one without all doubt was â—o matched who in a pensive plight all full of discontent published to the World from whence he desired a speedy dismission his hard Fortune in this Bridal Brâ—wl Married whereto to distast Bedded where all grief is plae't Clothed how with Womans shame Branded how with loss of Name How wretchlese is that Man that is disgrast With loss of Name shame grief and all distast Imprison'd h ow to womans Will Ingag'd to what is ill Restrain'd by whom by jealous fear Inthral'd to whom suspicions care How hapless is that wretch that must fulfil A false Suspicious jealous womans will Taxed for what for modest mirth Exposed how a Stale on Earth Surpriz'd with what with discontent Profess'd as how times penitent How can that forlorn Soul take joy on Earth Where Discontent and Penance is his Mirth Threatned how as he're was no man Fool'd by whom a foolish woman Slav'd to what to causeless pleen Sprite-affrighted when I dream How should th' Infernal Priâ—â—e more Furies summâ—n Than lodge in such a spleenful Spiteful Woman Cheered most when least at home Planted where â—'th Torrid Zone Chased how with oyle of tongue Hardned how by suffering wrong How wretched in his Fate who is become Contented most when he is least at home Vrged most when she is near Vsher'd how with fruitless fear Shielded when when I do flye Cur'd with what with hope to dye How cureless doth that cure to sense appear Whose Hope is Death whose Life is fruitless fear Old mans notions of Love I would not says the Old Men be to run through the miseries of life again for a great sum for when I come toward Man the Women will have me as sure as a Gun for to catch Woodcocks and if ever I come to set eye upon a Lass that understands Dress and Raillerly I 'm gone if there were no more Lads in Christendom but for my part I am as sick as a Dog of Powdering Curling and Playing the lady Bird I would not for all the World be in the Shoomakers Stocks and Choak my self 〈◊〉 again in a straight Dublet only to have the Ladies say Look what a delicate shape and foot that Gentleman has and I would take as little pleasure to spend six hours of the four and twenty in picking Gray Hairs out of my Head or Beard or turning white into black to slâ—â—d half ravisht in the Contemplation of my own shadow â—o Dress fine and to go to Church only to see handsome Ladies to correct the midnight air with Ardent Sighs and Ejaculations and to keep company with Owls and Bats like a bird of evil Omen to walk the round of a Mistresses Lodgings and play at bo-peep at the corner of every street to Adore her Imperfections or as the Song says for her ugliness and for her want of Coin to make bracelets for her locks
keepers or Companions 〈◊〉 what the Ladies they serve are pleased to term them and therefore to their Subordinates they must be courteous and gentle mildly reproving their â—â—iling and miscarriages and â—â—â—cting them with softness 〈◊〉 good Temper to amend what is amiss by which means they will gain an entire Empire over their good wills and affections and readily oblige them to do all the good Offices they 〈◊〉 capable of performing by 〈◊〉 of gratitude and acknowledgment and render them 〈◊〉 their servants than theirs â—â—y are reputed to serve and 〈◊〉 consider themselves in as â—â—ppy an Estate as ever But â—â—â—ing from these we come to those of a lower degree who have not so much understanding of what is required in their stations For she that has been a Mistriss of Servants if any thing discreet must needs know how to order and govern her self when she comes to be so but she that never was must be more to seek Such as enter upon this Undertaking must be very neat and handy Especially in Families of Quality She must above all others be sure to have the art of dressing well that she may be assisting to the Waiting Woman if Necessity requires her attendance also the fine Linen especially should pass through her hands and she must be Curious in Laundry Affairs especially in ordering them and seeing there be nothing done amiss or incommodious The beds must be kept neat and all things about them done in time and order that nothing be found indecent if any one should surprisingly enter the Chambers or Dormitory Night Linen must be carefully prepared and laid in order and every thing necessary asigned to its proper place that there may be no disorder upon any sudden inquiry she must be modest in her deportment and ready with her attendance on all occasions not replying again if any reproof be given or if she do's it must be with mildness and pacifick Language to appease anger and being justly reproved she must take care to prevent it another time by amending the failing in her greater diligence she must not be Loquacitous and above all avoid complainings of her fellow Servants unless some extraordinary Cause require but rather admonish them to be more diligent in their several stations she must be no tale bearer for that will stir up envy against her and undermine her foundation Backbiters especially are dispised and held in contempt by those that seem to give ear to their reports as well knowing those that are given to such kind of slander will not spare their best and nearest friends she must not be Ignorant of needdle work and other curious matters that at Leisure times will give her a double advantage viz. Gain her a repute of being Industrious and Ingenious and prove a pleasing recreation to her nor must her skill be less in raising paist seasoning making sauces spoon meats Pickling Garnishing preserving candying distilling for though they are not all properly her business yet her helping hand may be required many timeâ— in assisting and then her appearing Ignorant will much lessen her value and Esteem amongst those she would have reputed inferior to her Market affairs must be no stranger to her and if at any time they are committed to her charge she must be skillful in chusing and frugal as much as in her lies in laying out the mony she is intrusted withal and so will her Reputation arise perhaps to the gaining her as happy Fortune for men conclude that she who has been industrious for others will doubtless be the same for her self and her Family Servants that are entertain'd in this station though by some it is accounted an inferior Office have nevertheless a great charge and care upon them especially in houses of Note or Resort for that which is delicate and pleasing to the Pallate and nourishing to the body pâ—â—â— mostly through her hands She must be well skill'd not only in buying and dressing all manner of Flesh Fish and Fowl with other matters for the compleat furnishing out a Table but also in Knowing the Times when they are choiâ—â— and rare and best in season for to bring any thing out of order seems to some curious persons to be an affront orâ—â—â— least it reflects upon the Ignorance of the Family for Knowing no better or Giving their Caterer no better Dâ—â—â—ctions All manner of baâ—â— meats and all kind of Sawces are under her care and 〈◊〉 must be understanding 〈◊〉 Knowing what Sawces are mâ—â—â— proper for things and seasons Guâ—ishing is her Province â—â—d all manner of Pickles she â—â—â—t have in a readiness propâ—â—ly of her own providing â—â—d she must see the Dishes â—â—e not served up the wrong Eâ—d foremoâ—t or irregularly placed on the Table and what 〈◊〉 returned if it be expected again at supper she must sâ—e carefully set up and â—râ—â—red 〈◊〉 the best advantage not â—â—â—ishing and sqâ—anâ—â—râ—ng away what may be â—râ—gâ—ly sâ—ved â—â—â—ping every thing nâ—aâ— â—â—ean and in order in hâ—r â—â—fice for clâ—anlâ—nâ—ss is her â—â—iefâ—st commâ—ndation she â—â—â—s the hours of mâ—â—lâ—â—xactly 〈◊〉 and haâ—h â—â—â—ry â—hiâ—g in a readyness uâ—less â—râ—â—r 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 to sâ—â—ve up â—â—â—â—â—r or â—or a longer delâ—â— in her apâ—â—â—l she may go nâ—â—t and Gâ—â—â—eâ—l but nâ—t â—â—â—dy and â—â—â—â—ving for that is as 〈◊〉 uâ— as if she haâ—g â—â—r dâ—iâ—ing pâ—n â—pon hâ—r back aâ—d wâ—re â—â—r â—â—â—â—le upon hâ—r hâ—â—d fâ—r a â—â—mmodâ— and so bâ— hâ—r â—â—â—l â—â—dering â—â—â—â—rs â—â—â—â—â—rs sâ—e 〈◊〉 come oâ—e dâ—â— to cook 〈◊〉 â—er own Kiâ—câ—â—n and enâ—oy her recompâ—nce of her Labouâ—s Service in this kind is but little more than washing well 〈◊〉 taking care the Linen 〈◊〉 well drâ—ed Ironed and 〈◊〉 up carefully from Mildews â—â—oâ—-molds or the liâ—e she 〈◊〉 however be knowing in â—â—â—â—ing aâ—d stâ—rching Lace Sarsnets Tiffâ—nies and making Perfumes and such sweets as give Cloaths a good scenâ— mending things where they are amiss and having all things ready at hand to deliver up to those that are to take the next charge of them Since there are Ladies in the Countrey as well as Court we must make a â—â—â—p to look â— little into â—â—râ— where we expect to 〈◊〉 the Churms Pans Traâ—s â—owls and other matters all in â—â—od order by the Huâ—isâ—â— care of the neâ—t â—aâ—yâ—â—aâ—d Clâ—anlinâ—ss being her chieâ— Province fâ—r all the â—â—â—â—ness â—e câ—n find she hâ—s 〈◊〉 iâ— only to churâ— and wâ—ll â—rder her Buttâ—r â—uâ— Runner into the Milk and prâ—sâ— the Curâ—s into Cheese and whâ—n the Young Ladies and their Spâ—râ—s come â—o visit hâ—r out Mansion to have a Bowl of Curds and Cream at their service or things in order to the mâ—â—ing a Sulliâ—uâ— for which they drop hâ—r half a Crown and go their ways and with them we march off too and take our Leave of her As for the Hâ—uâ—e maids under Câ—â—k maids and Scullâ—â—y maids we Know little Business they have to do but sâ—â—â—p Houâ—es and scowr Dishes and therefore it is